CREATIVE FINANCING FOR YOUR DIVORCE

Often times, and for good reason, clients have concerns about how they are going to pay for their divorce. If the case is simple, it may just be a matter of paying their attorney fees. But if it is more complicated, it could involve substantial expert fees as well. These concerns are increased exponentially if the client is the dependent spouse, who does not work outside the home and does not have access to funds. Then a concern about meeting day to day living expenses may arise as well. 

While a party to a divorce in Pennsylvania can request interim counsel fees as part of equitable distribution, they are not often granted. So what is a person in the middle of a divorce to do?

Brendan Lyle, an entrepreneur from Austalia, started a business in New York City to help people going through a divorce pay their counsel, their experts and other expenses. In a recent article on Mr. Lyle in the Wall Street Journal, Anne Kadet writes:

Mr. Lyle's company fronted the legal fees and got paid when the settlements rolled in. . . . So far, he's loaned cash to 25 divorcees in amounts ranging from $20,000 to $700,000, with the typical loan averaging $260,000. Clients use the money to cover the costs of lawyers, forensic accountants and living expenses. Can you imagine borrowing that much to get divorced? It could be worse. Mr. Lyle's biggest case was back in Australia, where a client borrowed $500,000 to pay her divorce lawyers, plus another $300,000 for her criminal defense. She was up on attempted murder charges for trying to stab her husband with a butter knife.

While a loan from Mr. Lyle may not be for everyone (in fact, most), it is an interesting solution to a frequent problem. Much more often, however, we see parties taking loans from family members or friends or paying their expenses on credit cards until their divorce is finalized. Clients can also consider advancing money from a home equity line of credit or other funds from the marital estate to pay for a divorce. Additionally, parties in the midst of a divorce can explore borrowing against a non-retirement portfolio, using the investments -- stocks, bonds, mutual funds -- as collateral. Regardless of the path chosen, there are creative ways to finance a divorce out there. 

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BREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO: A GUIDE FOR FRIENDS AND FAMILY

The immediate prompt for this brief article is the report on February 23, 2013 that Tiger Woods and his ex -wife Elin Nordegren were spotted at an event where they spoke together not for 30 seconds but 30 minutes.  In one sense this is not newsworthy at all but during the week, I had a spate of cases where I know the parents or friends and family of recently separated couples and where the parents/friends/family always knew that this marriage could not last and/or the couple never belonged together or he/she changed and is now unworthy of the friend or family member. This happens every day but when it happens to friends and family we want to rush to support the person we are closest to with words of support.

Express those views with caution or at your peril. Yes, you never did like his wife or her husband.  Yes, you saw all of the failings and frailties that your friend or loved one could not see; blinded by good looks or charm or in too many case: “none of the above”.  But when your friend finally screws up the courage to end the relationship or move in that direction, be aware that today, the rules are different.

Separation and divorce are never easy.  As folks who see this everyday, we recognize that a failed relationship is a difficult thing to face.  But in many cases, “history” or “children” or whatever mean that there is a wide gulf between separation and divorce. Friends and family who step into that breach with their views do so at their peril as couples often second guess themselves today and decide to reconcile.  If that occurs, your candor in expressing your views about the spouse is the only things that is left and sometimes that means loss of a friendship or relationship that you treasure.

If your friend or family member comes to confide in you that he or she needs to end their relationship with a spouse, be supportive.  But do so knowing that many marriages irretrievably broken on Monday are back together in some bizarre way by Thursday and that too much vocal support at your end could end up costing you an important friendship.

4 THINGS NOT TO PUT IN YOUR ONLINE DATING PROFILE DURING A DIVORCE

While reading a press release by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers this afternoon, I realized individuals in the midst of a divorce regularly receive warnings about what is acceptable and safe to post on Facebook and what might get them in trouble. They also receive advice from their counsel about when it is appropriate to start dating again and when, for strategic reasons in a divorce or custody case, it might be best to wait. But what about when the two collide and people in the middle of a divorce put a profile on an online dating site? Here are five things I hope my clients never put on their online dating profiles:

1.             Pictures of your kids: While your children are undoubtedly adorable, your spouse (or ex-spouse) will have a field day in a custody case with the family photographs you put on your dating profile. Your decision to upload a picture of you with your child from last Christmas may have been completely innocent, but the other parent can easily turn it around on you, claiming you are using your children to find dates or exposing your children to internet predators.

 

2.             A claim you don’t have kids (when you do): The exact opposite of putting pictures of your children on your profile, if you have kids, don’t claim you are childless on your dating profile. Immediately, the other parent will claim you must not love your children if you won’t tell anyone about them.

 

3.             Anything about your income: If you are in the middle of litigating your income in a divorce or support case, and claiming in court that you make less than $50,000 a year, stating on your online dating profile that you make more than $200,000 per year might not be the wisest move. While it might attract people that otherwise wouldn’t respond to your profile, you will pay for it dearly in court.

 

4.             Stating you are divorced, or single (when you aren’t): Often times in a divorce or support matter, the date you separated from your spouse is very important. If you posted that you are single on your dating profile, weeks or months before you spouse knew your marriage was over, you may have set your date of separation unintentionally. You may have also admitted infidelity (or at least an attempt at infidelity) prior to your official date of separation, which may preclude you from collecting spousal support. To be safe, I wouldn’t put up a profile on a dating site at all until you are definitely separated. 

MINING THE DATA ON MARRIAGE, DIVORCE AND BIRTHS

As we all know sometimes statistics tell a story.  And as we look at the evolving American family the data coming out of Pennsylvania tell an interesting story as the family has evolved over 50 years.  The chart will tell most of the story:

Year

PA Population

No. of Marriages

No. of Divorces

No. of Births

         

1960

11,319,000

71,835

14,429

241,100

1970

11,794,000

94,516

22,622

192,154

1980

11,864,000

93,673

34,922

158,670

1990

11,882,000

84,925

39,971

171,532

2000

12,281,000

74,311*

38,479*

145,874

2010

12,702,000

67,950

34,899

142,000

* This data comes from 2002 as the Pa. Dept of Health states it did not preserve data from 1999-2001 on these topics.

 

Some points we find interesting.  First the state’s population has actually started to experience some growth in the past 20 years after a generation of stagnation. But while the population had grown 11% over half a century the number of marriages has remained fairly static after peaking in 1970.  The number of divorces rose precipitously from 11-14,000 per annum in the 1950s to 22,622 in 1970.  By 1979 it almost doubled again to 39,808.  But since, 2002 it appears to have actually declined by a few percentage points.  The birth rate has plummeted 40% since 1960. In 1960 there was a child born for every 47 residents.  Today one child is born for every 89 residents.  So families are smaller and fewer folks are choosing the formalities of marriage.  But while the population has grown 3.4% in the first decade of the 21st century, the number of divorces actually declined by almost 10%. It does give one pause to ask: what is the future of marriage where over 40 years the population grew by 7% but the number of marriages performed fell during the same time frame by 28%?

NJ Family Law Blog - Bad Faith Negotiating Needs to Stop

Eric Solotoff, a partner in our Roseland, New Jersey office and editor of our New Jersey Family Law Blog recently posted a blog entry on bad faith negotiating and its detrimental effect on settling cases. Eric's point is well taken: there are times in family law cases when people lose sight of their goals and try to land a (proverbial) shot on the other person. Empty demands, veiled threats, and open hostility become the rules of the game rather than honest discussions on finding a resolution and that rarely leads to a satisfying outcome for either side or their counsel.

Cases Citing Recent Decision as to When Lawsuit Proceeds Are Marital Begin to Roll In

Advice to Married Couples Works for Divorcing Couples, Too

The Wall Street Journal recently ran an online and print article by Elizabeth Bernstein discussing a study which identified the five main reasons why people get divorced. The article and study look to divorced people to develop the common themes of their unsuccessful marriages.

While the article is designed to offer tips on how couples can stay together, I also found a few of the points instructive to individuals on surviving their divorce litigation:

 

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Being Prepared

My friend's husband died just over six months ago, and although it was not unexpected, what was unexpected was the state of the finances after he passed.  He had handled the finances during the parties' marriage, and my friend knew little of the parties' finances.  How much do you know about your family's finances?  Do you know who holds your mortgage, if there is a car payment and when it is due?  Do you know the passwords to your on-line accounts - are there on-line accounts?  Do you know where your important financial records are located?

Now is the time to educate yourself.  Look at your tax returns, bank, brokerage and credit card statements, safety deposit boxes, and other important financial documents to get a general understanding of your finances.  Talk to your spouse about the bills, and perhaps offer to help.  

A great way to consolidate your financial holdings is through mint.com.  It's free, and you can even set up a budget for yourself.  You can upload all of your accounts to mint.com, and it will update your accounts every time that you log on.  It will also keep track of big purchases and let you know when you are over your budget. 

Not only are current financials important, but make sure that your estate planning is done, as well.  If it was done a long time ago, take the time to review it with your spouse and/or estate attorney and make any updates that might be needed.

It is important to be aware of your finances in the event that you and your spouse separate and/or divorce.  Knowing your state of financial affairs will make a difficult situation easier and help you make the transition into independently managing your personal finances and estate.

 

The Gray Divorce Revolution

I recently read an article, 'Gray Divorce':  Over 50, and Splitting Up, (www.npr.org/2012/03/08/148235385/gray-divorce-over-50-and-splitting-up) about the doubling of the divorce rate among those over 50 in the past 20 years while the American rate of divorce among other age classifications has declined.  What is the reason for the increase in the rate of divorce of those over 50 and what can be do to prevent it? 

The two sociologists who have researched this issue claim the economy, history of relationships, and the role of women and men in general have contributed to the increased divorce rate in those over 50.  Two more factors include the fact that remarriages are more likely to end in divorce and the fact that divorce has become more accepted in the United States.  Further, the institution of marriage as a lifelong norm has been weakened - and people seek fulfillment through their marriages.  If an individual is not finding fulfillment, then they will end their marriage.  Another reason that was noted was that people tend to grow apart over time and they tend to drift apart, and then decide to divorce because "they are just too different."

So, what can be done, if anything, to prevent a divorce at any age?  I am certainly not a psychologist or sociologist, but in my personal and professional experience, there certainly has to be a commitment from both parties, a lack of selfishness, and an effort to work on your marriage each day by spending time together and supporting each other.  It takes a lot to make a marriage work, and only those in the marriage know if it is worth it to them to continue in the marriage. 

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SMART MONEY WRITES ABOUT 10 DIVORCE THINGS LAWYERS WON'T DISCUSS; SO WE DO.

 The Wall Street Journal’s Smart Money on line edition featured an article about how to manage the divorce process.  It is both short and well written as it captures many of the issues that concern both lawyers and clients but often seem overlooked in terms of actual discussion.

1.             It’s costs more than you think.

 

This discussion addresses the part of the legal profession that offers fixed fee representation.  If you have been married just a couple years, have no money and no kids, these quickie services may produce a satisfactory result.  But if you have assets of any kind or any kind of dispute about your kids, go meet with someone who claims to specialize in divorce work just to make certain that nothing is left on the table.  For example, clients typically assume that they have no right to their spouse’s retirement. That’s not the case.

 

2.             Lots of divorce lawyers get sued.

 

Perhaps true.  There are bad apples in the bunch; both corrupt and merely negligent.  But if you sense that you are not getting the representation you deserve, go get a second opinion. There is a high dissatisfaction rate in this business but a lot of that has to do with unrealistic expectations on the part of the client.  Today we had a client tell us he would rather give all his money to us than any to his spouse.  That client is a ticket to a big fee and equally grand unhappiness when he finds out the system does not work that way.

 

3.             The less you know about your own finances, the more the divorce will cost.

 

Amen.  It is not uncommon to have clients who cannot explain their paystub let alone their 401(k) loan.  The level of financial knowledge that exists even among well educated people is pretty frightening.  You are paying lawyers to educate themselves about your finances. How does that make sense?  Clients also seem to love the idea of hiring “forensic accountants” to ferret out “hidden assets”.  This can be a useful enterprise but unless the client knows where to point the accountant, you are telling the dog to hunt without any scent of where to go.  That’s an expensive way to look for something.

 

4.             Promises, promises.

 

The article discuss lawyers who promise more than they can deliver.  Our view is even stronger.  Anyone who promises you anything in the world of litigation is probably leading you on.  Lawyers, at their best provide judgment and experience.  Life has no guarantees. The article references someone who paid their lawyer $70,000 and “got nothing to show for it.” That’s a loaded comment. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. A certain prominent South Carolina trial attorney and former vice-presidential candidate just completed a trial where he probably spent $500,000 to $1,000,000 on his defense. He could say that he got nothing for his money because he was innocent anyway. Well, my friends, he could always have kept his budget thin and defended himself.

 

5.             Get someone with experience.

 

This is just No. 1 repeated. Buy as much lawyer as you need. If you have a house and a pension you don’t need Clarence Darrow.  But if you manage a hedge fund or your home is located over top of a natural gas deposit, don’t believe that any lawyer will do. Ask questions about how these assets get valued and divided in divorce.  If you get an unclear answer, it’s time to move on to a better lawyer.

 

6.             Prepare for plummeting income.

 

In our spend now, save later society, we have seen a sea change in the past five years. Professionals and other well educated folks are finding themselves without work for months or years at a time.  Others are taking jobs that pay 30-40% less than before.  This is sad but this is also capitalism.  You can no longer assume you can make it up later. We were all raised in a world where cost of living and a raise came to be the expected minimum.  This is a Brave, New World. Be prepared.

 

7.             Cry elsewhere.

 

                This is sage advice to a point.  Lawyers have no psychological training and charge 2-3x what a mental health professional does. But, lawyers also deal with folks going through this process every day and typically will have a feel for where you are in that process emotionally.  Psychologists often permit themselves to become pseudo-friends for their patients, a state that is unhealthy at best and destructive at worst.  At their low point, they will tell a patient to call their lawyer and tell the lawyer the patient needs more alimony or some other benefit.  That’s when the lawyer wants to call the shrink and tell them; look I need a new car and a date with Bridget Bardot.  Can you help me?  Be wary of lawyers who want to be your psychologist and just as wary of psychologists who think they can give legal advice.

 

8.             Lawyers may be unnecessary.

 

                True.  So are car mechanics, accountants and window washers.  In the end, we can do almost anything by ourselves.  The question is: is that smart? Divorce is a transaction that has deep and permanent effects on your family and your money.  If family and money don’t matter to you, perhaps you should save money and do it yourself.  But we met with a prospective client this week who put it best: “I’m here because I watched my business partner lowball her legal expenses in her own divorce. We’re breaking up our business but she will continue to pay her ex for years because never got any representation.” Too much lawyer may be a waste.  Too little lawyer is a disaster.

 

9.             The inattentive lawyer.

 

                There is one lawyer for every 265 Americans, the highest lawyer to population ratio in the world.  If your lawyer has no time for you go meet with that person; express your unhappiness and, if it happens a second time, move on.  Just be aware of a couple things when you do.  The transition is going to cost you a fair amount of money while the next lawyer learns what the first lawyer was busy forgetting.  Second, don’t expect instant lawyer. Any lawyer with a busy practice is fielding 100 or more emails a day in addition to court time, prep time, phone time and, yes, actual meeting with the client time.  An unreturned email or call is an oversight, not an insult.  But when a pattern emerges or your lawyer starts bullying you, get that second opinion.  Don’t ever fire a lawyer until you have a substitute lined up.

 

10.          Foot dragging.

 

                The Smart Money article focuses on lawyers dragging out litigation to earn more fees.  It does happen and that’s wrong.  But just as common, if not more so, is the new phenomenon we shall call client dragging.  We have divorces going on for years in situations where the clients are telling us there is no hurry.  We have other clients who come into meeting professing to want things resolved but then devoting no energy to collection and exchanging the data required to make the process work.  We will see folks who came into investigate their rights when their kids are in elementary school only to return with the kids now in high school.  The reasons are as varied as the client.  But a common theme is that people own and owe to lots of different things.  When they are asked to compile and digest all of that data, they can become depressed and weary of doing anything.  Realize that old data is typically useless data and the longer the case languishes the more expensive it becomes.

Strengthening Families in the Time of Crisis

I recently read an article by Stephen R. Covey (www.stephencovey.com/blog/?tag=the-7-habits-of-highly-effective-families) about the stress on families during these difficult economic times. Losing your job is a blow - to your finances and your self esteem - which inevitably has an impact on your relationship with your spouse and your kids. Covey counsels people to remember the people who are most important in their lives and what matters to them most. He recommends three things:

1. Write a family mission statement to identify what kind of family you want to be. He suggests getting your family involved in this process. This will help your family have goals and work towards maintaining those goals.

2. Hold weekly family meetings - gather your family once a week to talk about issues, problems, or good things in your family. My family meets every Monday night for what is specifically family night at our house, and although my kids are only two, it makes a big difference in our home. We jokingly ask our two-year olds if they have any business they need to raise, but seriously it is a good opportunity for my husband and I to discuss the week's schedule and any concerns we may need to raise.

3. Remember the emotional bank account - remember to make meaningful "deposits" into your relationships. Covey emphasizes by doing these things that you will take control of your situation rather than it taking control of you.

I would like to add a 4th suggestion - have fun with your family. You may think that you don't have the finances to do the things that you used to do, but look for free or low-cost things to do, such as a picnic at the park or a day at the beach.

Living in tough economic circumstances doesn't have to weaken your family relationships. Take the time to make sure you remember what's important, and let your family members know that you know what's important by how you treat them.

 

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New York Strikes Down Defense of Marriage Act, Too

The Defense of Marriage Act continues to be found unconstitutional in various jurisdictions across the country. Most recently, the Southern District of New York held it to be unconstitutional for discriminating against married same-sex couples. In Windsor v. USA, the issue was the assessment of $363,000.00 in estate taxes to Ms. Windsor from the estate of her spouse whom she legally married in May 2007. Because the DOMA would not recognize the marriage, the transfer of property was not viewed as between spouses and thus exempt wholly or in part from Federal estate taxes. An excellent summary of the case written by New York Law Journal report Mark Hamblett was published in the June 7th edition of the Legal Intelligencer.

This decision comes on the heels of last month’s First Circuit Court of Appeals in Massachusetts ruling on Section 3 of the DOMA and continues the successful attacks on the constitutionality of the 1996 law.

Superior Court Upholds Distribution of Pre-Embryos in Equitable Distribution Case

The Pennsylvania Superior Court recently decided its first case addressing the allocation of frozen pre-embryos between divorcing spouses. The pre-embryos were created as part of the parties’ in vitro fertilization process shortly after wife was diagnosed with breast cancer and would likely be unable to reproduce after treatment. The appeal was brought by the husband from the trial court’s decision to award wife the thirteen (13) pre-embryos in equitable distribution. The parties in Reber v. Reiss (2012 PA Super 86; 2012 WL 1202039 (Pa.Super.))

 

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Study Indicates that Divorce Adversely Affects Childhood Development

A study conducted by the University of Chicago and Georgetown University revealed that children whose parents divorce when they are between three and five years old are more likely to have to behavior problems than older children, such as middle school or adolescent children.

That divorce has an adverse impact on child development should come as a surprise to no one; considering the emotional and daily routine disruption of moving from a two parent household to a single parent household, there undoubtedly be a lasting impression left on a young child.

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Cohabitation Does Not Always Lead to Happy Marriages

Advising individuals as to how to handle their cohabitation with a significant other is becoming an increasingly important aspect of my practice. There are many studies, theories, and myths as to the impact (positive or negative) on whether cohabitating before marriage is beneficial or detrimental to a marriage. A recent New York Times article addresses this very issue and finds that the results from a study by the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia indicate that those who cohabit are less satisfied with their marriages.

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ARE PERSONAL INJURY CLAIMS MARITAL PROPERTY? AN OLD QUESTION REVISITED?

In a case decided late last year the Pennsylvania Supreme Court visited an old and persistently nagging question.  Are personal injury settlements marital property where the injury occurred before separation but the trial or settlement of the claim occurred afterward?

In Focht v. Focht, the husband was injured at a raceway in Leesport, PA in April, 1999.  He and his wife retained counsel shortly after the injury with the wife raising a claim for loss of the consortium of her husband (i.e, his services as a spouse).  A divorce action was initiated in early 2004.  The personal injury cases ultimately settled later that year for a gross value just over $400,000.

 

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CASE SCHILLER BRINGS BAD NEWS FOR HOMEOWNERS

The 2011 numbers are in an homes in America lost another 4% of their value last year. Add the rate of inflation for 2011 to that and the number comes to 7.16%. If you are settling your divorce premised upon a recovery of housing prices it would appear that despite a horrid second and third quarter, equities was the place to be last year.

The Case Schiller data do not look specifically at Pennsylvania housing prices. But if you want to feel good try looking at the data reflecting how far markets have fallen from their peak. From worst to best:

 

Vegas                                   60+ percent decline in value

Phoenix                                55+

Miami                                    50

Detroit & Tampa                    46%

San Diego & San Francisco       40%

Atlanta, Chicago, Minneapolis, Seattle     34-35%

New York & Washington DC      25%

Charlotte                                        20%

Boston & Denver                      12-14%

Dallas                                             10

 

Lawyers are not economists.  But the concern about future home prices has a demographic dimension.  Young people graduating from school and entering the employment market are doing so with an unprecedented level of debt.  That debt is going to impact their ability to afford housing for many years to come. Our history since 1950 has been for a new generation of affluent young people to “buy” their parents generation out of larger and larger homes.  Those days may be behind us.

Insurance

I recently met with a financial planner who commented to me that something divorcing parties neglect to handle is their insurance - whether it's car, life, homeowners, or health insurance.  I then read this article that summarizes some of the key issues surrounding insurance in the event of a divorce/separation, so I thought I would share it to make sure we don't neglect the insurance issues:

http://money.msn.com/saving-money-tips/post.aspx?post=130c1f52-5797-451a-9f77-b5dfe1fd6e72

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Social Media Follow-Up

Here's an interesting article that follows up my recent blog on Facebook:

http://allthingsd.com/20120208/you-know-who-really-loves-smartphones-divorce-lawyers/

Alone During the Holidays?

I recently read an article about "navigating" through the holidays when you are newly divorced.

I think it should extend to those who are newly separated as well.  The holidays are a difficult time when you are newly separated.  The emotions are fresh, and you might not have worked out the nuisances of the holiday custody schedule.  And it's an adjustment from "sharing" a holiday together to "sharing" a holiday apart.  I think that the article does a great job of suggesting things that will help you through the holiday season - particularly being flexible, thinking about the other party, having a good attitude and providing service to those in need.  Although it is a difficult time, it is good to put it in perspective.  It will help you get through the holidays more easily, and it will be better on your children as well.

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Sanity During a Divorce? It's Possible!

Going through a divorce is such a difficult time, and it is such an emotional time.  A lot of people wonder if it is possible to go through a divorce and maintain yourself as a rational and reasonable person.  I will tell you that it is tough - but it is possible, and it will likely take some adjustments on your part.  I recently read an article that offers some great tips for both the initiating and non-initiating spouse: 

10 Tips for a Sane Divorce: Five for You, Five for Me

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/micki-mcwade/10-tips-for-a-sane-divorc_b_1102419.html?ref=divorce&ncid=edlinkusaolp00000008

 

 

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Pre-Nups

              Pre-Nuptial Agreements are a hot button for engaged couples, but they can be a great way to minimize risk, exposure, and litigation in the event of a divorce or death of one of the parties. You may want to consider a Pre-Nuptial Agreement if it is a second marriage for at least one of the spouses and there are children of one or both people who will inherit instead of the spouse; if there is an existing business to be kept out of the marriage; or  if the parties about to marry do not want to share their assets or the increases in value of those assets after they marry.  Without a Pre-Nuptial Agreement, pre-marital assets are valued by the increase value from the date of marriage to the date of separation or distribution (whichever results in the lesser increase). However, with a Pre-Nuptial Agreement, parties can agree that separate assets do not become part of the marital estate. In addition, parties can also determine how assets in joint names will be divided in the event of divorce or death. The parties can also negotiate temporary support and alimony in the event of a separation/divorce. 

A well-written Pre-Nuptial Agreement will provide a clear road map in the event of a divorce or death of a party, and hopefully minimize the inevitable stress associated with either occurrence.

Counseling after a Divorce Complaint is Filed

Earlier this year, Liz Mandarano, a family law attorney and columnist for the Huffington Post (www.huffingtonpost.com) reported on the introduction of state legislative bills in Nebraska and Wyoming which would make pre-divorce marriage counseling mandatory in their respective states. The bills, in essence, require a divorcing couple to make an attempt at reconcililation before they could proceed with a divorce, especially in instances where children are involved. The Wyoming bill went a little further in requiring pre-marital counseling unless the coupled wanted to wait a year before they could marry.

Incidentally, Pennsylvania law has a counseling provision as well, but it is surprisingly easy to overlook, despite it being front and center on divorce complaints. The often glossed over language is contained in the notice section of every divorce complaint filed in Pennsylvania. This language – often all capitalized to emphasize importance – states that, “[when] the ground for divorce is indignities or irretrievable breakdown of the marriage, you may request marriage counseling. A list of marriage counselors is available in the Family Court Office, [County Courthouse], Pennsylvania.” The notice is required under the Pennsylvania Rule of Civil Procedure 1920.45; 23 Pa.C.S.A. § 3302 lists the grounds upon which a request for counseling can be made: indignities (Section 3301(a)(6)); irretrievable breakdown by mutual consent (Section 3301(c)); irretrievable breakdown by two years of separation (Section 3301(d); and “where the Court determines that there is a reasonable prospect of reconciliation.”

 

Pennsylvania’s statute allows for counseling upon the request of a party, but may also require it where “the parties have at least one child under 16 years of age.” See, Section 3302(c). Like most statutes, case law has shaped the interpretation of the law and a 2003 Superior Court case found that “the trial court was not required by statute to order marriage counseling requested by husband as a prerequisite to granting divorce; parties had no children and the trial court found no chance for reconciliation in the marriage. Rich v. Acrivos, 815 A.2d 1106 (Pa.Super. 2003).

 

Many times people are served with divorce complaints and, even when they know to expect it, can be overwhelmed by the language and contents; they may not even be aware that the option for counseling exists. Unfortunately, by the time a divorce complaint is filed a couple may be beyond the help of counseling, but reconciliations do happen and people do back away from divorce even after a complaint has been filed.

Britsh Study Connects the Stress of Divorce to Excessive Alcohol Consumption Among Teens

A British think-tank recently published a study on excessive alcohol consumption which found a correlation between the children of divorce and what they defined as “problematic drinking behaviors.”  As reported by James Hall, the Consumer Affairs Editor of The Telegraph, the group, Demos, found that sixteen year olds who had “disengaged parents” and were subjected to the instability and stress of divorce and/or separation were eight times more likely to drink excessively compared to those kids whose parents were engaged in their lives. The results could help shape the alcohol policy of United Kingdom’s Department of Health.

Demos further found that parents who put strict parameters on their children’s lives (“tough love”) made a major difference in a variety of outcomes for the children, including how they handled and addressed their consumption of alcohol as teens.

Not surprisingly, but worth reinforcing, was the conclusion that strong support networks (or the absence thereof) had a major impact on how children recovered and prospered after a divorce.  The connection between an individual’s relationship towards alcohol and their home life not surprising and the outcome of the Demos study demonstrates how important it is for parents to set aside their personal problems related to a divorce and create a stable environment for their children.

Being difficult for the sake of being difficult?!

These days, so many of my clients have former spouses or partners with really difficult personalities.  They seem to be being difficult just for the sake of being difficult - or in some effort to get back at their former spouse or partner.  It reaches the level of being ridiculous.  I think it makes all parties exhausted and frustrated (it certainly makes me exhausted!) - and only increases everyone's counsel fees.  Family law issues are tough, and a reasonable perspective by both parties can work wonders. However, if a reasonable perspective is not possible from your former spouse/partner, the right attorney can help guide you through the difficult approach of your former spouse or partner. 

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The Right Fit

Finding the right attorney to help you with your family law issues is vital to helping you through a very difficult time.  You need someone knowledgeable in the law, but also someone that can work with your situation to bring you the best possible outcome.  Here are some things to look for in a family law attorney:

1.  Someone that is responsive.  Most likely you have not been in this situation before (and even if you have), you need an attorney that is accessible to help navigate you through the unknown.  It is good strategy for your case to have your lawyer's input, and it will also provide you with peace of mind during a difficult time. 

2.  Someone that knows your case.  Your attorney should know the specifics of your case, so they can best grasp your individual needs.

3.  Someone that knows local court rules.  Each county has different rules in Pennsylvania, and it is important for your attorney to know how the court handles filings and court proceedings so that you can best prepare.  

4.  Someone that has compassion.  As it is a difficult time, you need an attorney that can relate to your situation and show you the appropriate level of compassion.  I say appropriate level of compassion because you do not want your attorney to become too emotionally involved to the point that it clouds their judgment.  In addition, your attorney should treat you with respect. 

5.  Someone that can work with opposing counsel.  Sometimes this is difficult for clients to understand.  It is important that your attorney can "work" with opposing counsel to avoid unnecessary court appearances and counsel fees.  If counsel can work together, you will be better off in the long run as you will likely not be leaving important decisions in the hands of a third-party.  However, sometimes it is not possible, and if that is a case, you need an attorney who knows how to deal with difficult opposing counsel.

6.  Someone that you feel is a good fit.  If you meet with the potential new attorney, you will likely have a good idea based upon your own personal impression if they are the right attorney for you. 

 

 

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THE MCCOURT DIVORCE; BEING RICH IS NOT WHAT IT USED TO BE.

Today’s headlines feature the news that Major League Baseball has nixed a proposal made by Dodger owner Frank McCourt to use future television revenue to finance both his baseball team and his divorce. There is actually a risk that the Dodgers may default on certain payroll obligations later this month unless McCourt can find a fresh infusion of cash to keep the team’s accounts solvent.  Just a few years ago, this problem would have been unthinkable but most of us don’t realize that many wealthy people have lots of paper assets but never enough ready cash.  That is the McCourt Story.

Ironically, ownership of major league sport’s franchises has rarely been a boon to the owners over the short run.  We are used to the images of these owners appearing in swanky resorts for league meetings and crying that the payroll costs of their teams were causing them to lose money.  But it’s tough to scrounge up much sympathy for folks with sufficient wealth to lay out $200 million or more to own a team populated with lesser millionaires.

 

The money in professional team ownership came not in the profits but in the gains.  It was not uncommon for teams to lose money from year to year.  But banks and other investors freely lent because it was prestigious to do so and because they had the security of knowing that almost no one who ever sold a team lost money. In fact the price of professional teams in established markets seemed to have no limit.  It was into this world that Frank and Jamie McCourt purchased the Dodgers and their stadium for $430,000,000 in 2004. Shortly after that deal was made one of the business arms borrowed $367,000,000 against future ticket sales.  It also appears that the McCourt’s needed some money to keep up appearances so they borrowed $100,000,000 personally against their Dodger holdings.

 

In the old days this was not the problem it has become.  The lenders could have the comfort of thinking that if things got bad, they could bank on a sale of the team for far more than what was paid.  Everyone would be whole and the profit would even be treated as a capital gain rather than ordinary income.

 

But America’s once insatiable appetite for any kind of athletic event has begun to wane.  The driving force for the last half century has been television revenue.  But in recent years even that has shown signs of market saturation.  It is television and radio broadcast rights that make the entire system work and the news has not been good for several years. This is why the megawealthy owners look nervous when they are attending their league meetings.

 

And then there is the situation with the banks.  As we noted before, banks love to be affiliated with professional teams.  This is why their names appear on almost every stadium in the country.  But with the collapse of a fair number of financial houses in the last decade, bank examiners are less and less impressed with bank debt that does not “work” in the traditional sense.  They are now putting banks on “watch lists” where the debt is not being repaid on a current basis and the banks are responding by insisting that any loan granted be used for either working capital or capital expenditures directly related  The days of levering illiquid assets for personal spending money are gone.

 

What McCourt was trying to do was to sell off 17 years of Dodger media revenue to Fox Sports for $2.7 billion.  We are told that $100,000,000 was going to be used to buy out his wife’s claims to ownership of the Dodger interests.  Major League Baseball had the right to veto the deal and they did claiming that McCourt’s mixing of team business with pleasure threatened the long term health of the team.

 

As we noted before, the days of ever spiraling team prices may be headed toward an end.  And without that, teams are going to find themselves relying more and more on balancing their books as banks and other lenders tighten their belts.  In the meantime, the folks who own these teams may be flying to Palm Beach or Palm Springs for annual meetings looking fit and tan but they better have another source of income besides ticket and media revenue to gas their planes.

Delaware Recognizes Same Sex Unions and its Partner, Same Sex Divorce

Leslie Spoltore, a family law attorney in our Wilmington, Delaware office, recently posted a summary of Delaware Senate Bill 30 which was signed into law by Governor Jack Markell on May 11, 2011. This law effectively legalizes same-sex civil unions in Delaware and affords them the same rights and protections afforded to heterosexual married couples, including the dissolution of those unions. As we referenced in an earlier post, many Pennsylvania municipalities are taking the lead recognizing same-sex unions for the purpose of employment benefits; with the signing of this law, Delaware added itself to the growing list of states recognizing same-sex marriages and civil unions, while also providing such couples with access to the legal mechanism for getting divorced.

I CAN'T LIVE LIKE THAT

The practice of family law is where practicality meets emotion with diverse consequences.  For some, divorce comes upon them like a changing tide; for others, it is an emotional tsunami.  People fall apart for various reasons, but the two most common are: “I like someone better,” and “I can’t live like that.” The former has to do with love; the latter with money.

Bala Cynwyd psychologist Maggie Baker’s new book, Crazy About Money: How Emotions Confuse Our Money Choices And What To Do About It (2010: HW Press), dissects the caverns of emotion that money has carved in the American psyche.  As a student of history, what amuses me about the topic is how new and pervasive money management has become in America.  Until 60 years ago how money was managed wasn’t much discussed.  Nobody really had any worth talking about. 

But today lots of people have money.  And they fret over it.  People who don’t have money also fret over it.  Baker’s book isn’t about the money.  It’s about the fretting.  And in paging through it, one comes to recognize how emotional a subject money has become.  Often it is the catalyst for divorce when couples realize that their approach to asset accumulation is completely divergent.  Typically, for men, money is a source of power.  Some like it parked in their garage; some drive 15 year old cars because power is better displayed in the pages of their monthly brokerage statement. Women tend to see money as a source of security, although for some a pair of pumps can be as exhilarating as a Porsche 911 and we see a fair amount of unbridled spending for anything related to “the children.”

 Baker’s book reminds us that these habits come from our emotional framework and our financial history.  They are very deeply rooted but they can be changed if we are willing to invest time trying to understand our history and open our eyes to how we perceive our financial world.  I daresay that couples who feel powerless because of irreconcilable financial differences actually can save a marriage if they jointly explore what those differences are and where they come from.  It might save your marriage and deprive the voracious lawyers of a fee.  Oops, did I say that?

TIL DEATH, NOT DIVORCE, DO US PART

Researchers from the University of Missouri published the results of an interesting study recently, which examined a group of women who found themselves caring for their ill ex-husbands. Some of the women separated from their ex-spouses decades before and suffered brutal and bitter divorces. Yet each of these women chose to set aside her anger and emotional wounds and care for a man to whom she was no longer wed. While these women gave a variety of reasons for their decision, a common thread appeared to be children. They did not want their children to carry the burden of caring for an ill parent and they wanted to help their children through the emotional journey of losing a loved one. 

While I do not believe the women in this study are reflective of a large or growing trend, I do think they present an interesting glimpse into how life can be after divorce.

Ladies: Get Divorced and Live Great; Guys: Get Divorced and Die Early

A new book is being released which studies the effects of a whole host of sociological events to determine why we some of us live long lives and some of us die early. The conclusions of The Longevity Project are interesting on several levels, but most relevant to my profession is the impact of divorce on peoples’ lives.

Basically, the authors conclude that after going through a divorce women tend to thrive and live long, active lives, while men, quite simply, do not. They die early. This conclusion is arrived at after the authors, Howard Friedman, Ph.D., and Leslie Martin, Ph.D. reviewed the results of psychologist Lewis Terman’s decades long study of a group of California children whom he followed through their childhoods in the 1920’s into adulthood. Not only did they consider disease and illnesses, but Martin and Friedman also took the eighty plus years of data and examined which behavioral and psychological attributes of these individuals impacted the longevity of their lives.

 

The impact on divorce was surprising: men who divorced, stayed divorced, or remarried and divorced again saw their mortality rates rise far above their long-married peers. Women, on the other hand, seemed to thrive after they divorced (single women and widows did similarly well). The authors reasoning is that women often left bad marriages and, for possibly the first time in their adult lives, found themselves in charge of their own life and were invigorated by the opportunity to live independently. Considering the generation this study followed, this is surprising since women were typically in a subordinate economic position to their spouses. It is reasonable to conclude, therefore, that the economic hurdles they may have faced after their divorce were preferable to the marriages they were in.

 

Less surprising, however, was the social impact that divorce had on people. It has been fairly well publicized that a sense of community and social interaction can have profoundly positive effects on the elderly. In the context of the divorce statistics, women’s social ties were not severed by the divorce because their friends were not necessarily predicated on their marriage, whereas, men tended to rely upon their wives for their social network and found that divorce or the death of their spouse tended to cause men to lead more solitary lives. The individuals who led a more solitary and less social existence tended to die earlier than those with a strong social network.

 

This study examined individuals who had their childhoods in the 1920’s; clearly, this is a generation which experienced a significant amount of social and economic change. Whether these conclusions will apply to the baby-boomer and subsequent generations remains to be seen.

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WHY DO I NEED A LAWYER

When meeting with a perspective client, one of the most important things we discuss are legal fees. Inevitably, the potential client will ask what he or she can do to help lower his or her fees. Can they do their own photocopying? Can they take filings to the courthouse themselves? Will it save them money if they look for legal authority on the internet and forward it to me?

While I recommend certain things, like being organized, obtaining financial documents yourself, and responding promptly to correspondence and pleadings, I never suggest that a client cut certain corners. Leave the legal work, such as research and drafting, to the lawyers. After all, you are paying for legal knowledge and experience. 

 

Because many people feel they can not afford a lawyer, yet they make too much money to qualify for Legal Aid, they choose to represent themselves. For some people, this may be a good decision. For many others it leaves them floundering in a legal system that is not designed for navigation by a non-lawyer.

 

I recently handled a support matter against a gentleman who was representing himself. It was not a simple support matter. While the Master gave him some leeway at trial, the gentleman lacked basic knowledge regarding what information he needed to present to the court and how to present it. When we received the Master’s decision, it was obvious my opponent should have hired an attorney. 

 

While in a support matter, your mistakes might cost you literally, in a custody matter, your lack of knowledge of local rules and procedure could cost you figuratively. You need to know what to file in order to have your custody matter listed before the court and what to file in order to bring your child with you to court. If you do not file the necessary paperwork, your custody matter might sit indefinitely without ever being heard by a Master or your child might not be able to express his or her desires to the court. You may waive your right to pursue certain claims, such your opposition to a relocation.

 

There is a reason why attorneys charge money.  Legal work is detail oriented and requires a specialized body of knowledge.  Missing a deadline, failing to present your case effectively, or filing the wrong paperwork can result in a loss for you.

 

That said, there are plenty of places in Pennsylvania that can help you if you can not afford a lawyer. The place to start is at the law library of your local court house. There, you can find copies of the statutes, cases and local rules that will dictate what you need to file, when you need to file it and how to file it. You can also contact Legal Aid or other similar agencies to see if you qualify for free or low-cost legal services. http://www.palegalaid.net/ 

WE KNOW IT'S WRONG BUT IS IT CONTEMPTIBLE

One of the great frustrations to both the law practitioner and the client comes after a court order is secured directing that a thing be done or not done, only to see the opposite occur.  The premise of the American judicial system is that when Court’s speak they do so with finality and it is the obligation of the litigants to “follow” the letter of the Court’s order.

Contempt of court is defined as conduct by a litigant or his attorney tending to bring the authority and administration of the law into disrespect.  It can include any conduct tending to embarrass or impede courts in the discharge of its duties.  Ballentine’s Law Dictionary 3d (Lawyer’s Cooperative, 1969).

 

To the layperson, the most identifiable form of contempt is misbehavior in the physical presence of the court.  This is termed “direct civil contempt” and usually results in a summary imposition of a fine or sometimes imprisonment at the time the Court is offended.

 

The more common form of contempt is “indirect civil contempt.”  This is typically a violation of a Court Order outside the immediate presence of the judge.  For example, a judge orders a litigant to do something or refrain from doing something (e.g., don’t take money out of your pension account; do not leave the jurisdiction) and the litigant does not comply.

 

Contempt is an extraordinary remedy and because it exposes the offending party to fines or punishment, including possible imprisonment, it is strictly interpreted.  “In order to sustain a finding of civil contempt the complainant must prove certain elements to have occurred based upon a preponderance of the evidence (which is to say more true than not).  It must be shown that the contemnor (the person alleged to have violated a court order) had notice of the order or decree he is said to have violated; that his act in not complying with the order or decree was volitional and that he acted or failed to act with wrongful intent.” Harcar v. Harcar 982 A.2d 1230, 1235 (Pa. Super. 2009). See Barrett v. Barrett 368 A.2d 616,621 (Pa. Supreme 1997); In Re Trust Under Deed of Jane E. McPeak 147 Montco L.P. 285 2010).

 

The “mere showing of noncompliance with a court order or even misconduct is never sufficient alone to prove civil contempt.” Lachat v. Hinchcliffe, 769 A.2d at 488. Accord Bold v. Bold, 939 A.2d 892,895 (Pa. Super. 2007); In re Contempt of Cullen, 849 A.2d 1207, 1210-11 (Pa. Super. 2004) app. den. 868 A.2d 1201 (Pa. Supreme 2005).

 

The order which is the subject of the contempt must be “definite, clear and specific” leaving no doubt or uncertainty in the mind of the contemnor alleged to have violated the order. Lachat, supra at 489.

 

Contempt issues most commonly arise in the context of support proceedings and are there governed by a statute 23 Pa. C.S. 4345.  Where willful failure to comply is determined to have occurred the court has statutory authority to imprison the contemnor for six months (or until the order for incarceration is complied with).  It is also authorized to place the contemnor on probation and to fine him/her up to $1,000.00. Many attorneys labor under the impression that they are also entitled to their attorneys fees for bringing a contempt petition.  This is a remedy under a separate statute, 23 Pa.C.S. 4351, where the law states that awards of legal fees and court costs may be made where the person owing support “did not have good cause for failing to make child support payments on time.”  A subsequent Supreme Court case, Bowser v. Blum, appears to have limited attorney awards to “special situations” Bowser, 807 A.2d 830 (Pa. Supreme 2002).

 

So contempt can be a tricky remedy meriting consideration before it is brought.

               

COMMON LAW MARRIAGE, ANYONE?

 We recently had an inquiry with respect to the status of common law marriage in Pennsylvania.  The quick answer is that this doctrine was long abandoned in other states but survived in Pennsylvania until this century.  The more correct answer is that common law marriage is still alive in a diminished form and will survive in that form for many years to come.

First, what is a common law marriage?  There are two terms involved.  The common law is defined by statute in Pennsylvania.  It is the law that was in existence at the time America declared its independence in 1776.  The leading source for what was the common law in 1776 is the 1765 four volume compilation by Sir William Blackstone titled Commentaries on the Law of England.  Blackstone’s influence on American law was so great that his Commentaries were published in the United States well into the 20th century.

 

In 1700 any boy 14 years of age could lawfully marry a girl of 12.  By statute a man who married a girl under 15 without parental consent could be fined or imprisoned.  In the early 18th century another statute was passed that made marriages voidable by parents except where the children were over 21 or parents consented.

 

Typically marriage involves either a member of the clergy or a public official conducting a ceremony intended to confirm the public assent of the couple being joined in marriage. But a common law marriage was one intended to solemnize marriage for people who were not formally churched or too distant from places where public officials could be found.  It required only the capacity to marry (i.e., sufficient age and mental capacity) and the intent to marry.  Lord Hardwicke’s Marriage Act of 1753 sought to change this and tighten the requirements.  But that Act exempted Jews, Quakers and did not affect colonists in America.

 

So in America and, particularly in Quaker Pennsylvania, marriage could be recognized whenever the celebrants were of age and expressed words of present intention to be married.  The Philadelphia Yearly Meeting calls these “promises” and they are made by one intended spouse to the other without benefit of clergy.

 

In America this evolved into acceptance of marriage without clergy and without the requirement of a license or a public ceremony.  As time passed, these common law relationships were often viewed as instruments of fraud.  A woman living with a man who died could step forward and claim a common law marriage and thereby make tort or worker’s compensation claims for the death of her husband.  Over time many states passed legislation abandoning these types of marriage.

 

Pennsylvania retained this doctrine until 2003 when the Commonwealth Court issued its ruling in PNC Bank Corp. v. Worker’s Compensation Appeal Board (Stamos)

831 A.2d 1269 ( Pa. Commnwlth., 2003).  The ruling was that courts in the commonwealth would no longer recognize marriages formed after the court decision. This was adopted as a statute effective January 2, 2005.

 

The key is in the language.  If the claim is that the common law marriage was formed before January 2, 2005, the right to assert the marriage exists.

 

But the standard established in a 1988 Pennsylvania Supreme Court case Staudenmayer v. Staudenmayer, remains quite high.  As Justice Newman wrote in that case, “We have allowed, as a remedial measure, a rebuttable presumption in favor of a common law marriage based on sufficient proof of cohabitation and reputation of marriage where the parties are otherwise disabled from testifying regarding verba in praesenti (words of present intent).  However, where the parties are available to testify regarding verba in praesenti , the burden rests with the party claiming a common law marriage to produce clear and convincing evidence of the exchange of words in the present tense spoken with the purpose of establishing the relationship of husband and wife, in other words, the marriage contract.  In those situations, the rebuttable presumption in favor of a common law marriage upon sufficient proof of constant cohabitation and reputation for marriage, does not arise.” 714 A.2d 1016 (Pa. Supreme 1988).

 

In a nutshell, unless one of the parties is deceased, proof of a common law marriage does not come from living together or owning bank or brokerage accounts together or even filing tax returns as married individuals.  It does not come from exchange of rings or carrying the intended over the threshold.  It comes from an exchange of vows or other words clearly meant to establish that a couple has assumed the bonds of marriage.  Note also that an invitation to marry or even a plan to marry does not a marriage make.

 

This is a fact driven area of the law, and no one should abandon what they think may be a claim of common law marriage without having those facts evaluated by someone familiar with case law that goes back more than a century.  But the quick tests that people think make people married (living together for seven years is the most common one we hear about) do not comport with the state of the law.

I'm Leaving! But What Should I Do First?

Many times people come into my office or call wondering what they should do to prepare for separating from their spouse or the parent of their children. Understandably, it is a difficult decision and each person wants to position themselves to best handle the potential “fall-out” of the separation. They want to take the best steps to protect themselves and their children. One of the most important things a person can do is copy important financial documents and documentation regarding their children. On the financial side it is important to have the financial records (i.e. tax returns and financial and retirement account statements) to establish the marital assets and debts. Sometimes financial information is difficult (but not impossible) to get after a separation or divorce complaint filing. It is important to have the children’s documentation to ensure the safety and well-being of your children.

It is important to consult with an attorney to determine what steps should be taken in order to move forward with a separation and/or divorce. Each separation and/or divorce is unique. Depending upon the parties and the level of difficulties/animosity between the parties, an attorney can best advise as to the next and best steps for a separation and/or divorce.

RECALCULATING RETIREMENT NEEDS

The Weekend Edition of the Wall Street Journal on February 19-20 reported on something most of us already knew:  Americans are not saving enough for retirement. The proposition is old but the data is new and, therefore, worthy of attention.

Why is this germane to a series on Separation and Divorce?  That’s easy.  In divorce we divide retirement savings that a couple has accumulated during the marriage.  In many instances the savings for retirement were calibrated based upon the principle that two live almost as cheaply as one.  But when the two go their separate ways, the economies of scale go out the door with them. That means re-thinking retirement plans in realistic ways.

 

The Journal’s research comes from several sources including Boston College’s Retirement Research Institute.  Roughly 60% of Americans approaching retirement have 401(k) plans.  Almost all Americans are eligible for some form of social security payment. These two devices are the engines of retirement income. The Boston College data shows that households headed by folks ages 60-62 with 401(k) type plans have median income of $87,700 in 2009.  The benchmark of most financial planners is that in retirement you will need 85% of your pre-retirement income to enjoy a comfortable lifestyle.  Eighty-five percent of $87,700 is $74,500 per annum or just over $6,000 a month.  For these median Americans social security will provide about $35,000 in income.  So the “gap” between the income target and the social security benefit is about $39,500, or $3,300 a month.  That’s where retirement savings on the individual’s part comes in.  The typical 401(k) for our near retirement couple is averaging $150,000.  New York Life Insurance would suggest that the balance be funded with a fixed income annuity.  An annuity through NY Life, however, throws off only $9,000 in income, or one-quarter of what we need based on current returns.  To get the income up to $3,300 with a quality annuity would require an investment base of $630,000.

 

About half of those on the cusp of retirement also have defined benefit retirement plans. These plans are a form of annuity themselves and the typical retiree with a defined benefit plan can bank on $26,500 a year or roughly $2,200 a month upon retirement.  For those folks the shortfall that must be made up by savings is only $13,000 a year.

 

All Americans over 30 years of age should be looking at how these numbers affect them. Admittedly young people view retirement as someone else’s problem. But the longer retirement contributions are ignored, the more implausible a sound retirement becomes because the funds do not have enough time to build value through investment.  The starting point is to assess what is projected to come from social security.  From there on, it is mostly going to be individual retirement contributions that will make the difference as defined benefit plans paying out monthly stipends continue to evaporate from the private sector.

 

Vanguard Group has recently increased what it deems to be the model for retirement savings from 9-12% of income to 12-15%. This means that couples with household income of $100,000 a year should be funding retirement savings at the rate of $1,000-1,200 a month.

 

As we noted at the outset, reassessment is required when a couple divides their retirement and doubles their expenses by moving from one household to two.  Commonly the impact is to defer retirement and scale back lifestyle expectations when it does occur. This is, for most, a price of divorce that cannot be avoided.

 

Bear in mind, the Journal does not discuss this, but we counsel clients to think carefully about what their expenses will be going into retirement.  The conventional wisdom is that living expenses constitute 85% of pre-retirement income.  However, upon retirement two large pieces of modern household budgets often change dramatically.  People who take on a 30 year mortgage at ages 30-35 should have satisfied that mortgage by the time they retire.  The home mortgage is commonly the largest single household expense.  The second largest is health insurance and 65 is the age when Americans become Medicare eligible.  Most of us will buy a supplemental policy at age 65, but we can hope that this coverage will be less expensive than the private plans we now pay to maintain.

 

The other thing to be learned from the Journal article is to invest conservatively.  The sad stories recounted there frequently involved folks who “took a chance” on investments calculated to make them wealthy rather than secure a retirement.  As most of us who were invested in 2008 learned, many of the high flying investments in real estate or start up companies crashed and burned in the last recession.  Sadly, that money is not coming back for those who are the vanguard of the baby-boom retirees.

(UPDATE) LAW FIRM ASKS COURT FOR GUIDANCE AS TO WHETHER PARENTS OR DOMESTIC PARTNER SHOULD RECEIVE BENEFITS OF A PROFIT SHARING PLAN

We previously blogged about Philadelphia based law firm Cozen O’Conner’s efforts to obtain a guidance as to how to pay-out the profit sharing plan of one of their partners who was in a same-sex marriage. Cozen was presented with a beneficiary designation form which appears to grant the partner’s parents the benefit.

Muddying the issue was that Ms. Farley’s marriage to Ms. Tobitz occurred in Toronto in 2006; a marriage that was not recognized by her home state of Illinois or Cozen’s home state of Pennsylvania.

But no longer – today, Illinois’s governor signs into law the legal recognition of civil unions. Beginning in June 2011, the state will begin issuing licenses to both heterosexual and homosexual partners.

How this will impact the beneficiary issue is unclear since even if the type of union Ms. Farley and Ms. Tobitz had is now recognized by the state, Ms. Farley’s death may preclude a legal recognition of its existence. On the other hand, it is possible that Ms. Tobitz may seek validation of her Canadian marriage under Illinois law, thereby establishing herself as Ms. Farley’s legal heir - to the exclusion of Ms. Farley's parents.

Recent Updates to Decedent's Estates and Fiduciary Law Reflects the Divorce Code

In October, 2010, Governor Rendell signed into law Act No. 85 which amended Title 15 and 20 of the Pennsylvania Code to address the death of a party during divorce proceedings. Previously, the Divorce Code was amended to reflect the fact that if a party to a divorce dies after grounds have been established, then equitable distribution is to proceed as normal with the decedent’s estate stepping into the shoes of the deceased party and that the Court should apply the normal equitable distribution factors in deciding the case.

In updating the Decedent’s Estate and Fiduciary’s Code, not only is this area of law reflective of the current Divorce Code, but it also spells out more specifically for estate purposes the manner in which a divorcing party’s estate is to be distributed during litigation. Specifically, Title 20 was amended to reflect the fact that a spouse will have no right or interest in the real or personal estate of the other spouse if they die during the course of the divorce proceedings and after grounds have been established for the divorce. Furthermore, Section 2507 now reflects that any provision in a party’s Will that favors or relates to that party’s spouse shall “become ineffective for all purposes unless it appears from the Will that the provision was intended to survive a divorce…” This Section goes on to give exceptions to this rule, including situations in which the parties are divorced prior to the creation of the Will (which would reflect specific intent to allow the benefit to pass to the ex-spouse) or if the provision was specifically intended to survive the divorce. 

Furthermore, if there is a conveyance that is revocable by a conveyor at the time of that person’s death that favors or relates to the conveyor’s spouse, this conveyance will become ineffective if the conveyor dies during the course of the divorce proceedings, no Divorce Decree has been entered, and grounds have been established.  In other words, if a spouse dies and has designated the other spouse as the beneficiary of a life insurance policy, retirement plan, or other type of asset, that spouse may not receive the proceeds from those accounts if a Decree of Divorce has been entered or the divorce proceedings are pending. The exception, as with previous sections, is that there must be language to indicate that the payments were intended to survive the divorce. The practical application of this provision is that a codicil to a Will or revised benefit designation form is no longer necessary to preserve this benefit from being distributed to an estranged spouse; the Code now severs the passing of that benefit to the estranged spouse, unless the conveying spouse specifies otherwise. As such, a spouse who has beneficiary designations will find them nullified if the other party dies while the divorce is pending. The beneficiary designation will be declared ineffective unless specifically intended to survive the divorce. 

Though the estate code may offer safeguards against assets being passed to an estranged spouse, it does not diminish the importance of changing the beneficiary designation early in the divorce proceeding, particularly if grounds for divorce – the triggering event for the Divorce and Estate Codes – have not yet been established. Consult with an attorney to determine what can be done to ensure that your benefits pass to those heirs who reflect your present intentions rather than past intentions. 

IS SNOOPING THROUGH YOUR SPOUSE'S EMAIL ILLEGAL?

 Over the past few weeks, an interesting story emerged about a Michigan husband, Leon Walker, who is facing felony charges stemming from his use of his wife’s Gmail password to access her email account and learn about her extra-marital affair. Mr. Walker used his wife’s computer – which was kept in the house, used by Mr. Walker on a regular basis, and in the same location where she kept her passwords in a notebook labeled “passwords” – to access her emails and confirm his suspicions that she was having an affair with her ex-husband who had abused her and her child – it is quite a story.

 

Mr. Walker’s investigative efforts earned him a felony charge under a Michigan statute designed to combat identity theft. Mr. Walker’s trial is scheduled for February and, in addition to a privacy issue, it also raises the question of what constitutes good “pre-litigation discovery” in a family law case and what bleeds into criminal conduct.

 

While Pennsylvania has identity theft laws (18. Pa.C.S.A. § 4120), the law that more closely resembles the charge levied against Mr. Walker is 18 Pa.C.S.A. § 5703 which prohibits the intentional interception of wire, electronic, or oral communication. In short, § 5703 is Pennsylvania’s wiretapping law and it is classified as a third-degree felony (though the lowest of the felony classes, a third-degree felony carries a possible sentence up to seven years in prison).

 

Whether Pennsylvania’s wiretapping law would be used to prosecute someone accessing their spouse’s email is unclear. It is worth considering, however, whether accessing your spouse’s personal, password protected email account in order to obtain information is comparable to “intentionally [using]…the contents of…electronic communication…knowing…that the information was obtained through interception of a wire, electronic or oral communication” § 5703(3). 

STATE SEN. MICHAEL A. O'PAKE

Though this blog typically addresses current issues in Pennsylvania family law, I thought it was worth noting the passing of a long standing member of the Pennsylvania Senate, Senator Michael A. O’Pake.

Among his many accomplishments and legislative efforts, he authored or helped spear-head many laws pertaining to family law, including the adoption of no-fault divorces, the passage of the Children’s Protective Services law and Protection from Abuse Act, and Children’s Health Insurance Program (CHIP), which we discussed in a previous entry.

 

Senator O’Pake has had a lasting impact on the lives of Pennsylvanians and legal community.

FINANCING THE DIVORCE - LENDERS ARE INVESTING IN DIVORCES

It is not uncommon in divorce cases to have one spouse who is in a financially superior position than the other. Though alimony pendente lite provides the dependent party additional support during the pendency of the divorce, the complexity of many cases means that the “independent spouse” has mounting legal fees which far exceed any alimony pendente lite award. When a client has difficulty meeting day-to-day financial needs, the prospect of incurring tens of thousands of dollars of litigation fees from their divorce may have a chilling effect on their desire to litigate issues fully and completely. When coupled with the fact that typically each party pays their own legal fees and most local judiciaries do not readily issue orders for the payment of attorney’s fees by the other party, it often results in individuals coming out of their divorce with significant amounts of debt. 

As highlighted in a December 4, 2010 New York Times article, there is an emerging group of financial companies who focus on lending money to divorce litigants in exchange for a share of the equitable distribution settlement. Professional Rules of Ethics prevent divorce attorneys from engaging in any type of contingency fee arrangement, however, these financial lenders are limited by such rules. Instead, they basically serve as a client’s “war chest” to provide them the means to hire the expert witnesses, forensic accountants, or any other litigation related expense required to ensure that their case is brought to a satisfactory conclusion. 

 

When a third-party pays a litigant’s legal fees, it is important to remember that this does not change the scope of the attorney/client relationship. Whether a client uses a lender, a personal loan from a friend, or having their bills paid by their new boyfriend or girlfriend, there should never be any ambiguity as to where the attorney/client relationship extends. First and foremost, the attorney’s responsibility is to the client, not to the person or entity paying the bills. Payment of someone’s legal fees does not entitle that person or entity access, information, or direct the case. Your attorney should make it clear from the onset that regardless of how the bills are paid, attorney/client privilege only extends between the client and the attorney and that access cannot be bought.

 

While this type of lender has existed for personal injury cases, it appears that divorce cases are an emerging market. Although I am not aware of any Pennsylvania financial institutions or lenders offering this specific benefit, for many, it may be preferable to having to draw down credit lines and the goodwill of friends and relatives to finance a divorce action. So long as these emerging lending companies understand and acknowledge their role, they may prove to be a useful tool to spouses with shallow financial resources but significant equitable distribution claims.

SUPERIOR COURT DECISION CHANGES HOW BUSINESSES ARE VALUED:

Business valuations are often important considerations in Pennsylvania family law cases. Depending upon the type of business and/or its legal status (“S” corporation, Limited Liability Corporation (LLC), Limited Liability Partnership (LLP)) any number of business valuation methods may be utilized to arrive at the value of the business for equitable distribution purposes. Recently, the Pennsylvania Superior Court issued a ruling which addressed the valuation of an “S” corporation for equitable distribution purposes. The case of Balicki v. Balicki (2010 PA Supra. 134) found that the Master erred in her analysis of the husband’s business interest in an insurance agency.

In this case, it was understood that the business would not be sold, therefore, in making her business valuation, the Master excluded expenses of sale, transfer, or liquidation which could include broker commissions, finders fees, attorney fees and accountant fees. These expenses are considered to be terms and conditions of sale and the consummation of a sale. Additionally, the Superior Court ruled that the Master failed to take into consideration any taxes that may be associated with the sale or liquidation of a business. 

 

That the business was not intended, or likely, to be sold does not matter in this valuation. Instead, the Balicki court considered Pennsylvania statutes 23 PACSA § 3502(a)(10.1) and (10.2) which state that for the purposes of equitable distribution of marital property, the Court must consider the Federal, state and local tax ramifications even if they are not “immediate and certain”, and similarly, the sale, transfer, or liquidation of an asset need also not be “immediate and certain,” either.

 

In effect, the Balicki court reduced the value of the existing business by expenses which it acknowledged would not likely be applied in that situation. The effect of this from a practical sense is that it reduces the marital estate, and therefore, the other spouses overall equitable distribution award. The Balicki court ultimately found that § 3502 articulates the Pennsylvania legislature’s intention to eliminate the practice of lower courts analyzing the prospective sale of an asset. Instead, they believed that the legislature intends the assets to “simply be given the value they would have a distribution after every expense necessary to achieve liquidation. Balicki 15.

 

The Balicki court also indicates that the reliance upon the 1988 Pennsylvania Supreme Court case Hovis v. Hovis has been misplaced. That case addressed the valuation in which the action preceded a change in the statute. Once the statute was changed by the legislature, the Hovis case was effectively overturned and the subsequent ruling in Hovis nullified.  The Balicki decision now sets the precedence for the valuation of businesses for equitable distribution purposes.

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LIVING TOGETHER WITHOUT MARRIAGE

The October 15, 2010 edition of USA Today informs us the business of living together without benefit of marriage in what is termed a “committed relationship” is becoming more and more accepted. What was a generation ago deemed “living in sin” is viewed as a bad thing by only 38% of Americans.  And perhaps, more importantly more than half of Americans who marry have lived together before they married.  The US Census Bureau tells us that more than 16,000,0000 of us are living together as couples and more than 90% of those couples are of the opposite sex.

The law of living together in Pennsylvania makes no distinction based on sexual orientation.  The law is essentially no law but what the parties make by way of contract. Married folks have a Divorce Law; they have protections related to health insurance and estates law because of how Pennsylvania statutes are written.  But they do not include couples who choose to live together without benefit of marriage.

 

Unfortunately, many couples tend to ignore this gap in the law. Typically they form contracts in which they have what is called joint and several liability without thinking about it.  Joint and several liability means that where two people sign a contract with a landlord, a home seller, a mortgage company or an auto lender, they are agreeing that the party in power (the seller, car dealer, landlord etc) can pick and choose who they pursue for their legal remedies.

 

What does this mean in practical terms?  Your boyfriend has bad credit.  If you buy the car he wants, it will be $80 a month cheaper if you finance it than if he does.  He’s a good guy.  So you buy the car; or perhaps you “just” co-sign the note.  Next thing you know, he finds another love or loses his job, or both.  Suddenly, GMAC is calling you.  You explain that it’s his car, he’s a low life and your credit has always been perfect.  Well, not any more.  You agreed to cover his debt and GMAC really is not in the relationship game.  They want money and they have little concern for who’s driving.  If the car is titled in your name, you could probably re-possess the vehicle but the guys and girls who repo cars don’t often show up in the yellow pages.

 

It gets worse with houses.  It has become very common for couples to buy their first home before they tie the knot. Once the marriage does take place they could re-title the property into a tenancy by the entireties.  This would protect them from some creditors and would establish a mechanism (the Divorce Code) to divide the property equitably if the marriage does not work out.  But rarely do couples realize the legal difference. Divorce Courts have jurisdiction over property acquired during  the marriage.  That does not include property acquired before the marriage.  That property is partitioned.  Under partition law, you are presumed to have gifted the money each of you put into the enterprise.  If the property has to be sold, the sales costs are subtracted, the liens cleared and each co-owner gets half of what is left.  So if you put down $80,000 of the $100,000 down payment and paid all of the mortgage for the next five years, your spouse will get a windfall that a Divorce Court might otherwise correct.

 

So how does one protect from these problems?  First, don’t get involved in any joint debt unless you are married and as little as possible even after you are married. Married or not, it’s no fun being responsible for debt your friend or spouse ran up while having a good time at your expense with someone called “not you”. Second, if you must make that home purchase before marriage or if you are going to form a business or loan money to your amour get the deal in writing.  Yes, it is possible to make these agreements orally but judges are going to look at you as if you are crazy when you come to court claiming that you and your girlfriend orally agreed to form a business together.  For young people, engaging lawyers to spell out these kinds of agreements seems like an unnecessary expense.  But, if you asked anyone who has been caught with a bad relationship and no written understanding, that person will tell you that this kind of legal engagement is money well spent.

CHECK YOUR OWN X#X#X# CREDIT

We have recently experienced a surge in claims related to unauthorized use of credit lines including forgeries.  It seems that when the economy turned suddenly in 2008 some folks decided to make their own credit by using that of their spouse.

Yes, this is illegal and, yes, it may mean that you are not liable on the debt taken in your name.  But the law often holds that we have a duty to investigate things and to take action promptly when we have been wronged.

 

If there is even a small chance that your spouse may have opened or increased a credit line (whether an open mortgage, a credit card or some other personal line of credit) without your knowledge or permission, the first step you must take is to order a credit report on yourself.  Review it carefully to see whether (a) there are creditors on the report you do not know as yours or (b) whether credit limits you originally signed for have been increased without our permission.  If you are the victim of this kind of activity contact an attorney.  You need to completely document every step you take along the way.  Don’t assume if you are the victim of such fraud that the lender is your friend.  Many couples purposely try to set up these kinds of schemes and your banker does not expect that you and your spouse are adverse to each other.  Bear in mind as well that the lender is often left holding the bag if you are successful in showing that your spouse is the person who “borrowed” your identity to run up some secret bills.

 

Many clients ask whether they should get a credit check on their spouse.  This is a touchy subject because you don’t have an automatic right to know your spouse’s credit information.  If you want that information, make certain that your spouse confirms that you have permission in a writing that can be presented when the check is done.  You might have a “friend” who is in the business who can assist you in getting a report on someone else but be aware that both you and your friend could be liable for invading the privacy of your spouse if you perform a credit check without the debtors express permission.

LONG TERM SEPARATION: THE "UNDIVORCED"

The New York Times ran an interesting article on long term separations – or the “un-divorced” as the writer, Pamela Paul calls it – as an alternative to divorces. It raises some interesting points about the benefits – and the complications – of a long term separation. In a state such as Pennsylvania, where separation can be grounds for seeking spousal support and child support, long-term separation may have both strategic and practical benefits to a dependent spouse by potentially providing years of support.

Additional benefits also may include the continuation of medical and tax benefits. For some cases, medical coverage is a critical aspect due to a major medical condition or insufficient income to obtain independent insurance coverage, while most people benefit from filing their taxes jointly.

Issues to consider, particularly in Pennsylvania where there is no “legal separation” per se, is that being separated has no legal effect on things like Social Security, insurance benefits, estate benefits, or retirement benefits. Some retirement plans designate the spouse as the beneficiary of the plan, therefore, if the spouse dies during the period of separation, the benefits pass to the other spouse as if the separation never occurred. In Pennsylvania, until a grounds order is entered, you are married and death benefits, property rights, etc. will pass to the surviving spouse by operation of law.

Long-term separation is often a convenient arrangement, rather than a desired situation. In many cases, it forestalls the inevitable divorce, but on the other hand, it may just be a way to deal with a marriage that he ceased to work in a traditional sense, but that those involved find too much invested to sever the legal ties to one another. Like all things, there is no cookie-cutter approach to long-term separation; each situation requires careful consideration of the benefits and risks (ex. Joint taxes maximizes tax benefits, but also can exposure each party to liability for what is disclosed in the return). Finding the balance between an unhappy happy and a tolerable (if not happy) separation is not easy, but it could the best solution for some people.

"SETTLEMENT ANXIETY" - THE ART OF FORCING COMPROMISE

 

Eric Solotoff, a partner in our Roseland, New Jersey office, recently posted a piece on our New Jersey Family Law Blog about his experience with a mediator who sought to apply “settlement anxiety” on the parties to help force a settlement in the case.


Eric explores the ethical and practical application of “settlement anxiety” in settling cases and it is an interesting topic for practitioners and litigants, alike.

NEGOTIATING THE COLLEGE COMMITMENT

In the process of handling a divorce where minor children are involved it is not uncommon for the parties to at least broach the subject of contributions to an undergraduate degree or vocational training for a child following high school.  This was once a pretty easy subject as Pennsylvania required separated parents to contribute to this form of enterprise from 1963 to 1992.  But that abruptly ended when the Supreme Court of Pennsylvania found that lower courts had imposed this duty without the imprimatur of legislative approval.  With the 1992 ruling in Blue v. Blue, 616 A.2d 628 college was only going to be ordered where the parties agreed.

The other driving force that had affected this area is the spiraling cost of college.  This author graduated from George Washington University in 1977 at a time when a year of college was a $5,000 experience.  Today, that same experience at the same university is 10x more expensive.  And while recent alumni have been quick to remind me that the school has improved vastly in the thirty years since I was emitted, I feel safe in my retort that it certainly is not 10x better. Even when adjusted for the Consumer Price Index, the $5,000 of circa 1977 should today be just under $18,000 in 2010 dollars.

So, we live in an age when a commitment to send a child to college can easily be a $200,000 obligation.  That will require roughly $300,000 pre-tax dollars, a fairly staggering sum for even affluent parents who are living together.  It becomes all the more dicey when net worth and income have been subject to proceedings to dissolve a marriage.  This means that agreements relating to support a college kind of experience need to be carefully considered and drafted if the commitment is to be something more than “We’ll do what we can.”

The easiest approach is to start the savings process early.  Uniform Transfer to Minors Accounts is one device. 529 Accounts are a second.  They come with different characteristics relating to accessibility but the key point is that the more you save now, the more will be available when college time comes.

But, what about limits on the contributions.  There is a big difference between a college education and a child’s dream college experience. We recently litigated a case where a child with a C+ average and board scores in the 1000 range wanted her parents to underwrite a $45,000 per annum private college experience. Is that a reasonable expectation? One parent said yes and the other no.  The agreement was silent except for a consultation clause related to college selection.  There is a tendency on the part of parents to be lenient when they execute these agreements because they feel guilty that they have “ruined” their child’s adolescence by splitting up. Kids are certainly affected by divorce but does an expensive college somehow make up for an experience, like divorce that is ubiquitous. Does the child of divorce get a BMW as his first car if mom and dad are separated, but a Focus if they stay together.  Economic decisions need to stand on their own and not be driven by guilt.  They also need to have some fail safe provisions.  We are seeing many folks who were earning hefty incomes and could easily have once afforded almost any college costs caught in the crossfire of a bad economy that this time has afflicted the management class almost as harshly as the working poor. Unemployment benefits of $400 a week leave little room for contributions to college.

Then there is the role of the child.  What are to be his or her responsibilities?  Today a child with mediocre grades and boards can still pull a quality college admission if he or she is willing to pay full freight. Does that mean the parent must commit as well? And if so, for how long?  Today only 30% of liberal arts majors complete their degree in four years. Is there a minimum grade point average that must be maintained or will the standard be how low can you go? Bear in mind that without a waiver of the student’s rights under a law called the Federal Educational Rights and Privacy Act, a parent has no right to a student’s grades or to know whether the student missed class because he was at the university hospital’s detox unit.

The issue of timing payment is also a minefield.  We have many agreements in our files that say each parent will pay a percentage of tuition or other costs.  But, we are seeing that many parents don’t reveal their incapacity to pay until the arrival of the college invoice. In once recent instance, we had a parent decide that the best way to save for college was to roll the child’s tuition savings plan into a lovely beach house.  That was four years ago when shore property was hot.  Chances are that child is not going to college until the market absorbs the huge inventory of unsold property that has been accumulating since 2007.

We conclude that college is a good thing and sensible provisions for it are as well.  But the price of education has escalated to a point where college or any other post secondary education needs to be carefully planned for if the investment is to be achievable and productive.

LITIGATION EUTHENASIA

A recent article by Harvard physician Atul Gawande in the New Yorker discussed how poorly our society does in addressing end of life decisions where a person is afflicted with a diagnosis of terminal disease.  These are questions we don’t like to deal with.  And as the article poignantly illustrates, neither the patient nor the family wants to be candid about what is really going on. The result is often the employment of heroic measures that might possibly produce a favorable outcome but which are certain to make the patient’s life miserable. The author proposes that in these cases, patients are afraid to tell family members that further experimental treatment is not what they want out of fear that the family members will judge them a “quitter.”  Family members fear discussion that suggests abandoning further treatment will be construed by the patient as a signal that the family is tired of dealing with the illness.

Dr. Gawande has noted that as recently as thirty years ago, many physicians would not tell their patient how grave an illness was. This prompted us to consider whether attorneys and their clients are guilty of the same lack of candor when managing litigation.

Litigation of any kind is an evolutionary process where facts are collected and ultimately presented to a judge or jury for evaluation and decision.  In a family law context, clients tell us their vision of the world.  From that start, we try to collect evidence that supports the theory of the case.  Many times, the collection of evidence may change the strength of the client’s theory.  In some situations what sounded like a strong case on interview fails because there is little to no evidence to support it.  In other instances, as attorneys we see the evidence as supportive of our theory of the case but the trier of fact (usually the judge or hearing officer) telegraphs that he or she does not see the case as having the same merit we do as advocates.

In either case, either unsupported facts or an unpersuaded judge, there needs to be a frank reassessment of the litigation between attorney and client.  This is a difficult process because clients often don’t see weaknesses in their cases and when confronted with them, there is a tendency on the part of clients to suggest that the lawyers is losing faith or misled the client to begin with.  There are times when it makes sense to “tough out” the litigation process and go to trial and or appeal from an adverse ruling.  This requires frank discussion throughout the decision making progress.  Without it, the risk is high that a bad decision will be made and that the next dollars invested in the litigation will be poor investments.

As we have written before, every litigated matter involves an investment.  As with any other investment, it comes with cost and it comes with risk.  No case is a certain winner.  As you proceed with any such investment clients need to ask the questions that need to be asked.  Is the case growing stronger or weaker premised upon the evolution of the facts and the rulings in the case before trial?  Do not fall prey to the kind of blindness to which Dr Gawande alludes where you the client are not being realistic about the range of outcomes and their relative likelihood. Litigation is not life threatening in ways that disease can be. But it is no fun to buy lots of it when the outcome will only drain your pocket and leave you unhappy.  That’s a question clients need to ask if the case takes a bad turn.  Our reaction is often to just throw more at it and threaten to do more and not less. This is the American way. It’s what made Stephen Decatur and Davy Crockett folk heroes.  But, it is worth noting that when all was said and done the outcome for Crockett is not what he intended.

THE GORE MARRIAGE: INSTITUTION OR RELATIONSHIP?

This week included a radio interview by WHYY’s Marty Moss-Cohane on the subject of the “graying” of divorce.  The two academicians featured were a historian from the University of Hawaii Stephanie Coontz and a business professor from Penn, Betsey Stevenson.  The program is archived at WHYY for June 9, 2010.

Early in the program one of the professors noted that, as the title suggests, we are conflicted over whether marriage remains an institution or whether it is now simply a relationship.  By definition institutions are things to revere.  Relationships smack of practicality; like the fellow who mows our lawn or services our cars.

From childhood, we were taught that marriage was an institution to celebrate for all of one’s life.  The vows of marriage tell us so.  But a look back through history informs us that lifelong marriage was more the exception than the rule. We remember the lengthy and apparently happy marriages of Washington, Franklin, Adams and Madison.  We choose to forget that for two of these founders there were months and in some cases years of enforced separation.  We should recall that for many couples marriage often produced childbirth accompanied by huge mortality rates for both child and mother.  So it was not uncommon for people to marry two or three times during a lifetime that rarely exceeded fifty years.

The other thing that changed over time was the “meaning” of marriage. It is not until the Enlightenment that the idea of marriage for love gained currency.  Before that time, marriage had to do with financial security.  Fornication and its close friend bastardy were crimes because the result was children who might become public charges.  Changes in society’s wealth and sexuality have changed much of this over the past fifty years.

Professor Coontz has been reading marriage manuals of the 1950s and concluded that marriage counseling had spoken more in terms of obligation than happiness.  Unhappy women were advised that it was their duty to make a marriage work even if this meant resigning themselves to an otherwise miserable condition.  At a time when women were far less educated and worldly, few had much choice but to accept their plight. There weren’t many other options.

Much has changed.  But old habits die hard.  Consider the fact that marriage for “love” has been around for more than two centuries yet the notion that women were entitled to be happy in their marriages seems to have gained currency in the past forty years alone.

We don’t know whether Al is dumping Tipper or vice versa.  There is even the prospect that they actually agreed that notwithstanding the importance of the “institution” the relationship was no longer working.  Certainly, there is something to be said for discouraging people to end marriages for transient causes.  But as we live longer, what sustained a relationship for forty years may not be enough to make it for fifty.  We are seeing more seniors choosing to move on.  In the saddest cases, they have barely enough to sustain themselves together through retirement.  This often means that once separated and with their meager assets divided, each will live very close to poverty.  But couples like the Gores have the resources to go on without significant economic sacrifice. Their separation will be emotional.  Unless both parties come to the same conclusion at the same time, it always will be emotional.  But life is a journey and not a destination and all of us are well advised to consider that when thinking about marriage in the first place.

SOME FREE ADVICE ABOUT MARRIAGE COUNSELING

Every once in a while, a good deed does not go unpunished.  About a month ago I received a call from an acquaintance with whom I worked performing community work several years ago.  Could she stop in and chat?  As one might expect, people do not just stop in to “chat” with divorce lawyers without some particular thoughts in mind.

We met for about 20 minutes.  By the standards of our parents’ generation she had the perfect marriage.  Beautiful kids, financial security and prominence in the community.  But as is so often the case things were not feeling that way. There was a suggestion that perhaps her spouse had not been faithful and, being an intelligent woman, her response was to research.  The results were not encouraging.  Because we knew each other, I got what I call the “ultimate question”.  Was it time to end it? Personally, I hate this question.  I have been doing this line of work for almost thirty years; I have been married twice during that time.  But, who am I to tell another person whether he or she should try to preserve a relationship that was once seen as a lifetime commitment?  There are days when I hear stories that make me want to blurt out: “You must be kidding.”  But that’s not a lawyer’s role.  Lawyers are at their best when they are Socratic.  Ask the questions.  Explore the options.  Then let the client make the decision.

The subsidiary question I had posed in this meeting was whether marriage counseling made sense.  Having once done it, I am not a big fan of marriage counseling.  It is my own belief that when confronted in meetings by people we don’t know, our first goal is to try to look like reasonable people and to impress our new found acquaintance, the marriage counselor. Of course this comes at a price and that price is called ‘candor’. Second, there is a tendency to pull punches.  I wish I could recall how many times a client has lit up in appreciation when I observed that it sounded like a spouse was more committed to a job or the children than the marriage.  A recent article about how couples fight about money noted that many fights over money are merely stalking horses for other issues.  I can’t look you in the face and tell you that I am unhappy about your weight, your lethargy, your inability to discipline our child, your fawning admiration of the idiot neighbor.  But I can easily summon the courage to tell you that you should mow your own lawn or cut back on the credit cards.

So, I find that marriage counseling tends to work best as a second step.  Step one is to see a counselor individually and do the preliminary work.  With your own counselors you and your spouse can each let loose not only about each other but about what is working or not working in your own life besides your marriage. You can say what you want and not fear immediate rebuttal, rejection or impeachment.  You can hopefully sort out where life has brought you and, most important; where you want to go next.  That next step may mean separation and divorce.  That’s alright too.  But many times, individual therapy causes the patient to gain perspective.  Also, don’t kid yourself.  In individual therapy it’s easy to throw the punch and, as Napoleon once suggested, blame everyone not in the room.  A good therapist is going to spar with you; challenging your views and asking questions intended to make you think.

Once you have put some time into getting your own emotional house in order; it is time to take the show on the road and do some couples counseling.  But if your individual counseling convinces you that you are absolutely destined to end your current relationship; then don’t dishonestly go into marriage counseling.  Ask your spouse for permission to speak to her therapist.  Lay your thinking on the line.  If nothing else this will help your spouse get insight from her own therapist as to how you got to your conclusion.  That’s healthy for both of you.

I’m also a big fan of the written word.  Not the texted or instant messaged thought.  I mean something you will put hours into just as you did a paper in college.  Your marriage is a relationship in which both you and your spouse have made an enormous investment.  Don’t sell out cheap.

Divorce is often made more expensive because the lawyers are carrying their clients heavy emotional baggage. Carry your own.  You will not find it pleasant but you will ultimately feel better about the experience.  And you will save a stack of money.

PRACTICAL TIPS FOR DIVIDING PERSONAL PROPERTY

Given the current economic climate, divorcing parties are more vigilant than ever about the value and disposition of their marital assets. This article discusses methods and concepts which will help divorcing parties streamline the process of dividing their marital personal property, or personalty, during a divorce. Personalty can mean anything from an apple corer to a Rolex. Basically, it’s the “stuff” you acquired during your marriage. 

While it is often the case that divorcing parties cannot agree on anything, let alone go through their home piece by piece and divvy up personal effects, to the extent you are able to divide your possessions amicably, you should.   The primary reasons you should be dividing your own property are twofold: first, no one will have a better understanding of your assets and their value to you than you will; second, you should not have to pay an attorney to argue about who is keeping the living room sofa. 

 

Get as much of a “head start” as you can on the division of personalty. By head start I do not mean taking the assets you want and hiding them, I mean you should familiarize yourself with the plausible means by which you can divide your asset and the concepts that will help you do so in a streamlined fashion. The following are points you should consider when you and your spouse are dividing personalty.

 

Make lists and take pictures of your personal assets: Lists and pictures are a comprehensive way of inventorying your assets. Having an inventory allows you and your spouse to review the assets available for distribution. Inventories also serve as a way for parties to understand what items you can agree on and which will be at issue. Pictures can be used to illustrate whether items have been moved, have gone missing, or were inadvertently omitted from a list.

 

Account for depreciation: It is often the case that parties utilize different “accounting methods” when reviewing the value of assets depending on which party receives the item. For instance, the party getting a five year old car will use the blue book value while trying at the same time to claim that the five year old sofa is worth the same amount it was the day it was purchased. 

 

Keep in mind that the majority of your possessions have depreciated significantly and account for that depreciation in your internal calculation of who is getting what value. While you may feel like you are not receiving as much you would like from some of your items, provided your “accounting method” is consistent, you do not stand to lose as much as you might fear by accepting that the purchase price is not necessarily the current value, your property division will go more smoothly and you and your spouse will not spend as much in attorneys fees.

 

Agree on what should be appraised: Items of significant value which cannot be agreed upon should be appraised. The caveat here is what items you and your spouse think need to be appraised, who bears the cost of the appraisal, and how an appraiser is chosen. 

Creating a “cut off” value or a rule will help you decide which items to have appraised. For instance, agree on a dollar amount and do not have items you think fall below that dollar amount appraised. Alternatively, you can use a rule to help you decide, such as “if it should have been, or was, individually insured, have it appraised.” Laying these ground rules should help you and your spouse prevent later squabbling over which assets should be appraised.

 

With regard to who will pay the appraiser and how he or she is picked, call your attorney. While you do not want to rack up your bill arguing about these issues, your attorney will have insight as to how appraisal costs should be divided and be able to provide you with the names of appropriate appraisers.

 

Create a valuation methodology: It is imperative that you bear in mind the potential difference in the replacement value of your assets and their actual resale value. While something might be insured for one amount, its “street value” may be another amount. If you are getting something appraised, find out both how much you could sell it for on the day it is appraised and how much replacing it would cost. While it seems these numbers should be the same, many times they are not. When you are accounting for how much an asset is “worth” to you, remember this distinction!

 

When you cannot agree, use a neutral mediator or arbitrator: Using a neutral third party will save you money, time and hassle. Rather than having both you and your spouse pay your attorneys to listen to you bicker back and forth about personalty, choose one party to simply make decisions regarding the division of assets. Make the arbitrator’s or mediator’s decision binding. By having a third-party make a binding decision, you are essentially giving that person the power to make decisions about your property. 

 

While you may not be happy with any or all of the mediator’s or arbitrator’s decisions this process is more expedient and less expensive than many alternatives. Binding mediation or arbitration will move the process along and will allow you to move on to other (more important) issues. This method also has the benefit of keeping the division of personalty out of the judicial system. Court fights about property tend to be very costly and annoy the Court. Also, it is common practice for Family Court Master’s and Judges to enter an Order for equitable distribution and give the parties (30) days to divide personalty or appeal to binding arbitration. Remember, you are better off deciding the outcome than letting someone else.

 

Know your motivation: In most cases, there are two primary motivating factors affecting parties’ behavior as they attempt to divide their personalty; emotion and economy. While both these factors will play a role in parties’ decisions, they cannot be allowed to overwhelm your decision-making. Moderating, or at least staying attuned to, your motivations is essential. An over-emotional or overly economic approach will cause parties problems and cost money.

 

An example of an overly emotional reaction would be one spouse attempting to claim every chair, seat, and sofa from the house. Sadly, this does happen. While the spouse that does this may feel temporarily vindicated by the knowledge that his or her ex-spouse will not be able to sit down comfortably until he or she buys some seats, this impractical approach ultimately fails. The spouse who was controlled by his or her emotions will most likely lack artwork, tables, a bed… you understand my point. 

 

By the same token, an overly economic motivation will also lead to failure. For instance, adamant refusal to negotiate with your spouse over an item because of its economic value without taking into account other significant factors will lead to a negotiations deadlock. 

 

Even if you cannot control your motivating factors, at least be aware of them! Being cognizant of your motivations will allow you to “step back” and consider whether fighting about a particular item will help or hurt you in the long run. If you can understand your spouse’s motivations regarding the division of assets you will have even greater negotiating success.

 

Finally, if you and your spouse are at odds about an item, ask yourself whether you will care, remember or replace that item in (6) months or a year. If the answer is “no” then give it up and move on to something that really matters to you.

 

Keeping in mind the above points will allow you to make better decisions about dividing your personalty. Good luck!

OVERPAYMENT IN ONE ASPECT OF DIVORCE WILL NOT PREVENT FEE ASSESSMENT IN ANOTHER

 Most people familiar with family law realize that “divorce” is usually a catch-all term for multiple “cases within the case” such as child support, spousal support, custody, or equity actions. One Divorce Complaint can open up any number of actions within it which must be adjudicated and addressed in order for the overall divorce to move toward a conclusion. In the case of economic issues (equitable distribution and support), an Order must exist before a Decree can be entered.

Due to the fact that there can be strict divisions among the various causes of action, it can be difficult, if not impossible, for the Court to address an inequity in one area with a remedy from another.

 

To illustrate this point, the Court in Centre County recently issued a holding in the case of Allen v. Allen, 110 PDDRR 71 (Pa.C.P. 2010) which acknowledged the Court’s authority to assess attorneys and lost income to Wife due to Husband’s failure to obtain a Qualified Domestic Relations Order. The Court did not find that Husband’s overpayment in another aspect of the case precluded them from assessing him with these penalties.

 

I can only imagine the frustration the Husband felt in not having his credit applied to this deficiency, or in not getting similar satisfaction in recapturing that credit, but this case illustrates the fact that the courts will treat each aspect of the case on its own merits. In this instance, if Wife’s loss of income and attorney’s fees was a result of delay tactics, allowing the Court to simply redistribute a credit from another area will not have the same deterring effect as levying the costs and fees against him in this instance.

 

Furthermore, there are often policy restrictions in dealing with credits, particularly as it applies to child support. Domestic Relation Offices and the Pennsylvania State Collection and Disbursement Unit often preclude a payor from taking reduced support payments, and they will not issue a refund.  The credit usually carries until some intervening event occurs or the subject child is emancipated.

Be sure to discuss with your attorney how the different aspects of your divorce influence the other. You may find that what looks advantageous in your equitable distribution case, may be detrimental to your support case. Furthermore, understanding the financial restrictions between various causes of action, such as support and equitable distribution, will allow you to get a better grasp of your overall case. As always, if you have questions or don’t understand something, ask your lawyer; it is his or her job to make sure you understand what is going on in your case.

RECOILING COBRA PREMIUM SUBSIDIES

COBRA, the convenient acronym for the Consolidated Omnibus Budget Reconciliation Act, is Federal legislation which allows individuals to retain their health benefits for a limited time after they have been voluntarily or involuntarily terminated from their job.

This bit of legislation is often an important aspect of family law cases where a spouse loses their job or when a Divorce Decree is entered and an ex-spouse is no longer eligible to remain on the other’s medical insurance.

 

Under COBRA, individuals may be required to pay 102% of the premium for their plan. There have been, however, several premium subsidies provided to eligible individuals under American Recovery and Reinvestment Act of 2009 (“ARRA”). Congress has extended the expiration date for these subsidies on a few occasions, however, as of the drafting of this entry, no further action has occurred and the subsidy has expired for individuals who were involuntarily terminated from their jobs as of June 1, 2010.

 

An alert on COBRA and the expiration of its premium subsidy was recently issued by Steven Ludwig, a partner in Fox Rothschild’s Labor and Employment practice group. Please read Steven’s alert and also take a look at Fox’s Employee Benefits Blog for more information about this topic and others related to employment related issues.

DESTINATION DIVORCE--GUAM?

Shereen Arthur, Esquire, an attorney in our Philadelphia office and a new contributor to our blog, writes:

Destination weddings have become popular over the years because they can be cheaper and less stressful than a traditional wedding. Can the same be said for a divorce? The concept of the “quickie” divorce is not a new one, but can a spouse seek a “destination divorce” as a way to avoid Pennsylvania’s residency requirements for a no-fault divorce?

To file for divorce in Pennsylvania, one of the parties to the action must be a resident of Pennsylvania for at least six months prior to the date of filing. That six month residency requirement becomes an issue for those who have lived outside of Pennsylvania since their date of marriage and who are looking to divorce as soon as possible. In other words, the parties are searching for a divorce destination without the multiple month residency requirement. People have asked, “Are there any places to file for divorce that have a shorter residency requirement?” Let’s explore destination Guam!

Guam is a United States Territory that permits both non-residents and non-U.S. citizens to obtain a no-fault divorce provided that (1) the divorce is uncontested and (2) one spouse resides on Guam for a minimum of seven (7) days. See 19 G.C.A. § 8318(b) (2008). It is not clear, however, what it takes to satisfy Guam’s seven day residency requirement. 

But as simple as that may seem, your destination divorce does not stop with the entry of a divorce decree in a foreign jurisdiction. A foreign jurisdiction refers to any jurisdiction outside of the place of marriage. The question becomes whether Pennsylvania (the place of marriage) will recognize or give full faith and credit to the foreign divorce decree. For Pennsylvania to recognize a Guam divorce decree, the parties must establish (1) that both parties were afforded due process and (2) domiciliary intent.

First, due process requires that the non-filing party have notice of the divorce proceedings and an opportunity to be heard. See Keating v. Keating, 855 A.2d 80, 84 (Pa. Super. Ct. 2004). Second, the filing party must not only have resided in Guam for the requisite seven days but must show that Guam was his/her bona fide domicile –“domiciliary intent.” See Sargeant v. Sargeant, 307 A.2d 353, 356 (Pa. Super. Ct. 1973) (citations omitted). A Pennsylvania Court will evaluate all of the surrounding circumstances to determine domiciliary intent, including, but not limited to, a parties’ place of employment, where the driver’s license was issued, voter registration, and vehicle registration. 

Before you take what may seem to be a quick and easy road to your destination divorce, be certain that Pennsylvania will recognize your “foreign” divorce.  

TAX TIME

We have reached April and the spring season; the time of year when divorcing couples either fight over tax deductions or stupidly sign joint income tax returns when they should not.

Here are some tips that might save you a call to the lawyer and the bill associated with that call:

 

1.             Tax Deductions:

You get a tax deduction just for being alive and you get one for each dependent child who lived with you for more than half the year.  A deduction is a subtraction from income and for the 2009 tax year (the return due in April, 2010) the deduction is worth $3,650.00.

 

Does this mean that by claiming the child you save that amount in income tax?  No.  You get to reduce the amount of income you pay tax on by $3,650.00 . So, if you earned $50,000 in 2009, you will only be taxed on $46,350.  This is a good thing.  But what is that deduction really worth?  To figure that out, you need to know your marginal tax bracket.  People seem to think that their tax rate at the Federal level is 33% - 35%.  It might be, but you have to earn a lot of income before the government starts to tax you at that rate.  Most Americans fall into marginal brackets of 15% - 28%.  That means that the real tax savings from the personal deduction (also called an “exemption”) is either 15% or 28 % of the $3,650.00.

 

As a result, deducting the child saves you either $547.50 or $1,022.00 in actual income tax.  You need to know this because you may allow a non-custodial parent to take the deduction (Form 8332) and you might even get the person to give you something for the deduction if his/her tax rate is higher than yours.

 

Who gets the deduction?  The parent with primary custody during the tax year, not the parent who paid more support.  If you equally share physical custody of the child, the deduction for the child goes to the parent with the higher income no matter who spent the most on the child.

 

2.             Tax Credits:

There is also the animal known as a “tax credit.”  A credit, unlike a deduction, is an actual credit on the tax you owe, unlike a deduction or exemption which lowers the amount of income subject to tax.

There are tax credits for what you pay for dependent day care.  You can claim the credit if you pay the day care even though you don’t get to the deduction for the child.

 

3.             Joint Tax Returns:

If your recently separated spouse shows up at your door with a joint tax return this month and you have not had time to discuss it with your attorney; DO NOT SIGN the return. This will make your spouse angry but that is not our purpose (even though it might be yours.)

 

A joint tax return is a joint liability.  When you sign the return you are warranting that it is accurate.  Make certain that it is.  Or at least get a written agreement that if it is not, you will not be the one paying the bill.  This is especially true where income comes from self employment or a closely held business such as a Subchapter S corporation.

 

Most folks just sign these returns out of habit, others do it to avoid a fight, and some do it because their spouse shows them they will get a refund that can be shared.  Just be aware. The return with the $3,000 refund could be a return that costs you $10,000 if the IRS finds that the return is inaccurate by $30,000.  And unless you can shoehorn yourself into a status called “innocent spouse,” the IRS has the right to collect all of the tax from either joint filer, no matter who was responsible for producing the income.

 

If you want to avoid a fight or at least make it a smaller one.  Download the form the IRS has on its site for a tax extension to August 15.  The grant is automatic if you pay any tax due for 2009 by April 15 when you file for the extension.

A DIVORCE NEGOTIATION PRIMER

We are often asked whether the negotiation process in divorce is admissible in the proceeding. “If I agree to take the house at $400,000, will that bind me if we can’t close on that number and the case goes to trial?” “If we said we would take 30 months of alimony at $3,000 can I demand more later if my spouse does not accept?” The answer to both questions is yes. Negotiation is meant to be an open set of transactions and one is not bound until a contract (offer and acceptance) is reached. Furthermore, in order to encourage these kinds of negotiations, the Rules of Evidence forbid the introduction of what proposals were made during negotiations. Thus if my client says: “Dear husband, I will buy out your interest in the house at $400,000, if you will pay me thirty months of alimony at $3,000” the offer will not be admissible to prove that the house is worth $400,000.

But there are times when Courts will hear testimony about negotiations where the purpose is not so much to prove the terms of a negotiation as the fact that the negotiation was conducted in bad faith. The classic example is in the realm of custody. Many counties send the parties to mediation before a custody hearing is held. The mediation is supposed to be confidential; the rules say so. And this means that you can pretty much say what you want in mediation. But let us say that on Monday you go to mediation and you spend an hour or two negotiating over whether your spouse gets the kids Thursday to Sunday or Friday to Sunday. No settlement is reached. Five days later you are in Court. Your “court” position is that your husband is a drug addict and a pedophile. Unless you just learned of his wayward ways in the days between the date of the mediation and the court appearance, you will probably be asked pointedly how you were willing to agree to overnights on Monday at mediation when it was your official position that there were substance and sexual abuse issues hanging in the wings. The purpose of admitting this testimony is to show that you are an unethical negotiator willing to make false threats to advance your legal position. Not good.

This does not come up so much in the economic side of the divorce. It can in situations where a spouse offers to “take” an asset for one value but demand a completely different value for the same asset if he is “giving” it. The fun here usually revolves around household contents and their value. Let’s say husband has moved out and left most of the contents behind. In negotiation he asserts that the contents were worth $20,000. Wife counters saying that she will give him the contents in exchange for an additional $20,000 in cash or retirement. If husband rejects that proposal, the offer may be used to show that attorney’s fees and time were wasted on frivolous negotiations. It does not however, help us determine the value of the contents.

One other point should be considered that does not have to do with the law but the ethics of negotiation. Negotiation is intended to narrow issues. As issues narrow, doors should start to close. Wife wants 62% of the assets. Husband offers 52%. Wife wants 4 years of alimony. Husband offers two. For purposes of trial, no one is bound by these assertions. But if Wife’s next offer is that she wants 62% and five years of alimony, and I am husband’s counsel, I stop the train and announce that my client and I are getting off. The only credible basis to increase a demand during the negotiation process is if there is new information that makes the reversal of position fair or appropriate. If wife discovers that she has a health condition, that might justify negotiating backwards and increasing her demand. But absent new information, a party should recognize that in negotiation, as issues and positions narrow, one cannot go backward without losing credibility and putting your lawyer in a similar position. This problem often arises in negotiations over property in tandem with alimony. It often occurs that months will be spent working out an asset split. When agreement is finally reached, one party re-opens the door and suggests that it is now time to discuss alimony. The other party responds that the whole basis of making a disproportionate split of assets was premised upon the fact that there would be no alimony. If alimony or counsel fees are going to be part of the negotiation, get those terms “on the table” early in the process so time is not wasted creating a false hope that settlement is near.

THE NEW (OLD) WORLD OF DIVORCE FINANCE

Like many others our client recently lost his job in the Fall. Realizing that he was not going to quickly replace it in the industry he was trained in, he decided to look into buying a business. He did his research and identified a business he wanted. The business involved a license so he retained a lawyer to assist him securing the license. The acquisition was going to require financing so he searched for lenders who were willing to finance the business. All of these elements were coming together in a sensible way. As his divorce counsel, he asked us to prepare a letter to his lender specifying the likely outcome of his divorce from a financial viewpoint.

This should have been the tip-off. Three weeks after writing that letter on his behalf, he received a letter from the broker for the potential lender breezily noting that any financing would be contingent upon the lender’s receipt of a written property settlement agreement. Now, in this instance, the client reports that he has kept the deal alive but there is a moral to the story. Lenders are going back to their old ways in the wake of the financial crisis of September, 2008.

In olden days (meaning about a decade ago), once a bank or lender discovered that a person was involved in a divorce, the financing process stopped cold until a property settlement agreement was produced. For many people, this occurred weeks or months after they had formed an agreement of sale to acquire a property or business. Typically, it occurred in real estate transaction. A couple would agree to separate and one spouse would strike out to look for a new home. Once spouse found the home of his dreams, he would submit an agreement of sale. He would put down the earnest money deposit and spend days compiling all the financial data for the mortgage underwriter. No one told the fool that when the mortgage application got to the “underwriting” department, folks with arm bands and green eyeshades would issue their standard letter asking for documents x,y,z and a written property settlement agreement.

Anyone familiar with divorce knows that a written property settlement agreement does not spring from the ground. It can take months to negotiate usually because one party is not inclined to complete the process. So here is the new home buyer, emotionally and financially committed to acquire a new home, stymied by the absence of this written agreement. Usually, buyers can get out of the transaction because most home or business sales are contingent upon financing. But much time and energy was wasted before the underwriter became the undertaker to the deal.

About ten years ago, this started to change as underwriting principles loosened. As we all know, by 2006-2007, many banks were loaning to borrowers who had little more than an agreement of sale and a measurable pulse. Not so today. The old, unfriendly underwriters are back and they are watching. So if you are in the process of divorce, ask your realtor, banker or business broker early on whether your status is going to prevent you from getting a significant loan until a settlement with your spouse is reached.

CONFLICTING CASE LAW ON MARRIAGE OFFICIANTS

 The process of getting married in Pennsylvania requires three basic requirements and one optional requirement: 1) a license must be obtained from the county courthouse, 2) the marriage must be solemnized through a ceremony that is 3) overseen by an officiant, and (optional) followed by occasionally humorous and usually embarrassing speeches from friends and family.

Though seemingly routine, the role of the officiant is actually critical to this process because they are authorized under Pennsylvania law to solemnize the marriage and have the responsibility of executing and returning the certificate to the County’s Register of Wills for recording.

 

23 Pa.C.S.A. § 1503 offers six categories of persons who Pennsylvania has qualified to solemnize marriages: current and former or retired (Pennsylvania or Pennsylvania District) justices, judges, or district justices (provided the retired magistrates are serving as senior judges or district justices); mayors of any city or borough, a minister, priest, or rabbi of any regularly established church or congregation.

 

There has been, however, some disagreement in Pennsylvania as to whether certain members of the “clergy” can perform legal marriages. York County has invalidated marriages solemnized by ministers of the Universal Life Church. The case, Heyer v. Hollerbush, dealt with Ms. Heyer’s request that their marriage be invalidated after approximately a year of marriage on the basis that the officiant, a minister with the Universal Life Church, did not qualify as a “a minister, priest, or rabbi of any regularly established church or congregation” under Section 1503(a)(6). York County agreed with Ms. Heyer and declared the marriage invalid from its inception. York County effectively declared that their marriage never happened.

 

The Universal Life Church is most readily known as an online church where people can obtain their ordination as Ministers through an online application form. York County’s narrow reading of Section 1503 cited the absence of a “regularly established church or congregation” as the reason why they could not accept Universal Life ministers as officiants of weddings.

 

The invalidation of marriages based on these grounds, particularly in light of the 2005 abolition of common law marriages in Pennsylvania, can have major ramifications to parties’ financial interests and their ownership interests in property. For example, unless jointly titled, the marital residence may suddenly become the sole property of the party on the title. Almost overnight the non-titled party has become a trespasser in what had been their home and could be removed by the titled party relatively easily.

 

Further complicating this issue is that two hours east of York County, the Bucks County Court of Common Pleas has upheld the validity of marriages performed by Universal Life Ministers. You can read Judge C. Theodore Fritsch, Jr.’s Memorandum Opinion at: http://www.ulccaselaw.com/legalPDF/Bucks-county-valid-ulc-marriage.pdf 

 

The Bucks County case was one of several cases filed by the American Civil Liberties Union in 2008 seeking declaratory judgments that validate marriages that may otherwise be called into question based on the Heyer decision. As of late 2008, public records indicate that these marriages, filed jointly by the parties and without opposition (as opposed to the Heyer case in which the parties were adverse), were upheld as valid. 

 

Practically speaking, however, this interpretive discord of Section 1305(a)(6) among Pennsylvania’s counties raises some interesting and serious questions: is a Bucks County marriage valid if the parties move and become residents of York County? Would they have to have another ceremony to solemnize their marriage? Rather than go through a divorce proceeding, could a party move to York County, establish residency, and then seek to invalidate their marriage?

 

At least at the County level (the Superior Court has yet to address the issue), the progression of declaratory judgments validating marriages similar to the Heyer case has helped to build precedence and close such dangerous loopholes. Nevertheless, it is important for people to investigate whether the county in which they will be married recognizes marriage ceremonies and selected officiants so that they may avoid any future analysis akin to Heyer v. Hollerbush.

TIGERGATE +/- JON & KATE + 8

A couple of weeks ago we were asked by one media outlet to comment upon the Gosselin divorce.  While this certainly was a “media opportunity” the plain truth is that there was not a great deal to say that would have been newsworthy.

The Gosselins were a phenomenon created by the media.  While their family situation was most unusual, they were not unique nor newsworthy but for the fact that they had so many children and that got them a television show.  In the end, their notoriety made them somewhat wealthy and newsworthy but there was no true staying power to the story.  One has to wonder whether their marriage would have survived had they been the same people they started out as; a young couple with a large family struggling to make it all work.  Ten years from now, they will be a trivia question and little more.  

 

The Woods situation is quite different.  It is clear to anyone who can read a newspaper or click onto “The Golf Channel” that Mr. Woods changed the sport in a way much as Arnold Palmer did in the late 1950s and early 1960s.  He is the face of the sport.  But fame comes at a price and brings with it many complications far beyond the ken of the young people upon whom the fame is bestowed.

 

We have no real familiarity with the situation but Mr. Woods was “built” from birth to become a world class golfer.  And in that aspect, he succeeded admirably.  But we commend to you a careful reading of Andre Agassi’s autobiography “Open”.  It describes a childhood not unlike that experienced by children who worked in coal mines in the early 20th century.  Yes, Mr. Agassi was hitting tennis balls in exclusive clubs throughout his childhood but after one has hit 1,000 serves during the course of a weekend of practice, is the result any more enjoyable than separating bituminous from anthracite coal on a conveyor belt?  Woods has not yet written his story and chances are it will be some time before he does but we suspect that while most of us were at proms and hanging out during high school at the neighbor’s pool, Mr. Woods was devoting his time to safely exiting sandtraps and pot bunkers.  Having devoted his childhood and the first decade of his adult life almost exclusively to golf, it is little wonder that he may have been tempted to indulge in other sports.

 

From a divorce side, the fascination for us is in the “issue” of brand value.  We are told that Mr. Woods has earned more than $1 billion dollars in his relatively short career.  But the brand produced as much as $100 million dollars a year in revenue and until a month ago that brand seemed to have no foreseeable end.  Thus, it made perfect sense for him to renegotiate with his wife what was a $20 million payout after ten years (the couple has been married for five) and “up” the payments to $80 million if it would buy silence and peace for the “Woods brand”  This revelation however, only caused the number of sexual claimants to multiply.  If Ms. Wood’s can quadruple her “take” in exchange for her silence, why can’t every woman who kissed, slept or claims to have had a relationship with Mr. Woods sign on for some kind of remuneration or a moment of fame.  In a word, the levee broke and we now have an entire coterie of women claiming that they were involved in some way or another.  

 

The reason why Mr. Woods could earn $100 million a year was because he was not only a fabulous golfer but was perceived to be squeaky clean. John Daley could win the grand slam and four other majors and never hope to equal that kind of income.  So, if guilty, it is only fair that the endorsements depart and Mr. Wood’s will have to resort to a journeyman’s income of $20-30 million.  But what is sad, and often lost in this the race to “the truth” is that two young people with small children are caught in a maelstrom of controversy that only hurts them and their offspring.  Their advisers are largely “friends” who feel badly for her and who live from the income that his huge prestige has provided. Most of us will never know what that kind of wealth and notoriety bring.  But they come with a price and that is the complete loss of privacy not only for one’s self but for family as well. And while we often find ourselves coveting the wealth and notoriety of others, realize as well that these blessings come at a price that is almost as great as the benefits they bestow.

 

There is also very real contrast to be drawn.  The media made the Gosselins and, we can speculate, by making them famous, they planted the seeds of marital destruction.  It may have happened in any event but, as with the Woods family, fame and wealth created temptations.  But Mr. Woods’ talent will afford him the capacity to make many millions more.  The Gosselins are famous by circumstance and the television show that made them famous was among the first to reject them when their fantasy world crumbled.  We all aspire to be rich and famous but, as they approach this season of thanksgiving we suspect that wealth and fame are not being celebrated in two households that started 2009 as our vision of ultimate success stories.

NOT SO FAST

The Wall Street Journal edition for August 22, 2009 features a fine article by John Freeman which the author describes as a “manifesto for slow communication.”  What made it all the more real was the experience of the past two days.  The most memorable moments of that period were: (1) a colleague telling me that a client’s effort to start a new business was gravely set back by an errant “reply to all email” and (2) the experience of watching a family of six sit down to a Saturday night dinner in a local restaurant whereupon half the family immediately reached for their hand held devices.

I defer to Mr. Freeman:

“The ultimate form of progress… is learning to decide what is working and what is not; and working at this pace, emailing at this frantic rate is pleasing very few of us.  It is encroaching on part of our lives that should be separate or sacred; altering our minds and our ability to know our world…”

While acknowledging that this new technology has its merit Freeman notes that for the first time since the Industrial Revolution the concept of time “away” from work has begun to steadily erode.  In our new search to remain connected he notes that we now endure flotillas of unnecessary jabbering that makes it difficult to distinguish “signal from noise”.

The new phenomenon we experience today is what I will term “drive by lawyering.”  With increasing frequency clients ask to skip coming in for a personal interview in favor of a phone call. Better yet, get an answer on the fly by email. These are indeed useful devices for both lawyers and clients but they are handled without perspective.  The goal is to put your economic house in order or to formulate a new living arrangement with your children.  This kind of goal is rarely advanced in increments of ten or twenty minute conversation let alone a five minute email exchange.

Your divorce involves your family and your money.  Take the time to do your best to get it right and give your lawyer the tools and the time to do so.

REAL ESTATE AS AN INVESTMENT

Lawyers are not financial advisers but we do lots of real estate transactions and for most divorce clients, the largest asset in the portfolio is the family home.  So in just about every matrimonial case, there is the inevitable question.  Should we hold or is it time to fold?

It’s always good to study the data.  And the news for our region for the second quarter of 2009 is relatively good.  Prudential Fox and Roach reported the first region wide increase in housing prices in two years.  The biggest increase was in the city (6.8%) while the suburban increase was less than half that (2.7%).  There had been a sharp decrease in the first quarter of the year.  We have also weathered the storm well compared to other large cities. Philadelphia prices have declined 12% from their peak while average declines in the ten largest cities was closer to 30%.

Inventories (homes listed for sale) are leveling off and there is an increase in the rate of sale of those houses in inventory.  This has meant a reduction in the number of days it takes to sell a house.

So, does that mean the end of the downturn is over.  Even the experts a Fox & Roach hasten to note: “Those expecting a near-term return of 2005’s peak prices will be sadly disappointed.”   Within the region, the worst sales markets were Camden and South Jersey (down 10-11% in the past year) while Trenton area fared best (down 0.5%).  The Philadelphia market fell 5.31%.

While the second quarter offered an uptick in the rate of sales, it still took 20% longer to sell a home in June 2009 than it did June, 2008.  The average house sold was on the market more than three months.  If no new homes were listed, the 2,500 homes on the market would still take almost a year to clear at the current rates of sale.  That number has changed very little from last June.

Homes are not just places to dwell in.  They are an investment.  And since the collapse of the dot-com bubble of 2000 Americans have invested heavily in their homes.  We have been taught and there is data to show that homes can be a good investment.  What most of us tend to ignore is the fact that value is a moving target. And in markets like Phoenix and LasVegas, where prices have declined an average of 33% in the last 12 months the picture is especially clear.

Let’s use LasVegas as an example.  Let us say that in April you owned a house in that market in which you had equity (price $300,000 –debt of $200,000) of $100,000.  A buyer approaches you and offers you $300,000.  But you bought the house for $450,000.  So you decide to wait and turn down the offer.  Between April and the end of July, the data show that you lost another 2.6% on average.  Now suppose you took the offer and took your equity of $100,000 and put it in an S&P index fund, it would have risen to $130,000.  So your decision to hold cost you $40,000 between the loss on what you had and the money you failed to make.

Home equity is an engine of potential wealth.  We are not advocating irresponsible borrowing but home equity is trapped wealth except in times when home prices are rising. And with the inventory of homes still out there, it is going to be a long time before we see prices rise.  Bear in mind also that the increases reported earlier in this piece come at a time when interest rates are at historic lows.  As interest rates rise, price increases in homes will inevitably face the headwinds of increased interest rates.  So, if you bought at the height of the market, realize that in your quest to recover your losses, you may be foregoing the opportunity make real money in other investments.

AND YOU THOUGHT YOUR HOUSE WAS YOUR BIG INVESTMENT?

If you are not one of those people anxiously awaiting the latest revision to the Pennsylvania support guidelines, you may be in a minority.  We have no news to report on this subject except that the recommendations of the rules committee have been sent to the Supreme Court for their review and approval.

The Pennsylvania guidelines are based on models for child costs developed by the Center for Nutrition Policy and Promotion at the US Agriculture Department.  That agency has just issued a report on its assessment of what it costs to raise a child in 21 century America.  Here are the numbers in the raw:

For families with annual household       The cost is estimated to be     Per annum

Income of:

Less than $57,000                                              159,870                                       8,882

57,000-98,000                                                      221,190                                     12,288

98,000+                                                                 366,660                                      20,370

 

The study, which involves monitoring expenditures of 5,000 families shows that there are economies of scale as families get larger. The average couple spends 27% on one child; 40% for two children and 47% for three. Costs tend to center on the first five years of childhood and during the consumer nightmare years of 15-17.  Kids in elementary school up through middle school are more affordable.  Curiously, this rule did not apply to folks in the lowest income bracket. Their expenses remained relatively flat throughout the child’s minority.

 

These numbers are averages.  They assume no support obligation after high school so college is not part of the equation.

 

The breakouts are also of some interest.  The study found that one-third of the cost of raising a child is spent on housing.  Food comes in at about 16% and is closely followed by transportation costs of roughly 14%.  Clothing consumes about 6% of the total cost and is overshadowed by healthcare which 7.8%.  Day care and education are lumped together and consume another 16%.  The final 8% is the dangerous “miscellaneous” category that probably includes, lessons, cell phones and itunes downloads.

 

For households with more than $98,000 the expenses are about the same except that education/day care jumps from 16 to 21%.

 

The numbers are premised upon the costs of a second child, not the first so they are tending to understate the real costs of Baby No. 1.

 

The report is available on line from the USDA.  It is miscellaneous publication no. 1528-2008 and was issued in July, 2009. The data are drawn from surveys completed in 2005-06 but the expenditures were then adjusted based on changes in the Consumer Price Index (CPI).

 

Two other details to add to the pain are worth mentioning.  The 2008 baby is estimated to cost just under $300,000 before he or she reaches high school graduation ($484,000 for the upper income bracket of $98,000+) and the urban northeastern states have costs that are almost 20% higher than the national average.

 

So how bad is this in a relative sense.  The USDA has been tracking these types of expenditures since 1960.  In real dollars (inflation adjusted) the child of today costs 18% more than the child of 50 years ago.  Ironically, housing has almost nothing to do with this even though the house of today is far larger than it was a half century ago. The biggest change is in child care and education growing from 2% to 16% today.  Health care is next.  It has doubled in cost over time from 4% to 8%. Transportation clothing and food have all declined as a piece of the pie with the cost of feeding a child reduced by 1/3 and clothing costs cut almost in half (11% to 6%).  But the miscellaneous costs have increased from 8% to 12% as the child of fifty years ago had to occupy himself with Lincoln logs, Barbie, bicycles and teen magazines.

"WE'RE TAKING THIS TO THE SUPREME COURT, BABY"

As one might expect family court is a pretty emotional place to be and at least once or twice a year a distressed litigant with an unhappy result is heard to utter the words found in this title.

We thought it might be of some interest to report on how appeals work and if the Supreme Court is a place where relief can be had.  The discussion necessarily starts with: what Supreme Court?  There are two of relevance here.  The Supreme Court of Pennsylvania is the Commonwealth’s highest appellate court and the oldest such court in the nation.  What most citizens do not realize is that, by and large, it is a court of discretionary appeals. This is to say that the Court decides what cases it will hear based upon orders granting allowance of such appeals.  You have to ask the court to review your case and the justices actually vote on whether to do so.  There are published appellate rules stating that the criteria used to decide when they will exercise their discretion in favor of hearing an appeal.  The most commonly invoked rule is that the appellant presents a unique question of law not previously decided and which the court believes of sufficient importance to merit review.  The second route to the state Supreme Court is to show that a ruling of the Pennsylvania Superior Court strays from existing law and is inconsistent with established precedent.

Now, what about the “nine” who inhabit that building behind the Capitol in Washington?  The United State Supreme Court is also a court of limited jurisdiction.  Ordinarily it will grant “certiorari” (also an allowance of appeal) in cases where there is a federal question, meaning a question involving laws passed by Congress and interpreted in the federal judicial system.  Each state and the District of Columbia have both federal courts and state courts.  The United States Supreme Court may also grant an appeal in matters where state courts have abridged rights which the US Supreme Court views as fundamental.  Common examples of this are found in the area of criminal law where states have adopted laws or procedures the US Supreme Court finds inimical to well established freedoms such as the right of privacy, the right to a fair trial or the right to hold property.

It is exceptionally rare for the United States Courts including the federal district courts in each state or the US Supreme Court to hear family court matters.  There is actually authority holding that family law matters are best left to the states themselves to decide.  The US Supreme Court has ruled that the rights of a parent are “fundamental” but except in circumstances involving termination of parental rights (in contrast to regulation of them) the United States Courts are to abstain from hearing matters involving family law.  This general rule has some exceptions but they are tiny.  In a word, the US Supreme Court is not going to hear an appeal of your divorce, custody or support case unless you can show that the procedure the state has established to regulate those cases is so flawed that it denies you fundamental rights like due process of law.

As for the Pennsylvania Supreme Court, it has much broader powers to decide what cases it will hear.  We recently asked the Supreme Court to review a decision of the Pennsylvania Superior Court where we believed the Superior Court had misconstrued both the state law governing support and precedent laid down by the Supreme Court in the 1990s regulating what constituted income for support purposes.  A 1984 statute had established the definition of income for purposes of support.  The Supreme Court had ruled in Humphreys v. DeRoss that income did not include gifts or loans that a party received unless a party had a plain right to the gift. Almost all gifts are given in the discretion of the donor and not a matter of “right”.

In our judgment the Superior Court had strayed from established precedent when it reversed a trial court ruling holding that money our client had received as a gift was not income for support.  We filed a request for allowance of appeal asking the Supreme Court to review the matter and, in June of this year, it not only adopted our position but instantly reversed the Superior Court and reinstated the trial court ruling.  This is uncommon because, the standard procedure is to grant the appeal and then review briefs and hear argument from both sides.  

But because there was already statutory authority defining income and Supreme Court had recently interpreted that statute, it appears to have decided that further debate of the issue was not required.

Appeals are, and have always been, a slow and expensive process.  Customarily they are heard only after all of the trial court proceedings are concluded.  One has the right to appeal any final ruling of a trial court, but that appeal is to the Pennsylvania Superior Court.  The party appealing must prepare a record copying all of the relevant pleadings and exhibits material to the ruling of the trial court and write a brief (of not more than 50 pages) summarizing how the trial court either failed to follow existing precedent or abused its discretion in ruling as it did.  Disposition of an appeal customarily takes nine months from the date the appeal is first filed to disposition by a three judge panel of the Superior Court.  Because appellate briefs must contain citation to applicable law and the transcripts and exhibits used at trial it is fairly common to take an hour to write each page of an appellate brief.  Appeals are ordinarily disposed of after oral argument by a written opinion evaluating the merit of the appeal.  The Supreme Court does this only in cases where it decides that the appeal merits consideration in the first place.

So if you are “taking this up” to a higher court, it is helpful to know where and how an appeal is processed.

HEALTH INSURANCE AND DIVORCE: GOOD NEWS IN SMALL PACKAGES

As Congress finally tackles the larger issue of health care reform, many Americans are struggling with a small but vital issue; their own health insurance.  This has become a tough commodity to find at any price and each change in coverage offers the risk that existing illnesses or conditions may be excluded from coverage.  For some time now, federal law governing employers with 20 or more employees required that continuation coverage be afforded for 18-36 months to any employee or eligible dependent who would otherwise lose insurance coverage by reason of a job termination or divorce.

Problems emerged if the business had fewer than 20 employees, the federal law (known by the acronym COBRA) did not apply. So, employees who worked for small businesses often found that they would not be able to continue their health insurance coverage.

Earlier this Summer, the Pennsylvania General Assembly sought to address the problem with a “mini-COBRA” bill directed to insurance providers.  A summary of the bill was prepared by our Labor and Employment Law Department members Erin Fitzgerald and Steven Ludwig.

Effective July 10, 2009 Pennsylvania’s new state law requires that the opportunity to continue group health coverage be provided to employees of small employers with 2 to 19 employees.

The law requires insurers to provide the opportunity to continue group health coverage to certain employees and eligible dependents who would otherwise lose coverage.  An employer is required to notify former employees and others of their right to continue group health coverage.

The motivation for the legislation was the federal stimulus bill which provides certain employees who are involuntarily terminated from employment on or before December 31, 2009, and their dependents, with a COBRA subsidy.  The subsidy allows the employee to pay only 35% of the health insurance premium with taxpayers picking up 65%.  The Pennsylvania legislation will extend the subsidy to reach eligible employees and their dependents at employers with fewer than 20 employees.  Although the federal subsidy is scheduled to end, the Pennsylvania law has no sunset provision.

Under the new law, a covered employee or eligible dependent who suffers a “qualifying event” causing the loss of health coverage is eligible to elect continued coverage for up to nine additional months.  However, the employee or eligible dependent may only elect continued coverage if he or she was covered under the group health plan for the entire three-month period preceding the “qualifying event.”  Qualifying events include, but are not limited to, the death of the employee, termination of employment for reasons other than gross misconduct, and divorce.  Employees who are eligible for Medicare or who are eligible for or covered by other group health insurance are not eligible to extend benefits or to receive the federal subsidy.

After electing continued coverage, premiums (which can be increased to 105% of the cost of group health coverage) must be remitted monthly.  If the cause of the loss in coverage is involuntary termination of employment between July 10, 2009 and December 31, 2009, the 65% federal subsidy is available for up to nine months for eligible participants.  Involuntary termination generally means severance from employment because of the unilateral decision of the employer to terminate the employee.

Employers have several obligations under the new law.  Employers must notify the administrator of the group health plan, the covered employee and the insurer of any qualifying event, within thirty days of the qualifying event.  The notice given to the covered employee must include notice of the employee’s right to continue group health benefits.  This notice should be given in writing and should include contact information for the health insurer.  The U.S. Department of Labor has provided a “Model Alternative Notice” to provide to employees eligible for state continuation coverage.  However, the model notice will need to be modified to conform to Pennsylvania law and a different notice will need to be used after the subsidy is no longer available.  That model notice can be found at: http://www.dol.gov/ebsa/COBRAmodelnotice.html.  Employers will need to closely coordinate with their health insurer so that proper notice is provided to covered employees.

After the covered employee has been properly notified, he or she has 30 days to notify the Plan Administrator of the decision to elect continuation coverage.  Within 14 days of receiving the employee’s decision, the Plan Administrator must notify the insurer of the employee’s decision.

SHHHH! DON'T TELL MY LAWYER

Clients have a sixth sense for things that are problematic. Unfortunately, that sense is coupled with a tendency to freeze and avoid talking about the problem. Often times, clients prefer to ignore the problem, or assume that it will solve itself. 

Lawyers fancy themselves as problem solvers and good lawyers have a knack for doing just that. Unless the lawyer knows and understands the problem, however, solutions are not easily found. When a client senses a problem, there are three places where clients tend to move quietly and not tell their attorneys what their plans are: tax returns, home sales, and asset transfers and sales.  As one might expect, the failure to examine these transactions with an attorney can be harmful, or even fatal, to the financial interests of the client.  Let’s take a look:

                Tax returns.   Joint tax returns make for joint liability. Every year by April 15, private taxpayers must file their income tax returns and tax payments for the previous year. For example, the 2008 tax year closed on December 31.  So, tax returns and taxes were due on April 15, 2009. Historically, almost all couples file joint returns because that is what they have done in the past. Also, there are usually tax savings associated with a joint return.  For Americans who are paid wages, there are not many options in terms of tax avoidance.  Where one or both of the taxpayers are self-employed, however, there is room for mischief. Unfortunately, clients tend to assume that tax fraud is something that affects the other “self employed” guy, and that nothing bad will ever happen to them. As a result, every year clients end up signing joint income tax returns without realizing that if the return “blows up” and is challenged by the IRS, any resulting liability is what attorneys call joint and several.  That means if your spouse puts false numbers on the return, the tax law says that, with few exceptions, you agree that your assets can be seized to pay the tax and penalties arising from the matter.  The fact that you are separated is not itself and impediment to collection efforts by the IRS. The classic case is Duff v. Duff, 510 Pa. 251 (Pa. Supreme 1986).  Although there are ways to try to address this problem, the starting point is to realize that joint returns make for joint legal responsibility. Your oath that the return is accurate extends beyond your own income to that of the spouse with whom you file.

                Home Sales.   If husband and wife own a home as joint tenants or tenants in common, neither can sell the property without the consent of the other.  In order to sell the property, the co-owner must join in the deed to convey a clear title to property.  So, when we are asked whether a spouse can sell a house out from under the other, the answer is no, unless the house is held in the name alone of the spouse having title.  That’s good news.  But, it is fairly common for a separated husband and wife to agree that they want to sell their joint property.  They sign the listing agreement together and the broker/agent attempts to sell the property. Let’s say, for example, a couple lists for $400,000 and they receive and offer of $375,000, which they find attractive.  Again, the tendency is to not solicit legal advice. So, they agree to take the $375,000 and they sign the agreement of sale tendered by the prospective buyers. This is major because they are now “under agreement.” Although these agreements usually contain conditions allowing for an “out” by the buyer e.g., home inspection, mortgage contingency), they rarely allow the seller to back out.  Once the agreement is signed, the sellers are legally bound to convey title at settlement upon tender of the contract price.  This is a good thing, right?  Yes and no.  Without further agreement between the sellers, the title agent will issue the proceeds in a single check that mirrors the title to the property. This means that neither party will have access to the proceeds from the sale unless there is an agreement. If you are planning on using these proceeds to acquire a substitute residence, you may find that you have no access to the funds until you “agree” with your spouse on a distribution or the court otherwise decides your case. Without an agreement, the proceeds will be left in escrow until there is an agreement or court order disposing of the same.

                Assets Transfers and Sales. The law seems clear that unless a court order prevents an individual from selling or moving assets from an individual account, each spouse can buy, sell or transfer assets as he or she pleases.  We find that clients tend avail themselves of these powers.  This is not bad in and of itself.  Clients, however, tend to ignore the fact that each time sales and transfers are effected, there is a likelihood that the spouse not in possession of the account will want to “trace” each transaction or transfer in order to insure that no proceeds were skimmed from the transaction.  This process requires expensive accounting, which tends to consume time and money, as well as slow down the divorce process.

                If you are signing legal documents of any substance while going through a separation or divorce, let your attorney know.  If you are signing a document with your spouse from whom you are separated, it is imperative that you understand the legal consequences before you sign.  As a rule, assume that you cannot “undo” a document once you have signed it.  

ASSISTED REPRODUCTIVE TECHNOLOGY

In the past, I have blogged extensively about the legal, medical and value-based decisions made in the case of the unmarried California woman who gave birth to octuplets, while having six other children at home. Enough!

I just returned from an ABA conference in Baltimore regarding the legal aspects of assisted reproductive technology (ART). It was an interesting conference, as I got to meet other lawyers who practice in this area of law. We talked extensively about the issues surrounding egg, sperm and embryo donation. I learned a good deal about the pitfalls that can occur and the many different ways of approaching the problem of infertility, depending upon medical, legal, financial and geographical issues.

The most important fact that I can share is the importance of having experienced people involved in the transaction—both legally and medically. This area of practice keeps growing and becoming more and more sophisticated. There are many people who hold themselves out as experienced, but may not have the level of experience that leads to deep knowledge of the complications that arise. 

If you are looking for assistance, do your homework. Make sure your medical and legal team practice frequently in this area. Interview several potential people before making any decisions. Contact medical practices associated with the teaching hospitals in the area: Temple, University of Pennsylvania/Pennsylvania Hospital, Cooper—to name a few.

While most surrogacy/infertility agencies are legitimate, you should choose an agency with a long and successful history. Use Google or other web-sites to investigate. Several useful sites are: http://www.sart.org/; http://www.asrm.org/;http://www.cdc.gov/ART/. A case in which I represented a surrogate mother and the Estate of her dead child established a legal precedent that agencies are responsible to intended parents and surrogates for negligence in some specific sets of circumstances. Huddleston v. Infertility Center of America , 700 A 2d. 453 (Pa. Super., 1997) provides a guide as to what can go wrong. While such circumstances do not occur regularly, you do not want any problems with your family. Surrogacy or other similar agreements are very complicated. I am happy to provide a consultation to educate you as to the issues will face in these circumstances.

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TOO MUCH MONEY FOR TOO LITTLE FIGHT

It was Monday morning in Media, Delaware County, Pennsylvania. The daily “list” of special relief petitions had almost thirty matters on it for disposition. The good news was that ten of them had either been withdrawn or “continued” to a later date. The bad news was that an unscheduled “emergency” would mean that the judge would be delayed by an hour in ascending the bench to hear the twenty matters left for disposition.

My matter had evolved into a dispute over $60,000 in interim distributions. But in Courts, matters do not proceed in order of the amount in controversy.  Often there is no rhyme or reason in what order matters are heard.  Judges prefer to dispose of any settled matters first because it lessens the list.  Some will take the cases in the order on the list.  Others will ask how long the parties will take to present their cases and proceed first with those matters requiring the least amount of time.

Sit in any courtroom in Pennsylvania and you will obtain an education.  You will see lawyers and their clients fight over matters of great magnitude.  Others will grapple over the ridiculous and then move on to the sublime.

In court today and ahead of my matter were two lawyers whom I respect. Alas, the fight of the day did not warrant their level of skill. The dispute?  How an affluent couple would divide their summer cottage between them for the season ahead. By the time the Court reached them on the list each client had an investment of $ 1,500 in legal fees.

Great news for the lawyers, right? Really, no. All but the greediest of attorneys would have happily avoided this morning of watching and waiting for their fifteen minutes of fame.  This is what lawyers term a “power fight”. It rarely has to do with the merits of the summer schedule.  Take each party aside and ask them why they are there and the answer is: “He/She has pushed me around enough.

I want my six weeks this summer when I want it.  I have been dictated to enough.”

We have previously written that there are times when “principle” warrants a courtroom battle.  This is not one of them. There is very little principle attached to whether husband or wife gets the last week of August or the fourth of July. Certainly, even wealthy people will not be happy to see their invoice for May legal services include $2,000 for the battle for Independence Day. One other thing.  Rarely does any litigant win a clear victory in these battles.  Compromise is what judges do except where they perceive huge injustice.

So what needed to happen? As we stood in the back of the Court waiting for the proceedings to begin, the comment was made that almost any lawyer in the Courtroom could have resolved the controversy fairly in 10-15 minutes after hearing both sides out. The parties did not need a jurist to decide this matter.  They just needed someone neutral who would hear both sides out and make the decision. Instead, the parties sat for three hours waiting for the judge to reach them.  When he did, the job was done and fairly.  But lawyers sat and client’s paid for hours of waiting.

We have previously suggested that in a world of expensive legal services clients should pick their legal fights carefully.  If the dispute does not require specialized skill but only a brief argument and a prompt disposition ask your lawyer whether you and your spouse can appoint someone to dispose of it quickly. Chances are you will pay that person.  But that will get you a result and your neutral will put you to the head of the line.

HOW WILL THE COURT VALUE YOUR BUSINESS?

In this changing economy, how will the courts value your business? Will the Court use the date you separated from your spouse or the date that the assets and debts are divided?

Unless one of the limited exceptions exists, the courts will value a marital business as close to the date of distribution as possible. While the Divorce Code does not explicitly state the date to use to value the marital assets, the courts hold that using the date of distribution value effectuates economic justice between the parties. Sutliff v. Sutliff, 543 A.2d 534, 536 (1988); Smith v. Smith, 904 A.2d 15, 18 (Pa. Super. 2006); Nagle v. Nagle, 799 A.2d 812, 820 (Pa. Super. 2002) citing Diamond v. Diamond, 519 A.2d 1012 (Pa. Super. 1987). In Sutliff, the court stated that “a valuation date reasonably proximate to the date of distribution must, in the usual case, be utilized” because “it is inconceivable that the requirement that the distribution be made in such proportions as the court deems ‘just’ could be satisfied without reference to the current values of the assets.” Sutliff v. Sutliff, 543 A.2d 534, 536 (1988).

The court recognized the importance of using the date of distribution value, as opposed to the date of separation value, by commenting, “to distribute property without regard to those fluctuations would be illogical, and would undermine the legislative intent of making the equitable distribution process responsive to the contemporaneous needs and financial situations of the parties” Sutliff v. Sutliff, 543 A.2d 534, 537 (1988). This is particularly important in this economic climate given that the values for most assets have decreased.

Additionally, the court can only value the marital assets on the date of separation when limited circumstances exist. Smith v. Smith, 904 A.2d 15, 19 (Pa. Super. 2006); Litmans v. Litmans, 673 A.2d 382 (Pa. Super. 1996). The court confines the exceptions to situations where (1) one spouse consumes or disposes of marital assets or (2) there are other conditions that make a current valuation difficult. Smith v. Smith, 904 A.2d 15, 19 (Pa. Super. 2006) citing Benson v. Benson, 624 A.2d 644 (Pa. Super. 1993).

For example, in McNaughton v. McNaughton, 603 A.2d 646 (Pa. Super. 1992) the court valued the marital real estate as of date of distribution, but valued the husband’s marital business at the date of separation because the husband controlled the business, the business was difficult to value after separation, and the husband influenced the business’s value by lowering its value. See also Benson v. Benson, 624 A.2d 644 (Pa. Super. 1993).


Additionally, in Adelstein v. Adelstein, 553 A.2d 436, (Pa. Super. 1989), the husband owned one-half of a corporation, but after the date of separation, the other owner received additional shares of stock (without consideration), granting him a much larger ownership percentage of the corporation. The court noted that the existence and nature of marital property is determined as of the date of separation and that an attempt by shareholders to rearrange their respective interests did not affect the ownership interest that existed on the date of separation. Thus, the court valued the husband’s ownership interest as one-half of the corporation as of the date of separation and would not support the husband’s efforts to minimize his ownership interest.

So, unless one of the limited exceptions exists, the court will value a marital business as of the date of distribution.

MEDIATE, ARBITRATE, NEGOTIATE: WHAT'S A CLIENT TO DO?

More and more clients are asking us whether they should “mediate” their divorce. It is clear from the nature of the way the question is posed that they perceive mediation as both more fair and, lower in cost. This can be true. But before we select an option, it would be wise to examine what mediation means and how it compares to the rest of the menu.

Mediation is probably best known in the field of labor law.  School districts do it all the time in their labor contracts with teachers and staff.  Each side selects one or more informed representatives. They select a  neutral mediator to “lead” the discussion of their differences in the hope of reconciling them.  The mediator is not an advocate for either side. In fact, he or she must remain scrupulously neutral in order to retain the confidence of both sides to the negotiation. The mediator’s job, is essentially to keep the discussion focused and to record understandings that are reached by the parties for later review with their constituents. 

One of the keys to successful mediation is what we termed informed representatives. If you are no thoroughly familiar with what you are negotiating you are often at a huge disadvantage.  Using our school district paradigm, if one party is unfamiliar with data concerning teacher salaries and benefits the mediation is skewed from the start. This is true in divorce based mediations as well.  If both parties don’t come to the table equally familiar with the assets they are dividing and how they work, it is very difficult  for mediation to work. Under principles of mediation, the mediator is not supposed to “help” either party in the negotiation process.

If your case is simple, meaning that the assets are easily understood, mediation can be relatively easy.  But even in the simple cases, clients often misapprehend what they are doing.  They assume that each party must get half of the assets and often ask questions like: “How do I get my half of the house?” This is the type of question that needs to be addressed before mediation can be meaningful. Just as important are questions that aren’t demanding an answer.  Should there be alimony in addition to a division of the assets? Has household debt been acceptably proportioned?  They create some interesting ethical dilemmas for mediators as well? If a dependent spouse never thinks to raise the question of alimony, is that the mediator’s responsibility?  As Julia Malloy-Good, an attorney specializing in mediation in West Chester, PA. observes, this is where lawyers can help the mediation process by insuring that the clients come to mediation with lists of issues that may require consideration. 

In complex cases where there are tricky assets or assets laden with tax issues or complex debt arrangements (e.g. one spouse’s car was financed as part of a second mortgage), it is all the more important that both sides come equally prepared.  We often find that parties will have spent considerable time and money with the mediator only to see the resulting document memorializing what they have agreed upon to find that the deal they have made can’t be done. Good mediators who are experienced with complex financial assets will try to steer the parties away from these problems but that can sometimes create “neutrality issues”.  Let’s say that my spouse and I make a deal. She gets the house and I get the car and the pension.  If the experienced mediator points out that the house is burdened by the debt for my car, don’t I have the right to snap at the mediator for pointing that out to the other side?

The second, and more nettlesome issue involves emotional intelligence.  Again, we have spoken about  “informed representatives”.  But divorce and money are both highly charged emotional issues. Some folks can’t really negotiate clearly because they are emotionally unsuited to the process. Other couples come to the process with wildly disparate negotiation skills.  Many people are employed in jobs where they negotiate for a living.  Homemakers can be effective negotiators as well  but they are often not the equal of the person who works as a buyer for a company, a salesperson or a contract administrator. Anyone can be taught to box but few of us are ready to spar with professionals. Mediation is based on the premise that each side will select informed negotiators who are well schooled in the facts and the dynamics of negotiation.  The problem with divorce mediation is that  “you” are the one doing it and you don’t get to appoint someone to act for you.

This may sound like a diatribe intended to discourage mediation. It is not intended as such. Where two well informed, motivated and emotionally balanced people mediate, they are often very happy with the process because “they”  made their deal instead of the lawyers and because they may have saved some money along the way. They walk out with a memo of understanding written in language they understand and which their lawyers are directed to turn into a legally binding instrument.

If mediation is not your cup of tea or you try and fail, a second alternative is to arbitrate. Arbitration is a different animal. The “parties” don’t decide on their arrangement. Rather they each present their best case to a neutral person  who “decides” once and for all how a matter will be concluded.  The judicial system works in the same way, but there are some key differences.  Almost any judicial ruling is subject to review by a higher authority. In most counties in Pennsylvania, a divorce case will go to a master or hearing officer. His or her report is appealable to a judge. The judge’s ruling is appealable as of right to the Superior Court of Pennsylvania. Unhappy there? You can ask the Supreme Court of Pennsylvania to look at the decision. In theory, you can even appeal from that and ask those nine guys in Washington DC to take a look at what ails you.

Arbitration does not allow for that. With very few exceptions, an arbitrator’s ruling is final and not appealable.  That can be scary but ask anyone who has seen his or her spouse exercise all rights of appeal and that can be scary as well. But it does mean that you should select your arbitrator carefully because that person is going to control it all; for better or worse. If you arbitrate, you need an arbitration agreement that makes clear how the arbitrator’s ruling fits into the judicial process. Only a judge of a court can divorce you. Arbitrators can decide financial issues and can even hear and decide custody disputes but Pennsylvania law is clear that judicial courts can undo a decision affecting child support or custody where the court is convinced that the child’s interest was not protected.

Usually, arbitration is quick. File for something in court; you wait in line like at the airport. The people ahead of you in line are trying to get to a place too. Arbitration is like owning a fractional interest in your own jet. You and your spouse pick the time and the arbitrator makes time for you to get you where you want to go.  The other advantage of arbitration is that usually the hearings move very quickly. In the judicial system, the court is making a stenographic recording of the process. The court reporter is taking down everything that is said. The exhibits must be marked so that a reviewing court can see precisely what happened. In arbitration there is no reviewing court so there usually is no record to keep. The focus is on having the matter concluded; usually with a 25 to 50 page written report in which the arbitrator recites what he or she heard and how they assess it. That report also will direct who gets what assets and liabilities and on what conditions. It is ordinarily agreed that the report becomes a court order by agreement of the parties.

Arbitration is not free. Use the judicial system and ordinarily you pay a few hundred dollars in court costs and the taxpayer picks up most of the rest.  It is important to understand the arbitration process thoroughly before you start. Some arbitrators such as Philadelphia’s Michael Fingerman control the hearing very closely and conduct almost all of the questioning themselves. Others, such as West Chester’s Alita Rovito tend to favor allowing counsel to try their case much as they would in an ordinary judicial hearing, without the burden of making a record. Because arbitration is private one can negotiate the rules of the road. But, the arbitrator is going to charge the parties the same rate as a skilled lawyer to do the work. Sometimes the cost is equally split. Sometimes the parties allow the arbitrator to allocate his/her fee between the parties. Smart arbitrators demand to be paid before they issue their reports as most folks are unhappy with at least some part of an arbitrator’s ruling. But with arbitration you will usually be finished in a matter of a few months where the judicial system  easily takes a year or more to chop through the same morass of paper and argument. That often makes arbitration worth the extra investment. It also saves the costs of transcripts that most litigants find prohibitively expensive. 

So, that’s the menu. You make the choice.

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DEATH AND DIVORCE: A CONTEST IN INCOMPATIBILITY

Until 2005 and a series of amendments to the Pennsylvania Divorce Code the law of Pennsylvania was quite clear. If one party died before a decree of divorce was entered and all appeals had expired, the divorce was over. In re Estate of Bullotta, 798 A.2d 771, 774 aff’d 838 A.2d 534 (Pa. Supreme (2003). The effect was as if no divorce was ever filed. If property was jointly held, it went to the surviving spouse even though divorce grounds were established. Claims for economic relief would dissolve. Even where the matter had been disposed of by the trial court, if an appeal was pending, death of a party still ended the divorce for all intents and purposes.

Recognizing that this produced some highly inequitable results, the General Assembly sought to remedy this in 2004 when Divorce Code amendments were considered. Section 3323(d.1) was added providing that where divorce grounds have been established, the divorce action would proceed with the executor for the decedent being substituted as a party for the decedent.

To establish grounds the statute established the following rules. If a fault divorce was pending the Court needs to have found that divorce grounds were established. It is unclear what the effect would be if a trial court found that grounds were established only to have that finding reversed by an appellate court. If both parties consented to the divorce, grounds were established. Finally if an affidavit of two year separation was filed without contest or the court found two years of separation had elapsed and the marriage was irretrievably broken, grounds were again said to be “proven”.

Where grounds are not established as of the date of death, the old rules apply. The divorce ends and each party resorts to those rights created by federal laws like the Retirement Equity Act, the rights of joint owners to the decedent’s interests and the rights to take against the will under the Probate Code. Taper v. Taper, 939 A.2d 969,973 (Pa. S. 2007)

What does this mean? If there are no grounds established, the survivor will get all of the qualified retirement benefits such as 401(k) plan. Where property is held as a joint tenancy, the survivor gets all. Even if the decedent prepares a will leaving it all to the non-spouse, the Probate Code permits the surviving spouse to take “against” the decedent’s will, thereby claiming portions of certain assets classes.

In a case decided last December a divorce action was initiated in 2001 by husband. In July 2006 Husband had a heart attack and lapsed into a coma. He died later that year. A year later Wife asked that a personal representative be appointed for Husband so that the divorce could proceed. The trial court declined because ground were not established as of the date of death even though they probably could have been proven. Because they were not “established” by the date of death the trial court lost jurisdiction to proceed. Gerow v. Gerow, 962 A.2d 1206 (Pa. Super. 2008)

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STOCK OPTION DEVELOPMENTS

Over the past twenty years the landscape of executive compensation has changed markedly.  One new feature is the appearance of executive stock options as a form of compensation.  Stock options are a device by which key employees are granted the right to purchase shares of stock at a given price.  The “option” is to acquire a fixed number of shares of the employer’s stock at the closing price on the date the options was granted.  On the day the options are granted, they have no value because the price of the option stock is equal to the closing stock price that day.  The theory is that as the employees work and improve the state of the company the stock will increase in value.  If I am granted the option to buy stock in my company at $10.00 a share and the stock price goes to $12.00 a share, my option has an intrinsic value of $2.00 per share. If I have 10,000 such options, the options are worth $20,000 before tax. If the price of the stock goes to $20.00, those same options have a value of $80,000.  Options are usually granted so as to vest over three years following the grant.  Once vested, they are usually exercisable for a period of ten years.  These terms can vary based upon the language of the grant.

Alas, the last nine months have not been good to option holders. Many stocks have lost 40% of their value or more.  When the purpose of the option is to incent employees to drive stock prices higher, there is very little incentive to work hard and produce results in a world where the options are exercisable at $10.00 and the stock is trading for $6.00. As the option holder I have to drive the stock price back to $10.00 before the option has any hope of creating value. In some extreme cases options are out there at prices in excess of $50.00 where the stock is trading for less than $10.00.

Hope may be on the way.  The Wall Street Journal reports that companies as diverse as Google, Toll Brothers and Starbucks are developing programs to either re-price or exchange options so that incentives are re-instated. The reason is that two-thirds of public companies have 75% of their options “underwater”; meaning that the options are more expensive than the stock itself and that they have no value.

While these schemes are picking up speed, they are not approaching the level of re-pricing that occurred after the stock market nosedive of 2001. What has changed is that under new accounting rules options need to be reported as expenses by the offering businesses.  This hurts already meager earnings. Second, companies are chary to re-price options until they feel certain that stocks have reached their low ebb.  Otherwise, the incentive is again taken out of the option pricing system.  Finally, some companies are moving away from options in the direction of restricted stock.

The question in a divorce proceeding is whether an exchanged or re-priced option is a post separation asset or a marital asset recast into a new form. Let’s say an employee spouse is granted a series of options just months before separation at $10.00 a share.  After separation the stock drops to $3.00 a share.  The employer decides to redeem the options and substitute the same number of options with a price of $3.00 a share. Are these new options marital? Would it be a different result if the old options were canceled? Suppose the substitute options have a revised vesting schedule?

There is no law on this in Pennsylvania today. There is a reason to try to anticipate this issue and address it in the context of negotiating a property settlement agreement by providing in the agreement that if options are retired and substitute or re-priced options issued, these options should be treated as marital as well. The same principles may be applicable to options granted by a new employer as a device to compensate a new hire for marital options that were left on the table when the employee changed jobs. Again, the law in this regard is not clear, but the point is one that merits discussion in any divorce negotiation.

For more information. Online.wsj.com “Underwater Stock Options Not Dead Yet” 3/18/09; 7:53PM

A TEST OF CHARACTER AND A SAVINGS IN COST

The purpose of a blog is not to recount war stories.  But war stories can be illustrative.  We represent a client whose wife is a homemaker.  She has the skill set to seek employment as a teacher but, for a variety of reasons, some reasonable, some not, she has not sought employment. On behalf of Husband, we have calculated the support due and advised our client to pay it.  We did so on the basis of wife having a -0- earning capacity, even though time has made that position more and more unrealistic on wife’s behalf. Wife is represented by a smart attorney.  We know that if she thought her client was undersupported she would take the matter to court.  After more than two years of proceedings she has threatened court but never filed. Some might argue that because she did not file, our client must be overpaying.  In our judgment those people are not in business of assessing the cost of litigation and offsetting that against the broad range of possible outcomes if the case was litigated. Experience tells us to follow our gut after running several series of calculations.

In recent months wife has begun an email campaign to convince her husband to pay more.  We have told our client not to dismiss that request but the only reason to pay more than our recommended amount would be if Wife came through with a comprehensive proposal to settle the entire case.  That would save the cost of further litigation and allow our client to formulate his own “plan” to right himself financially.

This week, the email campaign went into high gear.  The client forwarded to us an email proclaiming that the $5,500 in monthly child and spousal support she was receiving was insufficient to meet her needs.  Some readers will dismiss such claims as ludicrously high.  Others would disagree. Our client has net income of roughly $12,500 per month.  Forty-five percent is the “right” amount due based upon our calculations. This estimate is based upon the guidelines now in effect in Pennsylvania for primary custodians who are not working and have primary custody of two children. The email noted what the children were not doing and how disappointed they were to not be going to particular activities where a fee is involved. The email even alleged that there was no money to take the children to the dentist.

This drove our client to the edge. The client began to chain email us and then to call.  What would we do? The family employs a psychologist to help them deal with child custody issues.  Our client phoned the psychologist, who, appropriately told our client that children should not be immersed in financial issues.  The client forwarded this advice to his spouse.  The reply was that he could tell their elementary school daughter that she would miss out from her upcoming activity as there was no money.

The client shared his reply to this with us.  He started out well.  He was paying what his lawyers told him was appropriate support.  He did not tee off on his wife about her ability to secure employment.  But then he slipped over the edge. “Tell Nancy (their daughter) to call me.”

Nothing good could come of this, so we stopped our other projects and intervened.  The psychologist had just told our client to keep the children out of support decisions. The only reason he was going to speak to his child was to address the “need” for the upcoming activity. If he took the call he was going to get a crying kid.  Not many fathers can say no to a crying child who is not in their custody.  They give in.  And in so doing they send two “wrong” messages.  The first is that the key to getting money out of a spouse is to use the kid.  Bad precedent for the child and for the custodial parent. The second message is more invidious.  The message to the child is that the real power is not with the custodial parent but with the spouse with the money. The message to the child is that “Mom is powerless, Dad is the one who makes things happen.” 

We advised our client to do nothing.  He was paying adequate support.  No one was in any real distress. We had a child who, like all children, was needy.  If he stepped forward and satisfied the need, he was creating a cycle of demands without a foreseeable end. The child learns to call a parent and cry for whatever was her need.  The dependent spouse learns to couch any need as a child’s need and let the child carry the water. 

Is this always the answer? Yes and no. There are times when an event is so unique or so important that exception should be made. But the basic premise of all support is that “needs” of divorced couples should be planned and budgeted, not handled extemporaneously. Costs are difficult to manage in a world where parties live together.  Once they split and occupy two homes, costs are all the more problematic.

There is collateral damage as well.  Seven or more emails and a phone conversation all made the cost of divorce more unmanageable. In an age when a phone is always at one’s side and text messages offer instant access to attorneys, clients tend to forget that they are spending real money.  Last week our client was ruminating about the fact that his divorce costs were mounting. Today he racked up charges that did not bring him any closer to concluding his divorce.  Rather, he came perilously close to making it last longer by creating a cycle where both his spouse and his child could increase their household budget by resort to claims of dire need.

Instant access can be a good thing.  But it is also an expensive thing.  It is not uncommon for clients to be staggered by a legal bill where they have indulged in hours of instant access legal counseling over relatively innocuous issues.

A REMINDER THAT THE WORLD OF BANKRUPTCY HAS CHANGED

Attorneys in our firm recently taught a seminar on the preparation of marital settlement agreements.  The seminar touched upon the subject of bankruptcy and its effect upon obligations undertaken as part of a divorce settlement.  We have noted also that in reviewing property settlement agreements prepared by our colleagues at the bar, many have not become familiar with the changes brought about in this area by the 2005 Bankruptcy Abuse Prevention and Consumer Protection Act.  This statute effectively changed the law relating to bankruptcy as it affected divorce in ways that should be familiar to every attorney practicing domestic relations law.

               

The most sweeping change is found at Section 523. In a nutshell it declares that any discharge under Sections 7, 11,12 and 13 of the Bankruptcy Code shall not affect any debt to a spouse, former spouse, child of the debtor that is incurred in the course of a divorce or separation or in connection with a separation agreement, divorce decree or other order of court.

 

This language is not discretionary and abandons the “balancing test” by which Bankruptcy Courts could examine debts in proceedings before October, 2005.  It says plainly that the debtor cannot alter this kind of debt no matter how onerous the obligation may be.

 

A 2007 US District Court case from Arkansas underscores the point.  In re Tommy N. Douglas involved a debtor who had been ordered to pay off certain debts on behalf of his spouse and he as part of their divorce.  He encountered emotional and financial problems following the divorce and eventually sought relief under Chapter 7, the liquidation section of the Bankruptcy Code.  Among other things he asked for relief from the obligation to pay the joint indebtedness.  But after analyzing the statue and commentary offered by the Hon. William Houston Brown in his treatise titled Bankruptcy and Domestic Relations Manual (2006), the Court held that even though this kind of obligation would have been dischargeable in proceedings before the divorce, once it became part of the divorce decree, the Bankruptcy Court lost any power to discharge it. The Court notes that as part of the Chapter 13 filing, the Court can alter the payment in accordance with an approved plan.

 

The core point to be taken from this case is that divorce obligations take on a higher significance than almost any other form of debt.  And even in situations where the duty to pay was not direct contractual one, but derived through the action of the divorce court , the stamp of the divorce court or the taint of a domestic relations obligation takes the obligation out of a bankruptcy court’s jurisdiction to alter.

 

The interesting wrinkle to the language is the avoidance of language encompassing obligations in a premarital agreement. Is a debt undertaken by a person before marriage an obligation “in connection with a divorce”?  This appears to be an open question and one that may spawn future litigation.

WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Do I stay or do I go? This is not an easy question to answer. If you are contemplating a divorce and your spouse says “If you leave, I will bury you”; or  “If  you continue to see her, you will never see your children again”.  What do you do? Are these reasons or statements enough to cause you to remain in the marriage; or, do they have the opposite effect making you say to yourself  “I better leave now because it’s now or never”. Two sides of the same coin. What to do? Don’t expect the Judge to resolve these issues if it gets that far. Family Court is not always “just”. Family Court is a Court of contentious litigation, highly emotional, and slow to respond. One should not stay in a marriage because of fear! Harsh words are symptoms of a failed marriage. However, don’t expect to resolve these issues in a courtroom. A courtroom only serves as the legal battlefield for the clients and their proxies (the lawyers) to engage in combat consistent with certain rules. The Judge is the umpire – however, in calling “balls and strikes”, the Judge may miss a few. Divorce litigation is hand to hand combat where everyone gets hurt. Attempt to resolve your problems out of Court, if you can. The process is highly charged – both emotionally and economically. 

PRE-DIVORCE PLANNING

For those contemplating divorce, pre-divorce planning is essential especially in these difficult economic times.  Before meeting with a lawyer, the first issue is “How do I select one?”  Talking to friends who have gone through the process is an excellent start as well as checking out lawyers by reputation.  This can be done by talking to friends, family or other lawyers in the community.  It is important to ask other professionals who they respect and who they would choose in such a matter.  Selecting a lawyer who knows the “legal terrain” of the court system of the county where the divorce will take place, and who is experienced, are important considerations.  The next step is collecting data.  Obtaining income tax returns, insurance policies, banking information, copies of stock and brokerage accounts, automobile titles, etc.  All of this is essential in developing your case.  Understanding your monthly costs as well as annual costs and your individual needs are most important.  What does it cost to maintain the house?  Tuition bills for the children?  Medical expenses?  Summer camp costs?  Tutoring and other special needs?  What does it cost to live? The next thing is to prepare a list of questions to be addressed when you meet with your lawyer.  Most initial interviews take approximately 1 to 1½ hours.  That time goes by quickly.  It is important to have a list of questions prepared ahead of time so that you don’t get distracted during the course of that initial conversation and go beyond the time allotted. List your priorities!  Your goals need to be shared with your counsel and shaped with counsel consistent with the facts and the economic realities of the case. It is up to your lawyer to guide you and explain whether or not your goals and objectives are realistic.  Also, if you are undecided as to whether or not you wish to pursue a divorce at that time, it is important to meet with a lawyer, anyway.  This will allow you to understand the law and how it is applied in your jurisdiction consistent with the facts of your case.  There may be other issues or questions which may need to be addressed by your lawyer before you decide to divorce.  Picking the right lawyer is key to the process.  Lawyers have an important say in what happens and in what does not happen in divorce matters.  His or her relationship with opposing counsel is also of consequence.  You do not want two lawyers who have “bad blood” between them which then bleeds into your case and distracts and limits your ability to resolve your matter involved in the dispute.  Remember, it should not be a war between the lawyers; but, rather a dialogue with your spouse through the lawyers which leads to resolution. You must keep your emotions out of it! Emotions only serve to fuel the fires of divorce and cause everyone to suffer – especially the children.

Innocent Spouse Relief - New Form has Traps for the Unwary

In a recent blog we wrote about the liability that attaches to filing a joint tax return. It is an important issue to consider. But there can be relief from joint liability if one qualifies as an ”innocent spouse”, a term defined by the Internal Revenue Code. Relief from tax liability requires that a taxpayer file Form 8857. Our partner in New Jersey, Eric Solotoff has written about this subject and for those who are concerned about liability for past filings, it is a subject worth review.

The process for seeking Innocent Spouse Relief, a provision for individuals concerned about the accuracy of tax returns filed by their current or former spouses, has become a potential minefield.

 

In June 2007, the IRS published a revised Form 8857 - Request for Innocent Spouse Relief. Prior to that time, the form was short and simple. This one-page form asked the name and address of each taxpayer, whether the relief seeker had been a victim of domestic abuse and feared that filing a claim would result in retaliation, if the IRS had determined an underpayment of tax, and whether the understatement was due to erroneous entries by the spouse. (see note 1) The new form, however, is four pages long and the questions are far more in-depth. Given the possibility for self-incrimination, the form must now be completed with great care.

 

Often, when preparing a party's financial statement or budget for a divorce action the conversation turns to tax returns. When the parties involved lack substantial debt - consumer or otherwise - and yet still cannot explain how spending exceeded the level of income and asset draw downs, the accuracy of tax returns is brought into question. Often, and particularly in divorce cases, one spouse was not aware that the tax returns were inaccurate when filed. In such cases, that party may be entitled to Innocent Spouse Relief from the IRS.

 

So how does it happen? How can a spouse not know that the tax return was inaccurate when it was filed? Didn't the spouse sign the return under penalty of perjury? Some common answers clients may give include: 'It was April 15 (or August 15, October 15 if on extension) and my spouse shoved the tax returns in front of me and told me to sign them because we had to get them in the mail that day,' 'I trusted my spouse that the returns were right and just signed them,' 'My spouse told me they were correct, and I signed them,' 'I have no idea of the finances, my spouse handles everything,' and so on. On occasion, 'My spouse forged my name' also has been used.

 

During divorce actions, it is not uncommon for parties to still file joint tax returns. Hopefully, this is done after the non- or lesser-earning spouse has had his or her attorney and accountant review the returns. Also, it is common that Indemnification Agreements are signed to protect one spouse from the inaccurate income reporting and/or improper deductions taken by the other spouse. However, the agreements are only binding between the parties, not with the IRS or state taxing authorities.

 

What should a spouse or former spouse do when the IRS comes calling and he or she really did not know that the tax return was inaccurate? It goes without saying that the individual should immediately contact his or her attorney and tax professional - especially now that the new form asks for more and deeper personal information.

 

The new form asks for more and deeper information than the original, much of which appears as if it could trigger the trap door precluding Innocent Spouse Relief. Worse yet, the responses to many of the questions could possibly be self-incriminating, which is why representation is essential.

 

Some of the new questions seek the following information:

 

-your highest level of education


-whether you were a victim of spousal abuse during the years that you are seeking relief (and further asks for a description and documentation such as police reports, restraining orders, doctor's notes, etc.)


-whether you signed the returns, and if so, whether you were forced to sign under duress, threat of harm, etc., or if your signature was forged


-whether you had mental or physical problems both at the time the returns were signed and at the time you are filing the form (and documentation is requested)


-how involved you were in preparing the returns and whether you reviewed them before they were signed


-whether you were concerned that the returns were incorrect or incomplete when they were signed, and, if so, whether you just said nothing or made inquiry


-what you knew about your spouse's income when the return was signed; and further, if your spouse was self-employed, whether you helped with the books


-when the returns were signed, whether you knew that tax was due, and if so, how you thought the tax was going to be paid


-whether you were having financial problems when the returns were signed


-your involvement in the household finances during the years you seek relief, including whether you had access to information and decision-making power regarding finances whether your spouse ever transferred any assets to you


-a listing of your monthly income and expenses

 

Since the form has to be signed under penalty of perjury, a wrong answer not only could preclude granting of Innocent Spouse Relief, but also could be used to assert - if not prove - tax fraud given a person's knowledge and involvement when the returns were filed.

 

The bottom line is that great care should be taken when completing this form.  A person seeking to do so should consult with an attorney and tax advisor, in advance, so as to not incriminate themself. 

THE BERNARD MADOFF INVESTMENT CLUB

In case you are one of those driven under a rock by the economic news of the past few months, you may have missed the latest news.  One of Wall Street’s most prominent investment advisers appears to have walked off with $50 billion dollars in what may qualify as the largest Ponzi scheme in world history.  For once, it wasn’t the little guy that got hit.  The client list for Madoff Investment Securities included some of America’s wealthiest investors. Sadly it also included some of the charities underwritten by those investors.

So why are the divorce lawyers writing about this? Because every day we are meeting with folks who don’t understand their investments and tend to buy based on “reputation” instead of the facts. Worse, they own things like hedge funds or derivatives without knowing what these things are.  These “country club investments” (based on the locale where they tend to be sold) can and often do transform rich people to middle class in a hurry. 

The defenses we commonly hear aren’t very good.  1. My spouse handles all of this.  2. We wanted to please a customer or client.  And worst of all:  3. The returns were too good to pass up.  Ask Mr. Madoff’s clients.  Indeed, they were too good to be believed.

It is pretty common during an initial interview to ask a client about an investment only to discover that the client doesn’t know how it works. It is common to see clients who have millions in life insurance but not a penny of disability insurance.  It is not uncommon to see 80% or more of an employee’s retirement invested in the stock of the employer. Presumably, this means that the collapse of Enron could not occur again.  Until Bear Sterns and Lehman Brothers did it again in 2008.

Certainly, it must be conceded that even the blue chip securities took it on the chin in the fourth quarter of 2008. And the Lipper Indices shows that the pain was felt across the board among the mutual funds.  But there are plenty of companies that have seen 80 -90% declines in their stock prices.   Are you qualified to decide when to hold and when to fold?

There are two kinds of money in this world; gambling money and retirement money.  Investors tend to ignore the distinction. If you have made it to age 40, there is a good chance you will live to 90.  That makes for 25 years of retirement.  At 40 we see little reason why we can’t work until we are 90 if we need to.  But, ask the person who is 70 what employment options he or she has. And if you are 40 with little saved for the golden years, investments in satellite radio or Philippine gold mining are not the way to make up for your refusal to save earlier.

The corollary to this rule is that if you are married to one of these riverboat gamblers you need to realize that you may be lashed to the mast of the boat. If I save and my spouse does not, there will be only one retirement fund to live on.  And should my nonsaving spouse decide to dump me and move in with my wealthy neighbor, chances are we will be dividing my retirement savings.

So what are the rules?

1.       Save for retirement like you mean it.

2.       Make your spouse do the same as soon as realistic

3.       Find a professional to manage your retirement money.  Make certain that professional

is SIPC insured and that every aspect of the investor operation appears transparent.

4.       Challenge your professional to produce returns.

"I WANT YOU TO SHOW HOW AWFUL SHE IS"

Divorce lies at the confluence of Character and Money; two streets that don’t intersect snugly. Time and again, as lawyers we are asked to “expose” the character of the other spouse so the Court may fully appreciate what a lowlife you chose as your life partner.  Read that last sentence a second time and realize its inherent inconsistency.  With some limitations we will attempt to do what you ask because we are the lawyers and this is your divorce that we are handling. But before spending a king’s ransom on this illusory goal, take some time to think about a couple of factors.

First, since 1980 Pennsylvania is a “no fault” jurisdiction.  Marital misconduct, weird behavior, kinky obsessions do not matter. The evidentiary term is that these things are irrelevant. There is one exception. Marital misconduct is supposed to be a factor in deciding alimony. The Divorce Code says so.  But ask trial judges and hearing officers how they evaluate marital misconduct and more often than not the response is a shrug. “If husband cheated on wife but husband testifies that wife would not have sex with him for years before the event, what am I supposed to do?” How much is adultery worth?  Judges feel comfortable trying to assess things like how much a person can earn and what expenses or needs are reasonable but if a wife belittled husband in front of their friends for ten years, should she get less.  So the result is that while marital misconduct is “relevant” in deciding and alimony award, it usually means very little.  There is one exception and it actually affects asset distribution as well. If one spouse burned through assets while in the course of “entertaining” a love interest, those assets are often treated as an advance to the spouse who spent them.  We have represented both the victims and the perpetrators in these cases.  Most recently, a husband lost his job and, while telling his wife that he had secured alternate work as an independent contractor, the fact s turned out to show that he was spending their life savings while he flew around the country and entertained a number of different women. Not modestly either.  Limousines, four star hotels and daily floral deliveries all turned up on the credit cards. By the time we added all of these indulgences and tallied them as advances to the husband, Wife ended up with 90% of the remaining assets.  Husband decided that he preferred not to sit through a trial where these various trips and engagements would be explored in detail and the case settled.  But this is the exception and not the rule.

In most cases, what we hear is that one spouse refused to work, or spent money too freely or demanded that the couple buy the stupid timeshare in the place that no one ever goes to. If this behavior represents a complete shift in character it may get some consideration from a court.  But, more often than not, when lawyers try whining about these issues to judges they are told (outside the open courtroom) “So what do you want me to do; he married her and they stayed together for ten years in a state of perfect antipathy.” After all, it’s no fault.

So the argument that the court will side with one party versus the other once a court gets the flavor of just how evil your ex has become really tends to be oversold by clients. At the end of the day, the real factors that matter are how much each party can expect to earn between now and retirement, how much there is to divide now and what each party contributed to creating the marital pot. Parties obviously love to fight over the last subject with the higher earning spouse pointing out that he or she made most of the money. But, if the other spouse stepped away from the economic wheel of fortune to raise children, most courts will view that as a major contribution on par with 10 hour work days and constant business travel. Character does matter, but not in the way that most litigants would like it to.

DIVORCE 101: HOW TO SAVE LEGAL FEES & HOW TO WASTE YOUR OWN TIME

 Lawyers have not been well-regarded since the days before Shakespeare suggested that we should all be executed. The lament has been the same; we do too little, charge too much.  We foment dispute.  But, as much as the American public ranks lawyers right down there with Congressmen and carjackers when it comes to popularity, the short of it is that we have more lawyers than ever before and we are told that demand is projected to continue to increase in the years ahead.

Divorce lawyers reside in a special place in Lawyer Hell. The usual lament is that we break apart families and cause unnecessary conflict at enormous financial and human cost. This is not a defense of all lawyers. It is not a defense of divorce lawyers either. Even we can’t defend some of our kind. They trouble us too.

But the plain truth is that divorce is a soft center of doing business wrapped in a hard coating of pure emotion. Even making custody decisions is a form of doing business. There are relative merits of deciding how many days a month a child spends with each parent and where the child should go to school; whether after school time should be spent practicing football or flute. Intact families make these decisions every day; not always gracefully, but rarely with the need to call in the execrable “lawyers”. But once a couple separates, parents often tend to focus on their “rights” in contrast with their children's’ “interests”. A couple years ago, a judge dispatched my opposing counsel and me with an admonition that the conflict du jour had to be settled. That night was Father’s mid-week visit. He saw that night as inviolate because he cherished his time with his kids. Mother noted that the night in question was their son’s night to meet and greet a local minor league baseball team and warm up in a real stadium. Father said his schedule wouldn’t allow him to get to the game and therefore he wanted the children to be told to forget it. When we sat down with our clients, my first question was what each parent thought the children wanted most. We got the two conflicting answers; both wrong. Ask any judge what they get out of interviews with children in custody cases and they will tell you to a person: “I want the fighting to end.” With little kids the refrain is even more sad. They dream their parents will get back together. But they are even more frayed by parental conflict because little kids see themselves as the center of the world and they think they are responsible for everything that happens.

So, if you want to save yourself some money. Stop. Look. Listen. What are you really fighting about? Is there a way to compromise this? Perhaps one child goes to the baseball game with Mom.  The other child has a special night where she has all of her father’s attention. Perhaps a make-up night would solve the problem although make-ups are the kinds of things that are best confirmed in writing in advance as many parents have difficulty recalling that they owe the other parent a make-up. If there is no compromise; put your fanciest robe on and pretend you are the judge. If you had to decide; what would you do? Think about this as well. Suppose you were the former starting running back for Ohio State. You want your kid to enjoy what you had, so you justifiably sign him up to play football.  But alas, you married the sissy woman who abhors all forms of contact sport. Of course your son should play football.  But did it ever occur to you how much angst you are creating for your ex and, more importantly, for your kid when his mother spends weeks in terror that her child will be the one carried from the field and put into the ambulance. Does that make you wrong?  No, but thinking about how your kids are enmeshed in these conflicts and trying to help them through them is one of the healthiest things you can do to make their childhood special even after it has been marred by a separation.

Does this mean you should always turn the other cheek. Not really. We all know that parents do try to take advantage of each other and sometimes they must be held to account. But when you spend an afternoon watching two intelligent adults fight for three hours over who got the odd day in a 73 day summer vacation (and a noon day transition on the odd day was “out of the question”) you realize that clients can lose all sense of perspective. And when they do, kids are hurt; deeply. So save yourself some money by making certain that you pick your fights carefully and make certain that when you do fight, it is for the child’s interests and not so much for the vindication of your rights.

Now onto Lesson 2. There is lots of free advice out there. It used to just be from friends and family. But, now we have the internet. You can look up the law or you can log on and chat with 500 other people each of whom thinks their ex-spouse is screwing them. And you can have lunch with your neighbor, the patent lawyer who took Family Law 101 fifteen years ago when he was in law school. Or you can check in with your dry cleaner who just got divorced three years ago. Her lawyer made it so her husband only saw the children in leap years in months when there was five weekends and not four. How come your lawyer can’t get the same results?

These folks are well meaning. They want to feel part of a community and so do you. But seriously, what do they really know about your family, your ex, your kids and the current state of the judicial system that will decide your case if you can’t settle it? Even people in positions of some expertise often make mistakes. We just had a client contact us. Her former husband has been acting strangely. People who know them both have made comments to her that he has become erratic. She then learned that he was trying to order an assault rifle over the internet. When she contacted us she had already been in contact with local police. They told her she needed to sue her ex for Protection from Abuse. When we reviewed the facts, she certainly had a reason to be alarmed. But there had been no threat to her or the children, no stalking, no harassment or any of the other components required to make out a claim for Protection from Abuse. Of course, she challenged us. The police told her to file. But, in this instance the officer was not aware of the formal requirements of the law.

Free advice does come without a price. But you often get what you pay for. And time spent telling your lawyer the custodial arrangement your dry cleaner secured or how your poker partner got off from contributing to private school is time that you will pay for with very little result. If you think your attorney is inexperienced or if he/she is indifferent to your concerns, then spend a few bucks and get a real second opinion from another specialist in the field. Family law matters involve your children and your money; two things that people like to keep close. They merit getting expert help. But when you think you know more about the law than your lawyer, you are either poorly represented or deluded by misinformation or your own sense of entitlement. If it is the former, get another lawyer. If it is the latter, get a grip and realize that as evil as Shakespeare said we are, we are the ones who are going to walk with you through the jungle called divorce.

TRUSTING THE ESTATE PLAN: HOW TRUSTS WORK WELL FOR THE HAPPILY MARRIED BUT CONFUSE THE RIGHTS OF THOSE WHO ARE NOT.

All married couples should have an estate plan. For those with special needs or large estates estate planning often involves the creation of trusts.  Trusts are a device by which the owner of property conveys it to others to hold for a defined purpose. It is often a means of avoiding estate tax, personal property tax or even creditors who might otherwise claim an interest.  Trusts have been around for centuries, most often used as a means for the grantor (the donor) of controlling property after his lifetime.

There are many forms of specialized trusts.  Some are used to allow the property to gain value without that value going into the taxable estate of the grantor.  A classic example of this is something dubbed QPRT or Qualified Personal Residence Trust. You own a piece of real estate.  You anticipate that it is going to appreciate substantially in the future. Your taxable estate is already at the point where the federal government is going to want a slice (beyond $2 million currently). The plan would be for your kids to inherit the real estate anyway. For this a QPRT may be an answer.  You convey the property to a trust set up to hold it.  You can continue to use the property and pay the expenses associated with it. After you have left in the trust for a period of time, typically ten years, the property goes to your kids (or other beneficiaries you name). Any appreciation that occurred during the ten years the property was in trust is not in your estate but is something your kids will have to deal with. So long as the property you conveyed was worth $1,000,000 or less at the time you established the trust, there is no federal estate tax associated with the gift to the trust. And in valuing the gift, the IRS discounts the value of the house because it was conveyed subject to your right to occupy it for a term of years. If you want to stay in the house after 10 years, you will have to pay a fair rental value to your kids in their capacity as new owners

As with all good tax strategies, there are quirks. Don’t die before the property gets transferred to the kids because the property will still be considered part of your estate, including the appreciated value. Stay friendly with your kids because once the trust term has expired and they get title, they don’t have to rent it to you or let you use it.  It’s theirs.

So having described this cute but otherwise legal tax scheme, why do we discuss it in the context of divorce. Because the transaction is a nightmare.  At one point (pre trust) there was a $1 million asset to divide.  Now, there is a completed gift subject to a right to occupy for a fixed term of years.  The only asset left is the value of the 10 year lease and that can be tough to calculate especially if the property is in a volatile resort market.

In a similar vein, we are working with a situation where our client decided that he would be generous to his second wife and her kids from her first marriage by putting a vacation home in trust for her benefit. The trust was to give her income for life and provided that the property could be disposed of to meet her financial needs. Once she died, whatever was left from the property was designated as a gift for wife’s children.

The house tripled in value in the past 15 years. But while the estate plan was well mapped out it did not include a divorce contingency. The parties are separated and wife has chosen to occupy the house and sue the husband for support. When husband suggested that the $1,500,000 in equity could help to support her and pointed to the trust instrument’s income provisions, wife responded that she has only a life estate and that is all that could be valued as “hers” for purposes of equitable distribution.  Now the trustee (wife’s son from the prior marriage) has mortgaged the vacation house to acquire another $500,000 residence for his mother but the claim is still made that she has almost no interest in the home and that her husband (who created the trust for her support) must supplement her needs including the cost of the house that he put in trust to support her. The estate planning aspect of this transaction was masterful.  That is, until the divorce intervened. 

So the message is that if you are doing estate planning ask your attorney about the “divorce” contingency. And if you are in a divorce, make certain that your counsel understands trust property as well as marital property.

"IS IT TRUE THAT I WILL BE DIVORCED 90 DAYS AFTER I FILE?" and "WHAT'S A LEGAL SEPARATION?"

Ask any divorce lawyer in Pennsylvania to specify the two most common questions he or she might encounter in an initial interview and the answer will inevitably include one or both of the questions recited in the title.

The second question is easy to answer. It is pretty safe to say that it is impossible to be divorced in the first ninety days after a divorce is filed.  The law is clear. For the first ninety days after a divorce complaint is served (and service must come after the complaint is filed) neither party is eligible to consent to divorce. And for a divorce to move forward it is pretty much necessary for both sides to file affidavits of consent.  Complicating matters is the common fact that many people who file for divorce will for strategic reasons refuse to consent to the same divorce.  Absent the consent of both parties a divorce can move forward based upon either fault based grounds (adultery, cruelty, an ambiguous term called indignities and some other obscure grounds) or a legal separation of two of more years. Only after divorce grounds are established can a divorce be granted.  And in almost all situations the divorce will not come until claims for distribution of property and alimony are resolved by the parties or decided finally by a court. So there is no divorce after 90 days unless the parties are cooperating and there is no divorce even after a two year separation unless the economic issues are resolved. It makes the process slow and expensive but the lawmakers in the General Assembly have passed laws that favor delay in the hope that it may prompt reconciliation.

We have noted that a divorce can proceed even without consent where there has been a separation of two or more years. The question of when a couple is separated for purposes of the Divorce Code is one of the most difficult to answer.  In 2005 the legislature helped to clarify the separation by declaring that there was a rebuttable presumption that a couple was separated when a divorce action was filed. But the presumption is rebuttable where one party can show that there has not been a complete cessation of cohabitation.

An end to cohabitation does not require a separate household. The law as it has evolved in the courts that cohabitation ends when the parties show a clear intention to no longer be together.

NOT THROUGH GOOD TIMES, BUT THROUGH BAD

While anecdotal reports seem to indicate that divorce is on the rise because of the current economic situation, Fresno County, California and Comanche County, Oklahoma are both reporting a substantial drop in the number of divorce filings this year. According to data published by the county, Miami-Dade County, in Florida, was experiencing an eighteen percent drop in divorce filings in the first half of this year as compared to 2007. 

It seems logical that as financial markets drop and couples face tighter finances, divorce filings will rise. After all, squabbles over finances are often the main cause of marital dissolution. Issues in a marriage involving money which may have been simmering under the surface, will likely boil over when the pressure of the economy bears down and money gets tight. Following logic, one would think that the number of fights over money would increase and the number of couples separating and divorcing would increase.

 

Why then are so many areas experiencing a drop in divorce filings? One reason may be that couples can not afford legal representation in the current economic market. The thought of paying an attorney when it has become increasingly difficult to meet basic obligations may be unappealing. In addition, couples may not have the financial ability right now to split their existing household into two. It is clearly cheaper to stay together in one household than to support two households. Finally, the thought of dividing assets between spouses when those assets have dropped so substantially in value over the past year may be less appealing than remaining together and keeping the entire asset. Individuals may have to get over the shock of watching the market claim almost half of a retirement account before they are ready to address the shock of having to distribute half of the remaining balance of that account to their spouse. The thought of selling a house incident to a divorce was a much easier pill to swallow when there were potential proceeds associated with the sale and there was some confidence that the parties would each be able to obtain a mortgage to purchase separate homes following the divorce. But with the drop in home prices and the instability in the mortgage market, staying put may make more sense.

Yet Pennsylvania seems to buck both trends, seeing neither a steep increase or decrease in divorces in hard economic times. The statistics published by the Pennsylvania Department of Health, Bureau of Health Statistics and Research show an almost steady number of divorces in the state each year. 

See http://www.dsf.health.state.pa.us/health/lib/health/mardiv/mardiv2006.pdf

JUST HOW DO TRIALS WORK?

Having been through a spate of trials and hearings over the past few months, it has come to our attention that many clients have little familiarity with how courtrooms actually work.  Ironically lawyers assume that clients know how trials work.  Litigation is what we do every day.  Clients also tend to assume they know more than they actually do.  Their experience with trial comes from television. Unfortunately, they miss a crucial distinction. Judge Judy and Judge Joe and all the other television judges are there to provide amusement. Real court is much more formal and is directed toward exploring all the relevant facts in a question and answer format.

In Pennsylvania, real court can come in the form of proceedings before a master or before a judge.  The difference is not terribly different if you are a litigant.  Masters are lawyers appointed by elected judges to take evidence and publish recommendations concerning support and property issues.  We are commonly asked whether these folks are “real judges.”  Technically, they are not because they have not been elected to their positions. But, they have their jobs because judges respect their viewpoints. Even though a master’s ruling can be appealed to the judge, many judges rely heavily on what their masters have recommended.

Whether trial is before a judge or a master, the procedure is usually the same. The party who filed first (the plaintiff) puts on his or her evidence first. Evidence usually comes in two forms.  Testimony and documents corroborating testimony. As the plaintiff goes first in starting the trial, the plaintiff has the right to choose what witnesses appear in what order. That can even include situations where the plaintiff starts the case by calling the defendant as a witness. It can be very unsettling to be told by your attorney that your spouse will proceed first only to find out one minute later that your spouse has elected to make you the first witness to testify.

Trial is like a baseball game.  Let’s assume that you are the plaintiff.  Your team is up to bat first.  Your testimony is conducted by your lawyer, It’s the lawyer’s job to cover with you every salient fact that needs to be put into evidence. Once your examination is completed, you cannot bank on getting another chance to tell your side of the story to the court. With rare exception, the excuse that you left the documents at home or at the bank or at Aunt Sadie’s does not work.  The court wants the documents when the witness it testifying.

Once you finish telling your story under the direction of your lawyer, your spouse’s lawyer gets to ask you questions in what is called “cross examination.” During what lawyers simply term “cross”, that lawyer can ask you questions that are leading. “Isn’t is true that…..” “You never told your spouse that you borrowed from your retirement account, did you?” The point of cross examination is to allow the opposing side to test your credibility or to show you documents or other evidence that may appear to contradict what you are trying to say.  It is often pointed and unpleasant which is how it is intended to be.  Every witness must be prepared to tell his or her story and to have that story challenged.

Once the other attorney has had his way with you, your attorney gets a second shot at asking you questions. That comes with a major limitation.  He or she must limit questions to subjects on which you were cross examined.  This “re-direct” examination is not an invitation to repeat the testimony you already gave.  It is to give your attorney a chance to clear up things where cross examination has created misunderstanding or ambiguity.  Take for example the question: “Did you ever discuss taking money from the retirement account with your spouse?”  You answered that you had not.  The fact is that you had not discussed the subject avoided the fact you had left the retirement withdrawal form on the table for your spouse to sign and that she had signed it. This testimony clears up the subject so the court has all the facts.  So your lawyer gets to ask you questions about this subject because it is ground not previously covered.

The other side can then “re-cross” you.  Again the limit is what you spoke about in re-direct.  With each stage the scope of the questioning is limited to the prior set of questions. Once the sponge called the witness has been thoroughly wrung out, it’s time for a new witness. The same rules apply for all witnesses.  It can be very annoying to be a party. Direct examination of a key witness (usually one of the two spouses) can go on for hours or even days.  That means you have to wait and wait for your lawyer to get a chance to cross examine your lying spouse.  It will be even longer until you get the chance to set the record straight with your own testimony.  Sorry. The rules are that the plaintiff gets to present his or her entire case before the defendant gets a chance to go forward. Some see that as a big disadvantage. All of that testimony goes unrebutted except for cross examination until it comes time for the defendant to present. But, remember, much as one party see advantage in being the first to present, the other party may see it as an advantage to be the last to present.

The defendant presents his or her case in the same way as the plaintiff. Direct examination of the witnesses followed by cross examination and then re-direct and re-cross.  Until the defense sponge is wrung dry just as the plaintiff’s was.

Is it then over?  Not quite. Suppose subjects come up in the defendant’s case that the plaintiff never discussed when he presented his case. The plaintiff is given a chance to rebut what the defendant presents.  Again, this is not a chance to rehash testimony already given. Rebuttal is limited to subjects that have not been fully explored.

Equitable distribution proceedings can be unwieldy because people own lots of assets and many of them (stock options, timeshares, nonqualified retirement plans etc) are complicated. All too often clients don’t really understand these assets as well as they should and that can make proceedings both long and frustrating. We have had witnesses with advanced education degrees confounded when asked what is reflected on their paystubs.  The key is to understand the process but, perhaps just as important, to understand the assets and the income that are unique to your case.

In these proceedings both sides are supposed to share their exhibits with the other side in advance of the trial.  It is usually productive to sit down with your attorneys in the days before complex hearings to review what you will have to tell the court and to try to anticipate how the other side will respond.

DO I NEED A BUSINESS APPRAISER? AND JUST WHAT IS A FORENSIC ACCOUNTANT?

 

Many of our clients either own their own businesses or are married to people who do.  In divorce the value of the business is a material aspect of equitable distribution and needs to be considered both for the income it produces and the value the business has.  Figuring out the answers can be complicated and expensive depending on how honest the books and records of the business are.

It may not come as a surprise to many readers to learn that some people use business accounts to pay utility bills for their homes, cell phones, college tuitions, car payments and personal travel expenses.  It is not unheard of for a boy or girl friends to be a paid employee with benefits.  Over the course of years, we have seen it all.  The highlight or lowlight of this author’s experience was the business owner who put an addition on his home and booked it as an asset of the business. The same owner deducted his annual four month stay in Florida as a business travel expense even though he could not identify any work that he ever secured while enjoying the warmth of the Florida sun.

So should everyone in a situation where the spouse owns a business hire accountants and appraisers?  The question is not easily answered. A forensic accountant is one with specialized training to uncover fraud or misrepresentation. His or her job is to ferret out whether income is fully reported and whether all the expenses paid by the business are reasonable and necessary.  If I buy your business chances are that I will not be paying your child $2500 a month to go to college or covering the Escalade you use to commute to work and charge to the company. Those are what are called “add backs” because they are added back to what should be the real income of the business.

The business appraiser takes what income and expenses are “real” and attempts to determine what willing buyers and sellers would pay for the business.  Thus, if your business earns $100,000 a year and pays your kid’s college and your Escalade, the real benefit of owning the business is probably closer to $150,000 a year.  The business appraiser asks that question: “What would a willing buyer pay to own a business that spins off $150,000 in income?” That is a function of many different integers. What is a reasonable rate of return?  How much capital needs to be replaced each year to sustain the business?  Is the compensation paid to the business owner fair given the work he or she supplies?  What “hard assets” does the business own? And, most importantly, what does the future look like in terms of potential growth.  These are complex questions and the price for answers is not insubstantial.

But reason needs to be part of the process. A business with one employee selling product using a desk and a phone rarely sells for a lot of money. You don’t need a forensic accountant to successfully argue that the children’s cell phone bills are not business expenses. But if the matter is complex and the business appears to have a value that a buyer would be interested in paying a substantial sum to take over, clients need to examine seriously the need to employ talented experts to tell the story in court.

The starting point before engaging experts is for both the lawyer and the client to get the core financial documents and review them before the accountants and valuators become involved.  Clients bring information to the equation that experts will never develop alone. The fact that valuation is a cooperative enterprise involving coordination and a common understanding of the objects at hand.  Failure to do so produces an expensive and often unintelligible result.

THE DANGEROUS TRENDS IN ELECTRONICS

Events of this past week have revealed a dangerous trend. For those with children who are school age psychologists are reporting an epidemic of conduct they term cyber-bullying.  The concept that one child could effectively bully or coerce another through computer or cellular phone contact seemed attenuated. Until this week anyway. Because what this writer has seen in the past week is three instances where adults have been completely intimidated by a spouse or former spouse. In each instance the method employed was either email or, perhaps more ominously, text messaging.  In each instance the victim was a highly educated professional; the very kind of person one would think least likely to fall prey to bullying of any kind. 

But in three separate instances involving six bright people, we have seen one person drive another to the edge of distraction.  In two instances the core element was a dispute over management of children born to a relationship.  In the third however, we saw nothing more than a dating relationship gone bad and one participant’s efforts to use email and text messaging as a means to try to keep the relationship going.

Could this really occur with adults? Picture yourself in a situation where you are coming out of a painful divorce.  You have recovered your own time; time to work; to think; to reflect; to relax. But just as you are trying to do those things; your phone is ringing.  Each time it is a demand, a direction, a demeaning comment. Often it is a challenge to whether the parent receiving the message cares about the children.  Sometimes it is just a terse dismissal seeking to deny the recipient the dignity of self worth. Any one of these messages; any two or three could be dismissed.  But when the messages do not stop the sense that one is in control starts to slip away.  The fact that these messages come electronically is almost more insidious. There is no ability to instantly respond.  Yes, one can type and send a reply.  But that does not mean the response was received or read. The attacks can be unrelenting as one can send dozens of messages every hour.

A month ago I would have been skeptical about this.  After all, one can simply turn the machine off.  But we are addicted to mobile communication devices.  Sit in any meeting today and watch the adults as they reach for the Blackberry or the cellphone and until we learn to master these devices People will take advantage of them to hammer away at others.

We pride ourselves on being current.  Electronic devices allow us to do that.  Whether it is the Yankee Oriole game, when a child gets off the bus or the price of gold on the Comex, we want to know and know now. But those of us who are adults can remind ourselves that 95% of the information we are recovering is fairly useless background. We boarded buses at 7:30 AM and our parents did not hear from us until 3:30 PM.  We found out about the game by reading the paper or watching the news. We did not even know what Comex was.

The purpose is not to inveigh against the Blackberry or email. In fact they can be extremely useful tools in communication. But, in the wrong hands these devices are being employed by manipulative and angry people to control your life. The result is that intelligent and well educated people lose all sense of perspective because others insist on using these devices for no purpose other than intimidation. We need to master technology before others use it to master us.

ADVICE FOR TROUBLED TIMES IN THE MARKET

This is written on September 17, 2008 the day of a 500 point drop in the Dow Jones Industrial Average and a little more than a week after two of the largest financial institutions in America entered government receivership. Two of our best established investment banks have disappeared and a little more than twelve months after the 2007 mortgage crisis came into focus, it is still not clear whether we are headed into the storm or the worst is behind us.

As attorneys we have little to offer by way of predictions. But it seems fairly clear that market price volatility will continue for the near term. This requires that saner heads to prevail and precautions should be taken to preserve wealth. Clients may be in the middle of separation or divorce. But even in war, there are common interests that need to be attended. Failure to do so threatens the financial health of both spouses with rare exceptions.

It is not unusual for modern couples to know very little about the investments they have made. Sadly, we are taught very little about modern finance and the recent events in world financial markets make it clear that even the experts can fall prey to what Allen Greenspan coined as “irrational exuberance.”
Whether you are in the process of marital dissolution or not, Rule 1 is to review what you own and understand the product. If you don’t understand the product, reach out to find out about it. It may seem embarrassing but unless you are willing to join the ranks of the hundreds of thousands of Americans who will lose their homes to variable rate mortgages or hedge fund investments they did not understand.

Rule 2 is to understand the importance of diversification. Seven years have passed since the collapse of this nation’s largest energy company. With Enron’s demise tens of thousands of employees saw most if not all of their life savings disappear because their entire investment pool including their retirement was entirely invested in one security. We still see clients who come to us with investment portfolios where 50% or more of family wealth is concentrated in one or two stocks; usually those of their employers or assets passed from generation to generation as a legacy. As recently as two years ago a portfolio of blue chip bank and automotive stocks would be considered the solid foundation of any portfolio. Today that portfolio could be said to have lost half or more of its value. Even traditionally risk adverse havens such as precious metals are experiencing stunning levels of volatility. In May of this year we wrote about gold prices of $1000 an ounce. Since reaching that high, they have declined by 30% in just a few weeks. Today, gold shot up 10% on the basis that the stock market was so hard hit. There is no single safe investment with the possible exception of US Treasuries or insured bank accounts.

It does not make sense on a long term basis to invest entirely in savings institutions and treasury offerings. The rates of return are often at or below the rate of inflation. But there is a fair distance between risk free investment and concentrated investment. The point is to be judicious and balanced in your investment planning.

Rule 3 is to actually pay some attention to what is in your portfolio, especially if is not professionally managed by mutual fund managers. Certainly, funds are not immune from losses or excessive expenses but they at least offer the benefit that “someone is watching” your investment pool on an hourly basis. Most of us have neither the time nor the inclination to manage these assets as they should be managed. There may be a temptation to avoid selling because the market is down. But, as noted above, we don’t know whether the market has bottomed or not. Many Bear Stearns shareholders could not stomach a sale of stock at half what they paid for it. Many of those same shareholders saw that half reduced to -0- in the weeks following their decision to defer selling. This does not endorse panic sales. But if dollar cost averaging is a smart way to build a portfolio, a similar routine is probably a smart way to unwind an investment.

If you are in the process of dissolving your marriage there is a Rule 4. Make certain that any agreement you have to divide investments takes into consideration the investment experience of what you are dividing. Even if you had invested in a broad based index fund if your investment was $500,000 and you were equally dividing it by an agreement made in May, 2008, that division could be considerably less today. If I held the fund in May and promised to pay my spouse $250,000, the risk of the loss fell entirely to me. This can be especially important with ERISA based retirement assets for while most such plans move money relatively quickly retirement plans have a statutory right to take as long as eighteen months to approve the instruments which allow the asset to be transferred on a tax deferred basis.

If you are selling appreciated assets (where there have been gains) it may make sense to sell them jointly and share the tax consequence. If I sell an asset which has appreciated by $200,000 so that I can make a lump sum payment to my spouse of $200,000, I will be paying the tax on the gain. If I transfer the asset into joint title, we will each share half the tax burden upon sale.
Once again, attorneys should not be relied upon to choose investments. Our training has nothing to do with that field of endeavor. But while we lack the wisdom to decide what to buy experience has taught us that clients tend to not fully understand their holdings or to so concentrate them as to create rather than minimize risk. In markets as volatile as those we have experience in the past twelve months, prudence dictates that all of us need to better understand and evaluate those things we have assembled in our portfolio of investments.
 

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Divorce Dilemma - Self-Help vs. Level Head

It is a thirty year marriage and the parties have one child. They have been separated for approximately one year. In addition to their principal residence, the parties own a beach property in Maryland. The parties have been alternating use of that property for the last two summers. 

Wife went to the beach property one weekend (her weekend) and discovered that the master bedroom door had a new lock; and that Husband had moved his girlfriend into that bedroom. What to do? 

Obviously, divorces are stressful and at times, hurtful. If Wife had done the same thing and had moved her boyfriend into the master bedroom, her Husband would certainly have kicked down the door and placed new locks on that door. However, self help is never beneficial to anyone. 

The parties should have cooperated with one another before the situation happened and should have entered into a written Stipulation confirmed by the Court relating to the disposition of that vacation property. 

In this instance, Wife, despite her emotional need to do something, should call her lawyer who, if an agreement could not be reached with Husband's lawyer, would then make a decision whether to file a Petition for Emergency Relief requesting Court intervention in this situation. Wife will have to weigh the cost of the drafting and prosecution of such a petition against the fact that, although the Court may not condone Husband’s actions, it may choose to “look the other way” and let the parties fend for themselves. 

Clients Can Help - 14 Tips for the Client Going Through a Divorce

Like most litigants, the end result and the cost of legal representation are among the most important concerns of anyone involved in a family law dispute. With these concerns in mind, clients frequently ask me if there is anything they can or should be doing to reduce the time I need to spend on their case or to help move things forward. The answer is a resounding “Yes!”  Here are 14 tips on how to be a good family law client and, at the same time, help your attorney achieve the best possible result without incurring excessive cost:

  1. In advance of the first meeting with your attorney, assemble as much relevant documentation as possible. For instance, in a typical divorce case, this would include (at a minimum) complete copies of recent tax returns, pay stubs for both you and your spouse, a detailed list of all assets and liabilities, and any legal paperwork already filed and/or served upon you.
  2. Speaking of documentation, organize every piece of paper that you give to your attorney.  Documents should be stapled, labeled and assembled in an orderly fashion.  Keep in mind that your attorney and his/her staff will do whatever is necessary to organize the documentation that you provide to him/her if you don't do so. It will, however, take time and cost money.
  3. Keep a detailed diary of all significant events pertaining to your case and make sure to share copies with your attorney. A "Week-at-a-Glance" calendar often serves this purpose well.  This may be especially important in a custody case.  Your memory may fade with time, but a well-kept diary can be used to refresh your recollection prior to and/or during a hearing.  Additionally, your attorney can use your diary to assist in preparing your testimony in advance of a hearing.
  4. A picture is worth a thousand words.  Besides documenting things in your diary, document what you can with photographs and/or videos.  For instance, if you decide to move out of the marital residence, take photographs of the condition of the residence and all property that you left behind.
  5. Ask questions.  There is no such thing as a stupid question.  More often than not, questions from clients are highly relevant and serve as a basis for helping to frame out the issues and develop strategies.
  6. If you need to discuss non-legal issues with someone, you may not want to call your attorney.   His/her hourly rate is probably much higher than a therapist's, and the therapist probably is better equipped to handle the issue.  While your attorney may be a very good listener, it will be to your economic and emotional advantage to discuss non-legal issues with your therapist, family members, friends, priest, rabbi, pastor, etc. 
  7. Do your best to pay your attorney’s bills on a timely basis.  If you cannot pay a bill within a reasonable amount of time, call your attorney and ask to work out some payment arrangements.  If you are making a genuine effort, most attorneys will be understanding and work with you.
  8. Promptly respond to calls and inquiries from your attorney. If it was not important, your  attorney would not be contacting you. Furthermore, if you are not being responsive to your attorney, he/she will have no choice but to spend his/her time and your money trying to get a response. 
  9. When you leave a message for your attorney (either on voicemail or through a secretary) leave your phone number and the time when you will be available to speak. While your attorney likely has your number, it will take less time for your attorney to call you back if he/she does not have to find your number. This is especially true if your attorney is not in his/her office. 
  10. If you have left messages for your attorney and have not received a response in a reasonable period of time, realize that there is probably a good reason why he/she has not returned your call (i.e., tied up in court or meetings, or handling an emergency situation). If the reason for your call is of an urgent nature, do not hesitate to explain the situation to your attorney’s secretary and/or ask if you can speak with another attorney in the firm. If your call is not urgent, ask your attorney’s secretary when she expects the attorney to be available so that you can call again or ask if an appointment can be placed in the attorney’s calendar for a phone conference. 
  11. Do not believe everything that you hear from your spouse, family and friends as it pertains to your case and the law. Even though your spouse may act like he/she is trying to be accommodating, the reality is that he/she is likely out to get the best possible result for himself/herself. Similarly, realize that every case is different. Just because your friend’s cousin got a particular result does not mean that you will get a similar result. 
  12. Do not sign or agree to anything without first speaking with your attorney. Attorneys are usually in favor of parties speaking and trying to reach amicable resolutions between themselves. An attorney, however, can and will help you determine if the terms discussed are in your best interest. There is nothing wrong with telling the opposing party that you need some time to think about it and will get back to them after speaking with your attorney. If the opposing party is pushing you to sign something on the spot, be suspect. 
  13. Be discreet and resist the urge to deliberately annoy or antagonize your spouse. If you do or say something that you know will annoy your spouse, be prepared for appropriate retaliation. Also be prepared to pay your attorney who will, no doubt, get a call from the opposing counsel when your spouse calls to complain about your behavior. 
  14. Last, but not least, be candid and truthful with your attorney. Attorneys do not like surprises. If your Attorney is well-informed, he/she can be fully prepared to deal with potentially damaging information if and when it is raised by the other side.

 

 

Whose Money is it Anyway?

Whenever people start to think about divorce, they think about all the money they have—or don’t have—and why their spouse should or should not get any of it. Many of our firm’s blog entries, as well as those on other sites, discuss specific assets or they discuss why people may not get what they think is fair. If you understand the reasoning behind the rules (written by legislators far, far away) what may happen to you makes a bit more sense.

The first idea to grasp is that marriage is a legal partnership. No matter if both spouses work, both are unemployed, or only one works, this partnership arose on the day of the wedding and will end at death or the filing of a divorce Complaint. Because both husband and wife (or both partners in some states) are equal, whatever is earned or saved during the marriage belongs to both of them.

For example, if one married partner earns $100,000 per year and from that amount saves $30,000, all the money saved is marital. It belongs to both partners (as does all of the money earned). If the other partner earns $25,000 per year and uses all or almost all of that money to pay the mortgage on the couple’s condo, all that money and the couple’s condo are marital.

There are exceptions. Anything that is owned before the marriage takes place is not marital. But in Pennsylvania, the increase in value of the non-marital asset from date of marriage until date of filing of the Complaint in Divorce belongs to both spouses. So too, the increase in value of a business that was started before marriage, or the increase in value of one partner’s Picasso which she inherited from her mother. Because the marriage is a partnership, Pennsylvania will view any increase in value during that partnership as belonging to both spouses , no matter whether the increase during marriage is passive (it earned interest in the bank) or active (a spouse grew the money by cleaning up and re-modeling an investment property). How the asset is titled does not matter. The $5 million Picasso may belong to one partner if she inherited it, but all of the increase belongs to both of them. So if it was worth $5 million on the date of marriage, and now it is worth $7 million, $2 million will be divided between the spouses

This is why it does not matter in Pennsylvania if the asset is owned only in one person’s name, which always is the case with retirement benefits. You must look at when the money or the asset was acquired or grew. If it was during your marriage, each of you has the right to some of that money!

The other thing you need to know is that there is the concept of an understood agreement during marriage. Let’s take a look at that spouse who earns $100,000 per year. The parties agreed that he would put $30,000 each year into her 401K. Even without the agreement , it is marital. But they never agreed that she could use $1,000 a month to go shopping with her girlfriends. However, for the past 17 years, she has been doing so. When her partner wants to end the marriage, that $12,000 per year she spent shopping becomes disputed. However, the law presumes that this was agreed to. Remember the partnership idea? If one of the partners did not like the arrangement, they could have liquidated the partnership (divorced). 

The last idea to remember is that in Pennsylvania, there is no presumption of a 50-50 split of marital assets, as has been explained previously on our blog. Each state has its own ideas as to what is a marital asset and how these assets should be divided. Our blog discusses Pennsylvania law. Whether in or out of Pennsylvania, it’s a good idea to speak to a lawyer about how the law of your state applies to your situation.

DATE OF SEPARATION - TOUGH TO DEFINE

As practitioners, clients often ask us about filing for a "Legal Separation". While Pennsylvania does recognize the term, the "factual" date of separation may be important in valuing assets (non-marital assets are generally valued from date of marriage to date of separation) and for setting the date for when the grounds for a divorce may exist . So, what determines the "date of separation"?

The date of separation is the date upon which it is determined that the parties are living “separate and apart”.  23 Pa.C.S.A. § 3103 defines "separate and apart" as "the cessation of cohabitation, whether living in the same residence or not.  In the event a complaint in divorce is filed and served, it shall be presumed that the parties commenced to live separate and apart not later than the date that the complaint was served".  

Cohabitation is defined as the "mutual assumption of those rights and duties attendant to the right of husband and wife".  Mackey v. Mackey, 545 A.2d. 362 (Pa. Super. 1988). 

When the parties are physically separate, they generally will agree on the date of  separation. However, when the parties reside in the same residence and no divorce complaint has been filed, the court can still determine that the parties live separate and apart. To do so, the courts, on a case-by-case basis, look at some of the following to determine whether parties have been living "separate and apart":

The "spouses' intent to dissolve the marital relationship must be clearly manifested and communicated to the other spouse, before the spouses can begin to live 'separate and apart'".  Sinha v. Sinha, 526 A.2d 765 (Pa. 1987)

Some factors which have been considered in determining the parties' intent have been:

  1. How much time the parties spent at the marital residence.
  2. Whether the parties slept in the same room.
  3. Whether the parties ate meals together.
  4. Whether or not the parties took vacations and outings together and whether or not those outings were for the child's benefit only.
  5. Whether or not the parties gave the appearance that everything was fine for their child's sake.
  6. Whether the parties lived separate lives. 
  7. Whether the parties had sexual relations.

Frey v Frey, 821 A.2d 623 (Pa. Super. 2003).  See also Mackey v. Mackey, 545 A.2d. 362 (Pa. Super. 1988).

It is important to advise your clients regarding the date of separation if there are non-marital assets or if the other party will not consent to the divorce.  If you want to make the date of separation clear, the best way to do so is by filing the divorce complaint.

The Impact of Divorce on Children

For good reason, most people have concerns about their children during their divorce proceedings.  No parent wants their child to be affected by divorce, so here are some tips from a divorce attorney’s perspective to help minimize the effect on your children. 

  1. Remember that your spouse is your children’s mother or father. This will help put things in perspective – even though you no longer have a relationship with your spouse, your child has a right to that relationship. One of the things we always remind clients is "but for that person who right now you detest, that beautiful child who you would not trade for anything in the world, would not exist".
  2. Never speak badly of your spouse. Children are adept at recognizing the undertones of your comments, and any negative inference regarding their mother or father by you could alienate you and your child. 
  3. Never let money affect your relationship with your children. Your relationship with your child is independent from the finances, whether you are paying or receiving child support. 
  4. Do not send your spouse notes/information through your child or your child’s backpack. This is a small part of putting your child in the middle, and it will only get worse. In this age of technology, e-mails are an easy, appropriate and private way to communicate directly with your spouse, so that the children do not have to be involved. (Although remember to be careful what you write in your e-mail – see Charles J. Meyer’s blog dated April 20, 2007). 
  5. Be reasonable. I am a firm believer that even if your spouse is not reasonable that, in the long run, you will be better off if you are reasonable.  Your children will recognize it, and if it comes down to it, the court will recognize it.

There are lots of resources for parents these days to help with their children during and after divorce – books, psychologists, co-parenting counselors, etc.  If you need to do so, utilize the resources available to you.  And of course, you can always ask your attorney’s opinion.

Should I Fight To Claim the Kids on My Tax Return?

Generally, Pennsylvania law provides that the parent who has primary physical custody of the child is entitled to claim the dependency exemption, and the child tax credit, on his or her income tax return.  If the parents share physical custody, the parent who earns more income is entitled to claim these tax benefits. However, this is negotiable in divorce and child support actions.

The ability to claim the child on your income tax return can benefit a parent by changing the filing status from “single” or “married filing separately” to “head of household”, a more beneficial filing status under the tax code.  This may decrease the amount of tax you owe.  However, the dependency exemption may be a greater benefit to the non-custodial parent and, therefore, may be worth negotiating in a divorce or support action.

For example, if claiming the child as a dependent will save the non-custodial parent $5,000.00 in tax, but will only save the custodial parent $1,000.00 in tax, then the non-custodial parent should claim the child as a dependent and pay the custodial parent the $1,000.00 she would otherwise would have saved.  The net savings to the non-custodial parent is $4,000.00. (And, a good lawyer could even negotiate sharing this $4,000.00 tax savings between the parties!)

A second benefit for the parent claiming the child is the Child Tax Credit.  The Child Tax Credit allows you to claim $1,000.00 for each qualifying child. So, in a family with three children, the credit is worth $3,000.00.  This credit also reduces the tax you owe.  However, the Child Tax Credit is phased out for certain higher income tax payers.  Specifically, the amount of the credit allowable is reduced by $50.00 for each $1,000.00 of modified adjusted gross income above a threshold amount.  That threshold amount is $110,00.00 on a joint return, $75,000.00 for single and head of household filers, and $55,000.00 for married individuals who file separate returns.  This means, for example, that a married couple filing jointly who have one qualifying child would be entitled to a credit of $950.00 if their modified adjusted gross income is more than $110,000.00, but not more than $111,000.00.  They lose the credit completely if their modified adjusted gross income is more than $129,000.00.

It is important to understand how the Filing Status, Dependency Exemption and Child Tax Credit can affect your personal income tax return.  It also is important to understand how they can affect the other parent’s income tax return. Your accountant and attorney should discuss these tax benefits and how they will affect your tax returns before you file your 2007 taxes, and in the foreseeable future.  There are very specific financial benefits that could be negotiated in your divorce and support actions, in a way that positively affects both you and your spouse or former spouse.  It always feels good to find a way to pay less taxes, even if it saves your "ex" some money too.

Another Take on Whether I Need a Prenuptial Agreement

It is common knowledge that 50% of all marriages end in divorce. However, what most people do not realize is that 50% of all marriages – not people – end in divorce.  This statistic is so high due to the divorce rate in second, third (and if you dare, fourth, fifth, ...) marriages.  One question many people ask is, “How do I protect myself in the event my marriage does not last?”.  The answer is with a Prenuptial Agreement. Prenuptial agreements are not just for the rich and famous anymore.

So, who needs a prenuptial agreement? Anyone can benefit from a prenuptial agreement, but I strongly recommend one if you:

  • Have been divorced before
  • Have children from a prior relationship
  • Own your own business
  • Have ownership in a family business
  • Have family money
  • Are expecting a significant inheritance or monetary gift
  • Are marrying someone of significant less net worth
  • Earn significantly more income than your partner
  • Are the beneficiary of a trust
  • Acquired significant assets prior to your marriage

The purpose of a prenuptial agreement is to prevent divorce litigation and provide the couple the ability to agree, in advance of any emotion or conflict inherent in a divorce, upon the distribution of their separate and marital assets, the payment of support or alimony, and the allocation of costs in the event of a divorce.

A prenuptial agreement should be drafted well in advance of a wedding, preferably at least three months.  This gives the parties and their attorneys the opportunity to fully negotiate and draft the document.  However, nothing in Pennsylvania law prevents a prenuptial agreement from being signed the day before a ceremony if advanced planning was not possible.

There is a presumption in Pennsylvania law that prenuptial agreements are valid if they are signed voluntarily and with full disclosure of the assets and income of both parties.  Before any meeting to discuss a prenuptial agreement, I advise my clients to prepare a list of all of their assets and debts, and suggest that they have their partner do the same.

Who Does Family Court Favor?

In some cases, I am the 2nd lawyer in a case.  The "new" client comes into my office and asks what I can do because obviously the courts "favor the other sex".  I say this because many women cannot believe how the family courts favor men, and many men cannot believe how the family courts favor women.

What are the scenarios where one sex may feel cheated?  They include some of the following:

  • Alimony is awarded for a substantial period of time (Women are obviously favored).
  • Alimony is awarded for a short period of time (Men are obviously favored).
  • The asset division is 50-50 (Depends who you are or how big the estate is to figure out who was favored).
  • The percentage of the asset division is tilted toward one spouse (Obviously the court favored the sex of the spouse with the higher percentage).
  • The Court awarded the father shared and equal custody (Men are favored).
  • The Court awarded Mother primary custody (Women are favored).

I don't know about you, but this list looks silly to me.  My experience is that neither sex wins more than the other - that courts do their best to try to figure out what is right.  Are "mistakes" made?  Sure they are.  Even more reason, as I have written in prior blog posts, to hire an experienced, reasonable lawyer, who knows what he/she is doing, and to hope that your spouse does the same thing, so that you can work toward an amicable settlement and get on with your life.

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A "TOP SEVEN" LIST OF MISCONCEPTIONS REGARDING PENNSYLVANIA FAMILY LAW

The following is my "Top 7" list of "family law misconceptions" that I frequently hear from new or prospective clients.  The list is by no means exhaustive and assumes that there is no pre or post-nuptial agreement in place which might already address the issue.  Likewise, as other states have different laws and procedures, this list is limited to Pennsylvania.

  1. “There is no alimony in Pennsylvania”.  I am constantly amazed at how many new clients believe that alimony does not exist in Pennsylvania.  Let me set the record straight: alimony is alive and kicking in Pennsylvania.  Section 3701(a) of the Pennsylvania Divorce Code provides that “[w]here a divorce decree has been entered, the court may allow alimony, as it deems reasonable, to either party only if it finds that alimony is necessary.”
  2. “If my spouse committed adultery, I will not be obligated to pay him/her alimony”.  Of the clients who are aware of the existence of alimony in Pennsylvania, many believe that adultery is a bar to a claim for alimony.  Marital misconduct occurring during marriage is only one of 17 factors under §3701(b) of the Divorce Code to be considered in determining whether alimony is necessary and in determining the nature, amount, duration and manner of payment of alimony.  It is not a bar, just a factor.
  3. “It only takes 90 days to get a divorce”.  Under even the best possible circumstances, it will take more than 90 days from the date of filing a divorce complaint until the entry of the decree.  I usually tell people that the best case scenario is 4½ to 5 months, assuming that both parties fully cooperate, there is a signed agreement disposing of all economic issues, the court is not backed up,  and, most importantly, the stars are in perfect alignment.  The worst case scenario could be several years or more depending upon the circumstances.
  4. “My spouse is not entitled to any of my pension”.  Many clients believe that his/her spouse is not entitled to any portion of their pension since they worked for it.  To the contrary, if the pension was acquired or increased in value during the marriage, then it is marital property (in full or in part) and the other spouse has a claim to it.
  5. “My spouse is not entitled to any asset that is titled solely in my name”.  How an asset is titled has very little to do with whether or not it is subject to division and/or distribution in a divorce.  The general rule is that if an asset is acquired or increases in value during marriage, then it is marital property (in full or in part) and the other spouse has a claim to it.
  6. “The marital property gets split 50/50”.  While marital property is often divided between the parties on a 50/50 (equal) basis, the circumstances may warrant a disproportionate division.  Pennsylvania law requires that the marital property be divided in an equitable fashion based upon a consideration of 11 factors set forth in §3502 of the Divorce Code.  "Equitable” means fair, not equal.  Therefore, if the equities weigh in favor of one spouse, he or she will likely receive more than 50% of the marital property.
  7. “If I quit my job, I will not have to pay support”.  This is one of the more popular misconceptions.  Support obligations (i.e. support for a child or spouse) are determined based upon actual income or earning capacity.  If someone quits his or her job without an extremely good reason, their support obligation will be determined or will continue based on their established earning capacity.  A frequent response that I hear when I tell people this is, “then they can just put me in jail.”  That, however, it not a misconception for someone who deliberately takes action to avoid their support obligations.  It may take some time, but under the right conditions, jail may be a reality.

What To Do With An Inheritance or Gift In An O.K. Marriage

Accountants and estates attorneys can serve an important role in advising their clients how to plan for their financial futures.  One thing to consider is whether the client will be married or divorced.  If your client receives an inheritance or gift from a third party while they are married, the client should be advised what to do with the funds. The client, without thinking, may automatically deposit the money into a joint account or use the money for the benefit of the marriage.

However, if the marriage has deteriorated or may deteriorate, then your client should think about what to do with the inheritance or gift in the context of a possible divorce.  Generally, marital property means all property acquired by either party during the marriage, regardless of whose name it is in.  An exception arises for property acquired by gift (except between spouses), such as an inheritance.  23 Pa.C.S.A. § 3501. The court will only consider the increase in value of the inheritance or gift, unless the money has been co-mingled with marital property.  Therefore, If a client deposits their separate property into a joint account or spends it on a joint asset, then the separate property loses its status as separate property and becomes marital property.  And if it is marital property, its in the "pot" and will be divided like any other asset.

 

MARRIAGE: IF YOU WANT IT DONE RIGHT, DO IT YOURSELF

I posted a blog last week discussing a recent decision in which a marriage was declared invalid because it was officiated by an internet-ordained minister.  Interestingly, a subsequent decision by the United States District Court for the Western District of Pennsylvania indicates that a marriage ceremony, regardless of whether it is religious or secular in nature, can be valid without having it solemnized by any 3rd party. Rather, the parties can just do it themselves.

In Knelly v. Wagner, instead of having their marriage solemnized by a minister or judge, the parties had a self-uniting marriage ceremony in which they simply exchanged rings and vows before a gathering of family and friends. According to Pennsylvania law, parties can solemnize their own marriage in a religious ceremony, without officiating clergy, provided they obtain a self-uniting marriage license and the marriage is witnessed by at least two witnesses. 23 Pa.C.S.A. §§1502-1504.  However, in this case, the parties planned a secular, rather than a religious, ceremony.

In preparation for their wedding, the parties went to the Register of Wills in Allegheny County, Pennsylvania and requested a self-uniting marriage license. They were told that they could not get a self-uniting license unless they supplied documentation evidencing that they were members of the Quaker or B’Hai faiths (two religions that do not have officiating clergy).  Not being able to provide that documentation, they sought an injunction to compel the Allegheny County Register of Wills to issue them a self-uniting marriage license. In support of their request for an injunction, their attorneys asserted, among other things, that the Establishment Clause of the First Amendment to the United States Constitution bars government from providing a benefit to members of one religion that is not provided to members of other religions, or of no religion. The Court agreed with the couple, and issued a Temporary Restraining Order requiring the Register of Wills to issue them a self-uniting marriage license. Two days later they married.

It is ironic that this self-uniting secular marriage is valid, while the marriage officiated in York County by the internet-ordained minister was not.  In the one case, the court overlooked the statutory requirement of a religious ceremony based upon the First Amendment.  In the other, the court found that the officiating minister was not qualified because he did not have a regularly established church or congregation. Reading the cases together, it is reasonable to conclude that, had the York County couple married in a self-uniting ceremony, they would not have needed a third person to solemnize their marriage, and the fact that their minister was internet-ordained would have made no difference. Therefore, if you want to get married and do not want to take any chances that the person solemnizing your marriage is qualified, just do it yourself.

"I Do" (Unless Things Don't Work Out and The Marriage is Officiated by an Internet-Ordained Minister)

“Marriage ceremony: an incredible metaphysical sham of watching God and the law being dragged into the affairs of your family.” - O.C. Ogilvie.

Despite googling  “O.C. Ogilvie,” I was unable to determine for what he was famous, other than the above quote.  However, a recent decision by a Pennsylvania court proves that Mr. Ogilvie is, indeed, insightful and worthy of recognition.

On June 30, 2006, Dorie E. Heyer and Jacob T. Hollerbush made application for a marriage license in York County, Pennsylvania. A license was issued by the Clerk of the Orphans’ Court on July 3, 2006. On August 28, 2006, Heyer and Hollerbush were married at a ceremony officiated by their friend, Adam Charles Robert Johnston.

Less than a year later, Heyer filed a motion in the York County Court of Common Pleas asking that her marriage be declared invalid. In support of her motion, Heyer asserted that Johnston was not qualified to solemnize the marriage under Pennsylvania law as he was ordained via the internet. 
At the time of hearing, Johnston testified that he was ordained by making application at Universal Life Church’s website.  Within five to ten minutes of making application, Johnston received his certification.  

The Pennsylvania Domestic Relations Code sets forth a list of persons qualified to solemnize a marriage.  Essentially, the Code authorizes Pennsylvania judges, mayors of any city or borough of Pennsylvania and ministers, priests or rabbis of any regularly established church or congregation to officiate at marriage ceremonies.

Based upon Johnston’s testimony, York County Judge Maria Musti Cook found that Johnston was not qualified to solemnize the marriage between Heyer and Hollerbush.  Specifically, she found that Johnston was not a minister of any regularly established church or congregation because Johnston was not a member of the Universal Life Church prior to his internet ordination, he had not attended any meetings at any office of the Church, and he had no congregation with which he regularly or occasionally met at any place of worship.  Judge cook noted that, “[a]t the very least, the statute purports to require an activity that occurs on a habitual or patterned periodic basis at a place of worship (church) or a group of individuals gathered together for the same purpose (congregation).”   Accordingly, Judge Cook found that Johnston was not qualified to solemnize the marriage and, therefore, she declared the marriage void.

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Attorneys and Clients - Make Sure You Finish the Case

Everyone is relieved. The case has been resolved, hopefully through negotiation, but maybe through litigation.  The work is not done!

At the end of every case, the lawyer should prepare a "List of Obligations", which outlines what needs to be done to implement the Agreement/Order.  The list might include:

  • Drafting and Implementing QDRO's for the Retirement Plans
  • Modifying Support Orders to Account for Alimony Payments.
  • Transferring Investment Accounts.
  • Drafting, Executing and Recording Deeds.
  • And, last but not least, Making Certain the Divorce Decree is Entered.

Clients need to understand that there may be additional fees incurred even after it seems like the process is over.  The attorney needs to manage expectations on that issue.

And the attorney needs to make sure the obligations are completed.  Many things could impact the assets post-divorce, not the least of which is the death of a party prior to the finalization of the obligations. 

Dot your "i's" and cross your "t's". 

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Economic Issues May Be Decided After Death, but No Divorce

23 Pa.C.S.A. 3323(d.1) was added to the divorce code in 2007, and states that where grounds for the divorce have been established prior to the death of one of the parties, the parties' econmic rights are to be determined under the divorce code, not 20 Pa.C.S.A (relating to decedents, estates and fiduciaries).

In Yelenic v. Clark, an April 2007 decision of the Superior Court, it was held that where Husband died prior to the execution of a settlement agreement and prior to the entry of the divorce decree, Section 3323(d.1) required that the parties assets be distributed pursuant to the divorce code, but that no "posthumous divorce decree" would be issued.

The Estate of the husband made an interesting argument, claiming that the failure of the court to enter a divorce decree might permit a "double dip" by the surviving spouse.  She could be entitled to additional property as the beneficiary of insurance policies and retirement accounts that were not updated prior to the death of the husband.  Even though the agreement of the parties or the court's order might hold that the deceased was to retain property, if the named beneficiary on the policy or account was the surviving spouse, the surviving spouse would receive those funds as the named beneficiary despite the equitable distribution scheme.

The Estate concluded this argument, pointing out that if a divorce decree were issued, this unfair result would be avoided.

The Superior Court's response was interesting.  In upholding the trial court's conclusion that Section 3323(d.1) only permits the resolution of the economic rights, and not the entry of a divorce decree, the Superior court went on to say:

"... parties to divorce actions would be well advised to change their wills or prepare a will before grounds for divorce are established." [emphasis added]

This is good advice - clients should be advised that they should be looking at their estate plans during their divorce.

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INITIAL CONSULTATIONS: WHAT ARE THEY WORTH?

I recently read an article about a Canadian Divorce Lawyer who charges $2,500 prior to his initial consultation.  I could not tell from the article whether that amount was for the initial consult, of if he was charging a flat fee for the entire divorce case.  But the article did describe a lengthy consultation process, including the completion of a survey, a multi-media presentation, and parting gifts for the client, including a 2 hour dvd, a cd-rom of the initial interview (with a disclaimer), and an indication of whether the client was a "A" Client (yes, we'll take your case) or a "D" Client (Sorry, but here are names of other lawyers who might be willing to represent  you.

While this certainly won't work in most divorce practices, it does raise several questions:

  1. If an attorney charges a reduced fee or no fee at all for the initial consultation, is the attorney under-cutting herself? 
  2. What is the purpose of the initial consult?  Is it a "get to know you" or are you providing significant information and developing strategy?
  3. How do you handle the prospective client who might be "shopping", or worse yet, looking to conflict out attorneys from representing his spouse.

These are only a few of the questions which come to my mind.

Recently, I have had discussions with several lawyers and the question arises as to whether it makes sense to charge a premium for the initial consult.  At least in my case, I spend 60-90 minutes with the new client, get a lot of information, give my 15-20 minute "shpiel" on the process, and begin to develop a strategy with the client.   The client's expectations are discussed and formed.  It is very valuable time. 

Not necessarily in the southeastern part of Pennsylvania, but in some other locales, I have heard of initial consult fees ranging from $1,000 to $2,500.  Does this make sense?  I don't know, but it is something to think about.

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$184 MILLION AWARD IN CHICAGO DIVORCE

A woman in Chicago received an award in her divorce case of $184 million.  It is thought that this award is one of the largest in U.S. history.

This is a rags to riches story, as the parties came to the United States from Eastern Europe with only $500.  Husband became a huge success in the energy business, and later sold his business for several hundred million dollars.

The balance in the case related to whether Husband's creation of the wealth was worth more than Wife's contributions as homemaker, confidant and supportive spouse. 

The Judge in the matter held for Wife, and counsel for Husband says they intend to appeal.

Read the full article at CNN

Falling Divorce Rates: Does It Mean Anything, Anything at All?

Divorce rates hit an all time high in 1981.  According to a recent article on the CNN website, rates are continuing to drop.  But there are differences in opinion as to what really is going on in American families.

Several theories exist:

  • Divorce rates are down because less people get married.  Rather, they live together.  In fact, the number of couples living together has increased by a factor of 10 since 1960.
  • Divorce rates are falling in couples who are college educated.  The rationale being that in such families both parties may work, reducing financial stress, and allowing the couples to remain married.
  • In some areas, the stigma of being divorced has increased.  Couples in these areas may be working harder to stay married. 

One thing to think about is that it doesn't matter to the children whether their parents are married or just live together when they split.  Either way, the children suffer the loss of their family.

Click here for a link to the CNN Article

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BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU SAY: EMAILS, TEXT MESSAGES, VOICEMAILS AND MORE...

Let the lesson be learned: In this day and age of technology, what you say, in whatever format, could be used against you later.

This morning's news story relating to Alex Baldwin's voice mail message to his daughter, who I believe was reported as being 11 years old, should be a lesson to every person going through a divorce and to every person who may now or in the future have a possible custody issue.  

While many states have laws limiting the recording of conversations, whether in person or on the phone (and you should consult an attorney about this issue before ever attempting to make such a recording because it could be a crime), if a person voluntarily creates a recorded message or statement, whether on a voice mail system or by sending an email, the statements made likely are admissible in a court proceeding. 

I tell my clients all the time to be very careful in emails.  In many situations I also ask to review many emails before they are sent.  Finally, I have clients keep every email, in bound and out bound, so that I can review them prior to hearings and make sure there are no surprises waiting for me in the courtroom.

If the recording of Alex Baldwin is accurate, it is wrong on so many levels.  Even if his allegations are true that his former spouse is attempting to alienate his child from him, it is up to him to take the high road and keep his daughter out of the middle of, what should be, an argument between the adults. 

Think before you speak and before you write.  That is the message for the day.

 

Not Just Civility, But Reasonableness in Practice

The new client walks in the door, obviously nervous about his or her case being the subject of a public trial in the county courthouse.

The first thing I tell them is that most third parties are not interested in their divorce case.

The second thing I say is that most of the cases I handle resolve without the need for substantial litigation, although there may be a hearing or two along the way.

However, most recently I have found that I am trying a few more cases than usual, and I'm winning.  I'm not saying that so that readers will think: I've got to have Charlie Meyer as my lawyer.  My real point is that, while I have written in the past on the importance of professionalism and civility in the practice of law, especially in domestic relations practice, I now am finding that lawyers are taking positions they cannot possibly defend and upon which they cannot prevail.

I am reminded of the time when, as a young lawyer, I met with an "experienced" (read "older") lawyer in his storefront office to discuss a support matter.  It obviously was a case which would be decided under the Guidelines.  But to my surprise, his position was that "he didn't use 'those' guidelines".  Needless to say, we went to court, and the guidelines were applied.

This story is illustrative of what I am finding more and more in my practice.

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A SAD STORY - WHO GETS THE PARTIES' SON'S ASHES??

In Kulp v. Kulp, No. 269 MDA 2006 (Pa. Super. 3/12/07), the Superior Court was given the difficult job of deciding which party could decide where an urn containing their son's ashes would be placed.

The Trial Court ordered that the ashes be divided into two urns, and that each of the parties could decide on their own what to do with them.

After reviewing some procedural issues (i.e. whether the order was collateral), the Superior Court decided the matter, reversing and remanding the case to the trial court, with the instruction that the trial court was to follow the factors set forth in two prior matters, Pettigrew v. Pettigrew, 56 A.878 (Pa. 1904) and Novelli v. Carroll, 420 A.2d 469 (Pa. Super. 1980).

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EXTREME DIVORCE: HOW TO GET 1/2 OF THE HOUSE

Last week I posted an article on 12 things to think about before you separate.  Here's a "what not to do in a divorce"  story.

A husband in Germany, who was unable to reach an agreement with his wife as to who was to retain their summer house, got out his ruler, measured the house, cut it in half with his chain saw, and carried his half away on a fork lift.

I always say that I think I have seen it all, and then something like this comes along. 

I strongly recommend against learning from this story

Read more at CNN.

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Twelve Things To Consider Before Filing for Divorce

My fellow blogger, Al Nye, the author of Maine Divorce Law Blog, recently sent me the following article.  Its a nice primer relating to things to think about as a client in making the decision whether or not to separate and divorce. 

Al writes the following:

You know the numbers.  It's projected right now that about half of all new marriages end up in divorce.  It's a horrible statistic that doesn't begin to suggest the emotional and financial strain that it puts on families.  Other than the death of your spouse, divorce is probably the most stressful event you'll ever face.  I've had women discussing their divorce in my office become violently ill.  I've seen hardened fishermen cry in open court during their divorce hearing.  Make no mistake – divorce is hell.

 

So what have I learned after being a lawyer for nearly 30 years and helping many folks go through this difficult process?  If you believe that a divorce is in your future, here are 12 things think about:

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Social Security Set-Offs

In Rimel v. Rimel, 913 A.2d 289 (Pa. Super. 2006), the Superior Court addressed an issue of first impression: whether husband was entitled to a social security set-off against the value of his Federal CSRS pension where he had worked not only for the federal government, but also in jobs through which he did contribute to the social security system.

The Court decided that Husband was entitled to such a set-off, but remanded the matter for additional testimony, as the facts had not been developed which would allow for the determination of what amounted to be a "partial set-off".

The Court cited the following cases:

Cornbleth, 580 A.2d 369 (Pa. Super. 1990)

Twilla, 664 A.2d 1020 (Pa. Super. 1995)

The Court distinguished the following cases:

Elhajj, 605 A.2d 1268 (Pa. Super. 1992)

McClain, 693 A.2d 1355 (Pa. Super. 1997)

SAME SEX MARRIAGE: ONCE YOU GET MARRIED, HOW DO YOU GET DIVORCED??

Massachusetts is the only state to permit same-sex marriages.  So what happens when the residents of another state go to Massachusetts, get married, and then decide to get divorced.  Because the couple lives in another state, there is no jurisdiction over the divorce in that state.  So will the parties' home state take juridiction over the divorce.

The Rhode Island courts now must decide that issue.  Stay tuned.

To read more about this issue, see the article on CNN

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Jailed Delaware County Lawyer Makes CNN

H. Beatty Chadwick, a corporate attorney, has been jailed for contempt since 1994 in Delaware County, Pennsylvania.  It is alleged that he transferred more than $2.0 million off-shore, and that he has refused to return the funds despite being ordered to do so by the Court.  Now he has made national news, as CNN issued a report on the story on September 17, 2006.  To read more, click here to see the CNN article.

No Divorce After Death

Where a Pennsylvania Dentist was murdered just days before signing the documents necessary to finalize his divorce, the Court found that the request of his Estate for the divorce to be granted posthumously must be denied.  In so holding, the Blair County judge quoted from a 1927 case, stating:

"A man can no more be divorced after he is dead than he can be married or condemned to death. Marriage is the union of two lives which can be dissolved either by death or by process of law, but after it has been dissolved in one of those ways, you cannot dissolve it again; you cannot untie a knot which has already been untied, ..."

To read more, see the article in the Pittsburgh Tribune-Review.

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Retaking Maiden Name

For various reasons, a woman may want to re-take her maiden name after a divorce.  Interestingly, under the Section 704 of Title 54 of the Pennsylvania Code, a person party to a divorce may resume using her prior surname (last name) prior to or subsequent to the entry of the divorce decree.  A judge does not even have to sign the form.  Most people thought the divorce had to be final before this could be done, but a few years ago the law was changed.  The form is a simple one, and is filed with the Prothonotoary in the county where the decree was issues.

Once the form is filed, a "time-stamped" copy needs to be given to official agencies, banks, etc. in order for the "new name" to be used.  The things you will want to change include:

  • social security
  • drivers' license
  • bank accounts
  • credit cards
  • children's school records
  • medical records, including health insurance cards
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Line of Credit: Should Your Spouse Be Able to Use It?

A line of credit on a house can be a dangerous thing.  Parties may have secured the line during their marriage, but may not have used it, or only used part of it.  Then they separate.  Who is responsible for the payment?  Can either party write a check from the line?

The party living in the home secured by the line has everything to lose.  Think about this:

  • If there is a huge line on the house, since the party in possession of the house is presumed to be responsible for paying the mortgage and any other similar expense, this may be a huge added bill that has to be paid each month.
  • If the line exists but has not been drawn down, the party in possession of the house does not want the other party to create a debt for which he/she may be responsible.

What can be done to protect yourself in this situation? 

  • Control the check book for the Line.  Simple, but effective.
  • Freeze the Line - Call the bank and find out what can be done.
  • Close the Line - This may require paying the balance, but it can be done.
  • Find out if the bank will permit the Line to be modified so that two signatures are required to draw.
  • Seek a an agreement from the other party that no draws will be taken.  If no agreement can be reached, a Court Order may be necessary.

Not everything necessarily requires legal action.  Sometimes common sense can save the biggest headaches.

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