SOME PRACTICAL ADVICE ABOUT MONEY

There are two reasons family law will always be a busy area of practice.  The reasons are that there are two subjects we do not teach in school: conflict resolution and money management.  If people could manage their money or the conflict in their lives, the divorce business would be in for a major downturn.

Practical financial advice is hard to come by.  And we say this with some authority because we have been looking for professionals who understand household finance.  Yes, there are thousands of publications out there that will tell you how to ladder certificates of deposit or dollar cost average your way into index funds.  But, how much you spend on a car or an apartment often determines whether you have any money to invest at all.

Ironically, we found some sensible and practical advice in the September, 2009 issue of Glamour Magazine.  No kidding.  Wedged in between Jessica Simpson’s views on men and three flat belly secrets we found an article by Sophia Banay supported by a woman named Galia Gichon who founded something called “Down to Earth Finance.”  The magazine is worth buying for all of the advice but the segment we particularly liked was the part discussing how to budget a $50,000 income.  Gichon breaks down expenses into four categories. She takes the budget and converts to monthly income of about $4150.  She appears to allow for income taxes although that number is not discussed.  But her breakdown is divided between:

    Fixed expenses that don’t change monthly                         $1665 a month

    Discretionary living expenses                                             $830-970 a month

    Retirement savings                                                            $417 a month minimum

    General Savings                                                                 $140-280 a month

Gichon comments that fixed expenses including rent, utilities and car payments should not consume more than 60% of your net income (gross income less income taxes).  She suggests that rent or mortgage payments should not exceed half of the fixed expense budget, although this can be a tough assignment in many urban parts of this country. But if that is where life takes you, the answer may be that you don’t drive the same car or limit your discretionary expenses.

Obviously, it is also possible to forego general savings, especially in a world where you are already saving for retirement.  The article suggests that discretionary expenses be limited to 30% of net pay.  This is where the weak tend to falter at the altar of clothing stores, restaurants and Starbucks.  Another contributor to the article, Maria Bartiromo of Closing Bell on CNBC sagely offers that you allow yourself a day before making any major discretionary purchase.  Time afford perspective and you may actually discover that television is almost as enjoyable on the 30 inch flat screen even though the 42 inch beckons.

The article also addresses the subject of debt.  In the past the standard advice is that you need to save three to six months income to cover you for the “rainy day” of illness or unemployment.  Today, consumer credit may fill in the gap, but we are finding that many people are already using their cards to fund expenses they can’t afford long before the rain day ever comes.  These are folks who simply cannot survive if a crisis emerges because they are already deep in high rate debt.

The goal is to budget but before you can intelligently budget you must first be thoroughly familiar with what you bring home and what you currently spend.  It is not a pretty task but people who want to have money when they stop working had better address the question sooner rather than later no matter what their marital status.

LIENS ON REAL ESTATE; WHAT ARE THEY AND HOW DO THEY WORK

This short memorandum will send any competent real estate lawyer into fits of hysteria. Lien law is some of the most complex real estate law one can encounter. But ordinary people bang into these kinds of problems every day and especially so when parties are separated from one another.

There are three ways to own property with another individual in Pennsylvania. Be careful at the outset, because you can also own property as a limited liability company (LLC) a partnership (either general or limited) or as a shareholder in a corporation. But where individuals hold property with others they usually do so in three ways:

                                Tenancy in common

                                Joint Tenancy with right of survivorship

                                Tenancy by the entireties

A tenancy in common means that our interests are completely divisible. If you and I own a bank account or a piece of real estate as tenants in common and one of my creditors gets a judgment against me, that creditor can seize my interest in the asset through proceedings to enforce the judgment. If we have a bank account with $1000 in it and we own it as tenants in common 80% me and 20% you, a judgment for taxes, child support, or any other kind of debt allows the creditor to seize my 80% interest to satisfy the judgment against me. He cannot get at your 20% interest but if we have a house together or we own a race car, the creditor can seize the asset, sell it to satisfy his lien and turn over to you 20% of the proceeds. Goodbye race car.

A joint tenancy is an estate planning device. We own the property together but if either one of us dies, the survivor gets the whole of the asset. We own the $100,000 race car we share. I die. You get it even though I put up $80,000 and you $20,000. Most tenants in common and joint tenants hold equal shares but they can make the percentages whatever they want. It is also not a device limited to two owners. A hundred people can own a joint interest in property if they want. Usually, that does not occur.

Now suppose the two of us own a race car and my ex-wife gets a judgment against me for failing to pay child support. She can take her judgment and use it so sever the joint tenancy just as she would with a tenancy in common. It just requires the extra step of breaking apart the joint tenancy. In the end, our race car is sold and she will get her judgment from the 80% of the proceeds that are mine.

Tenancy by the entireties is a joint tenancy between a husband and wife. No one else can qualify for this status. Unlike joint tenancy, the only person or entity that can break apart a tenancy by the entireties and sell the asset it owns is someone who has a judgment again both my wife and me. Let us say my current wife and I own the race car. I don’t pay my child support or my taxes. My ex-wife can’t get a judgment against my current wife. She does not owe child support. I do. So she might have a judgment for a million dollars. The law says she can’t get to our race car (new wife and me).

But suppose my current wife and I don’t pay our taxes. We file jointly but we just don’t send the money in. Now the tax authority has a claim against both of us because it is a joint obligation we both owe. They can get a judgment for what is owed and execute on the race car, because the debt, like the car is held as tenant by the entireties. If we filed our taxes separately, the answer is quite different. We don’t owe the taxes joint then, we owe them separately.

Husband and wife own a house. Usually they will have title as tenant by the entireties. Husband leaves wife and runs off to Las Vegas. He signs $100,000 worth of gambling markers and promptly loses all the money. Can the casino come after the house? No. That’s husband’s debt; Not joint debt even though the parties are not legally separated. Suppose wife get s angry at Mr. Gambler and buys a $25,000 ring on her American Express card. Can Amex get to the house? Again, no, unless the credit card is a joint card. Suppose the Amex card is a privilege card; meaning that Husband is the card holder and Wife is an authorized user. Curiously, no. Wife is not legally obligated to American Express unless she signed the agreement with American Express as well. So husband and wife could be back in the house; he with a gambling hangover and she with a beautiful new ring. But neither the casino nor the card issuer can force the sale of the home to get the debt paid.

A question we commonly are asked is whether one party can put the house in jeopardy by taking out a mortgage. The short answer is that where a home is owned as tenants by the entireties, it takes two to make the tango. No bank will issue a mortgage (which is to say lend money) on an entireties house unless BOTH parties sign the mortgage. So what if one party fraudulently signs the other parties name without his or her permission (known in the industry as a windshield signature). That’s not a valid mortgage and the risk ordinarily is taken by the lender. The lender has the duty to take precautions to insure that the signatures are legitimate.

Having fun yet? Here are a couple other wrinkles we see where clients have made trouble they failed to recognize. Many young couples these days like to buy their homes before tying the knot. If they close on the property before the wedding day, they CANNOT take title as tenants by the entireties. Reason: they are not married. And a subsequent marriage does not change the status of the ownership. So, when wife defaults on her student debt or her car loan, the creditor may be able to get to the house and force it to be sold.

A second extra credit problem we are seeing more of. Husband and wife are married. They want a house at the shore. Husband has bad credit. Wife has good credit. The lender does not want anything to do with husband. What they will do is make the loan to wife only.  She will sign the promissory note for $500,000. But they will make both husband and wife sign the mortgage if they want the property to be tenancy by the entireties.  Husband and wife own the property together.  But only she is on the note and can be sued for it.  Should she default, the lender will have the right to take a judgment against her in accordance with the note, but the mortgage says that it is collateral for the note even though husband is not on the note.  Husband does not owe the $500,000 but he pledges whatever interest he had in the shore home to the mortgage company. What we call mortgages are actually two separate transactions done at the same time.  Lenders who give you money make you sign a promissory note to pay it back.  That is itself an “unsecured transaction” because there is nothing to “secure” your promise to pay.  But if the lender demands collateral (such as a house, boat, car, aircraft) the mortgage is a document by which you pledge the asset in what is now a secured transaction (the object is the security).  You don’t need to be on the debt itself to pledge an asset.  If your no good brother in law borrows $50,000 from a bank, they may tell him he must get a guarantor who will pledge assets to secure the debt.  When your bride comes crying to you that her nieces and nephews will be on the street unless the two of you are willing to help, just remember it could be your house that gets sold when brother in law defaults.

          

Now wasn’t that fascinating.  Even we don’t think so.  But this is important stuff to know.

A Divorce Lawyer's Dilemma

A Client calls you at midnight obviously distressed. It is your observation that the client may have taken prescribed drugs which she has now combined with some alcohol. She claims that she is anxious as a result of Husband’s abusive language and his daily barrage of threats. The parties have one minor child; and Wife is the primary custodian of him. Custody is an issue in the case. What to do? 

A good divorce lawyer is always a legal advisor first; but, at times, may also function as a priest, rabbi or psychologist. In a situation like this where custody is an issue and when the client may do something (potentially) “dramatic”, what is the responsibility of the lawyer? Should he notify the police? Call neighbors? Call the client’s relatives? Do nothing? 

The Cannons of Professional Responsibility state, in part, that a lawyer should not reveal information relating to a client except if he believes to the extent reasonably necessary that it will prevent certain death or substantial bodily harm. In this instance, after speaking to the client for over one hour on the telephone, the lawyer believed that there was no immediate danger and reasonably believed that certain death or substantial bodily harm would not likely occur. 

However, what if it was otherwise? If the lawyer called the police then that might be “the ball game” for the pending custody action (ending negatively for the client). If the lawyer didn’t call the police and misjudged the client’s mental health; and, “substantial bodily harm” resulted, then, everyone, including the lawyer, would be second guessing himself/themselves. Not a good situation! All that one can do is to exercise good judgment in the moment.

Why You Need a Divorce Lawyer, Whether You Are A Lawyer or A Client

Divorce ("Family") Lawyers are a strange breed.  Usually, they strongly believe in love, marriage, and protecting children in unhappy homes. Yet they spend their day giving advice to angry, sad, depressed or hopelessly in love clients as family ties are unraveling. It has been said that a good divorce lawyer is part lawyer, part psychologist and part clergy. A good divorce lawyer also is indispensable if you are contemplating a divorce (or, for lawyers, if your client is doing so).

Why not a commercial litigator? A personal injury lawyer? A tax and estates lawyer? Not because you will save money—because you will not! An experienced divorce lawyer will already be aware of the issues likely to arise in your case. There is no learning curve. This divorce lawyer knows the court rules and the court personnel. She knows the other practitioners in her area of expertise.  She knows the best appraisers (real estate, jewelry, pensions, etc.), the best therapists, and the best tax lawyers for this case.

Your divorce lawyer also brings certain unique skills to the case. He negotiates in a way that is designed to lessen antagonism with your child’s other parent, while still vigorously protecting your rights. He gives you advice that is geared to your family situation, not just your financial needs. Your divorce lawyer is experienced in custody issues, including counseling, scheduling, abuse and other areas that commercial lawyers do not handle.

If you have a great lawyer who is not a divorce lawyer, she/he can still be involved in your case as an advisor. Good lawyers and good friends should always be part of your team, but the coach needs to be a divorce lawyer.

Clients Can Help - 14 Tips for the Client Going Through a Divorce

Like most litigants, the end result and the cost of legal representation are among the most important concerns of anyone involved in a family law dispute. With these concerns in mind, clients frequently ask me if there is anything they can or should be doing to reduce the time I need to spend on their case or to help move things forward. The answer is a resounding “Yes!”  Here are 14 tips on how to be a good family law client and, at the same time, help your attorney achieve the best possible result without incurring excessive cost:

  1. In advance of the first meeting with your attorney, assemble as much relevant documentation as possible. For instance, in a typical divorce case, this would include (at a minimum) complete copies of recent tax returns, pay stubs for both you and your spouse, a detailed list of all assets and liabilities, and any legal paperwork already filed and/or served upon you.
  2. Speaking of documentation, organize every piece of paper that you give to your attorney.  Documents should be stapled, labeled and assembled in an orderly fashion.  Keep in mind that your attorney and his/her staff will do whatever is necessary to organize the documentation that you provide to him/her if you don't do so. It will, however, take time and cost money.
  3. Keep a detailed diary of all significant events pertaining to your case and make sure to share copies with your attorney. A "Week-at-a-Glance" calendar often serves this purpose well.  This may be especially important in a custody case.  Your memory may fade with time, but a well-kept diary can be used to refresh your recollection prior to and/or during a hearing.  Additionally, your attorney can use your diary to assist in preparing your testimony in advance of a hearing.
  4. A picture is worth a thousand words.  Besides documenting things in your diary, document what you can with photographs and/or videos.  For instance, if you decide to move out of the marital residence, take photographs of the condition of the residence and all property that you left behind.
  5. Ask questions.  There is no such thing as a stupid question.  More often than not, questions from clients are highly relevant and serve as a basis for helping to frame out the issues and develop strategies.
  6. If you need to discuss non-legal issues with someone, you may not want to call your attorney.   His/her hourly rate is probably much higher than a therapist's, and the therapist probably is better equipped to handle the issue.  While your attorney may be a very good listener, it will be to your economic and emotional advantage to discuss non-legal issues with your therapist, family members, friends, priest, rabbi, pastor, etc. 
  7. Do your best to pay your attorney’s bills on a timely basis.  If you cannot pay a bill within a reasonable amount of time, call your attorney and ask to work out some payment arrangements.  If you are making a genuine effort, most attorneys will be understanding and work with you.
  8. Promptly respond to calls and inquiries from your attorney. If it was not important, your  attorney would not be contacting you. Furthermore, if you are not being responsive to your attorney, he/she will have no choice but to spend his/her time and your money trying to get a response. 
  9. When you leave a message for your attorney (either on voicemail or through a secretary) leave your phone number and the time when you will be available to speak. While your attorney likely has your number, it will take less time for your attorney to call you back if he/she does not have to find your number. This is especially true if your attorney is not in his/her office. 
  10. If you have left messages for your attorney and have not received a response in a reasonable period of time, realize that there is probably a good reason why he/she has not returned your call (i.e., tied up in court or meetings, or handling an emergency situation). If the reason for your call is of an urgent nature, do not hesitate to explain the situation to your attorney’s secretary and/or ask if you can speak with another attorney in the firm. If your call is not urgent, ask your attorney’s secretary when she expects the attorney to be available so that you can call again or ask if an appointment can be placed in the attorney’s calendar for a phone conference. 
  11. Do not believe everything that you hear from your spouse, family and friends as it pertains to your case and the law. Even though your spouse may act like he/she is trying to be accommodating, the reality is that he/she is likely out to get the best possible result for himself/herself. Similarly, realize that every case is different. Just because your friend’s cousin got a particular result does not mean that you will get a similar result. 
  12. Do not sign or agree to anything without first speaking with your attorney. Attorneys are usually in favor of parties speaking and trying to reach amicable resolutions between themselves. An attorney, however, can and will help you determine if the terms discussed are in your best interest. There is nothing wrong with telling the opposing party that you need some time to think about it and will get back to them after speaking with your attorney. If the opposing party is pushing you to sign something on the spot, be suspect. 
  13. Be discreet and resist the urge to deliberately annoy or antagonize your spouse. If you do or say something that you know will annoy your spouse, be prepared for appropriate retaliation. Also be prepared to pay your attorney who will, no doubt, get a call from the opposing counsel when your spouse calls to complain about your behavior. 
  14. Last, but not least, be candid and truthful with your attorney. Attorneys do not like surprises. If your Attorney is well-informed, he/she can be fully prepared to deal with potentially damaging information if and when it is raised by the other side.

 

 

Another Medical Tip on a Legal Blog: Its Good for Your Health to Argue with Your Spouse??!!

I blogged last week about an article in the Philadelphia Inquirer that discussed a study that said it was good for your blood pressure to be in a healthy marriage.

Today CNN reported on a study that shows that one way to reduce your risk of death is to argue with your spouse.  Obviously, I'm being a little facetious, but the study looked at 192 couples over a period of more than 15 years, and concluded that spouses "who kept their anger in when unfairly attacked did not live as long as those who expressed their anger". 

The key is communication.  I am often asked what I believe is the main cause for couples divorcing, and the expected answer always is adultery.  But having practiced for 20 years, I really believe that the most common cause for divorce is a lack of communication.  People just don't talk about the issues, let them fester, and then spiral downward into divorce. 

Now there's a study that says divorce may not be the worst thing that happens to you if you don't express your feelings to your spouse.

The full article can be found if you click here.

Marriage is Good for Your Health

Although not really related to the practice of domestic relations law, I read an article in the Philadelphia Inquirer on March 21, 2008 that reported on a study  conducted with respect to the effect of a good marriage on blood pressure.  The results were that happily married people had the lowest blood pressure, followed by single people.  However, those in a stressful marriage brought up the rear.  It was not a huge study (204 married people and 99 single adults), but interesting nonetheless.

Click here to read the full article in the Philadelphia Inquirer.

The Family Law Attorney's Secretary

I work very closely with my secretary.  She is my “left and right hand”.  I could not be the attorney I am without her.  And I know, because there was a period of time when she was not with me.  In any event, I asked her to take a shot at a blog regarding the misunderstandings clients may have when it comes to her duties and responsibilities. In the spirit of the New Year, and as a type of New Year's Resolution, here is her “partially tongue in cheek” response:

  1. Clients should not ask me to answer legal questions. I will relay all of your messages to my boss, but I can’t answer legal questions. The title “Legal Secretary” does not mean I can offer advice.
  2. I give my boss all of the clients’ messages. Clients will not get a faster response if they leave 50 “Call me back” messages as opposed to one. If he hasn’t called you back, it means he’s in court or a meeting.
  3. Please don’t ask me to take down a two page message. While I am sympathetic to what all of our clients are going through, I cannot possibly relate to my boss the detail of an incident. Another option would be to leave him a detailed voicemail.
  4. Please do not state to me that you think the attorney is not getting his messagesI give him every message. If you think he is not getting the messages, you think I am not giving the messages to him. I really do.
  5. Thank you for being polite. I know this is an emotional time for you and speaking with your attorney probably brings up a lot of emotional issues, but I appreciate that you take the time to be polite, as I will take the time to be polite to you also.
  6. Call me by my name and let me know if I can do the same. I usually get introduced to our clients at their first meeting with my attorney, but I do not always feel comfortable calling people by their first names. If you feel it is appropriate, please feel free to tell me that I may call you by your first name. And it makes me feel good when you remember my name.
  7. Leave your phone number. I know I may ask for your number over and over and over.  I am not trying to hassle you. We have your number in the computer, but we get very busy and, especially if the attorney is returning your call from out of the office, it helps to have the number with the message.
  8. Last, but not least, don’t hesitate to send me flowers. Only kidding!!! But, if you think I did a great job, please tell me so. If you think I messed up, please tell me that also so it never happens again.

I hope that none of my clients are offended by this list.  But I think that the purpose of a blog is to offer different perspectives, and who has a better perspective on the relationship I have with my clients than my secretary.

One Family Law Practitioners Way to Ease the Stress

I have been practicing family law for over 26 years.  To ease the pressure of this practice, I resort to making rhymes about my work.  Here is one dealing with Prenuptial Agreements.

I DO

Come live with me and be my bride

To acquire an estate, to equitably divide.

Without regard to marital fault,

As well as those trinkets stashed away in the vault.

Custody of the children is our paramount concern,

For what is in their best interests we must discern

‘Cause in our state of holy matrimony,

One is also entitled to an award of alimony.

Perhaps for life, or for limited duration,

What is fair and reasonable requires explanation.

A mutual compromise is the best solution,

If not, our lawyers will guide us in the dissolution.

With endless anger, grief and fees,

The cure for this illness is worse than the disease.

So, now my love, be not remiss,

In this your opportunity for wedded bliss.

Siblings, Not Just Spouses, May Be Subject to Abuse

In a recent decision, the Superior Court of Pennsylvania found that siblings not just spouses may be subject to abuse and, therefore, afforded the protections set forth in the Protection From Abuse Act in Pennsylvania (the “PFA Act”). 

In Custer v. Cochrane, 207 Pa. Super. 290 (filed September 25, 2007), the parties were siblings who were both employed in the family business and worked together for over 35 years. One sibling was the Office Manager and served as Secretary/Treasurer of the corporation, and the other sibling was the President of the corporation.  The allegations made by the sister were that her brother made verbal and physical threats, and that there actually were incidents of physical violence at the business.

In ruling that there was abuse and that the sister was entitled to protection under the PFA Act, the Superior Court rejected a prior line of cases which held that abusive behavior between siblings related to business was not subject to the PFA Act, as the parties did not reside in the same household.  The Superior Court noted that the definition of those entitled to protection under the PFA Act had been expanded by the legislature and that even though these parties were not members of the same household, they were related by “consanguinity” and that the PFA Act now encompasses relationships outside the strictly domestic sphere.  The parties were more than simply feuding business partners.  They were siblings linked by a biological relationship; and, that, a sibling seeking protection from the other because of physical violence (if justified) would be protected pursuant to the PFA statute. 

This case is striking in that it expands the protections afforded by the Act.  It also amplifies the fundamentals of the Act in that individuals are not allowed to redress their wrongs by threats, abusive conduct, or other actions (threatened or actual).

WHY A PRENUP?

Couples planning to marry often want to know if they need a Pre-Nuptial Agreement (also known as an Antenuptial Agreement). One may ask their estate or corporate lawyer what he or she thinks and the answer may be "yes" in many situations, but three very common ones are if:

  1. It is a second marriage for at least one of the spouses and there are children of one or both people who will inherit instead of the spouse, 
  2. If there is an existing business to be kept out of the marriage, or 
  3. If the parties about to marry do not want to share their assets or the increases in value of those assets after they marry. Frequently, people want to protect their homes or their retirement accounts for themselves or their children.

If the parties fit into these general categories, they may benefit from such a Pre-Nuptial Agreement.

For such an agreement to be valid in Pennsylvania, there must be full and fair disclosure of all of the assets and liabilities owned by each party and a knowing waiver of rights without undue duress. Duress in Pennsylvania is the threat of physical force, not one party saying to cancel the wedding unless the document is signed. Although not required, the best way to ensure that these requirements are met is for each person to have their own lawyer, to sign such an agreement at least 30 days before the wedding, and to have all the assets, their values, and the basis for the valuations, listed in the document. Once properly executed, the document is a contract, the same as if you were buying a house - and its enforceable.

If all of this sounds too expensive or too complicated, the chances are the parties do not need the Pre-Nup!

WELCOME TO THE NEWEST FOX ROTHSCHILD BLOGGERS

Prior to today, all of the posts on the Fox Rothschild Family Law Blog have been authored by me.  But as of today, I am proud to welcome many of the other fine lawyers in our group as bloggers.  The posts will be insightful, intelligent and will provide a resource for clients, practitioners, and anyone else interested in family law issues.  Check back often - and if you have any questions, or would like to see blogs on a specific subject, send me an email.  No guarantees, but with the breadth of experience in the Fox Rothschild Family Law Group, we will be able to address many interesting issues.

NICHOLAS A. CIPRIANI FAMILY LAW AMERICAN INN OF COURT

Today was the first Executive Committee meeting of the Nicholas A. Cipriani Family Law American Inn of Court.  The Inn is being named in honor of Judge Cipriani, one of the most respected jurists in the history of the Philadelphia Family Court.

The purpose of the Inn is to promote professionalism, ethics, camaraderie and education among the bench and bar.  There are various categories of membership, and the Inn is seeking members at all levels of experience. 

If you are interested in reading more about the American Inns of Court, the website is www.innsofcourt.org

Or email me directly, and I'll be happy to answer any questions.  If I can't, I'll forward your email to the right person so that you can get the information you need.

Not Just Civility, But Reasonableness in Practice

The new client walks in the door, obviously nervous about his or her case being the subject of a public trial in the county courthouse.

The first thing I tell them is that most third parties are not interested in their divorce case.

The second thing I say is that most of the cases I handle resolve without the need for substantial litigation, although there may be a hearing or two along the way.

However, most recently I have found that I am trying a few more cases than usual, and I'm winning.  I'm not saying that so that readers will think: I've got to have Charlie Meyer as my lawyer.  My real point is that, while I have written in the past on the importance of professionalism and civility in the practice of law, especially in domestic relations practice, I now am finding that lawyers are taking positions they cannot possibly defend and upon which they cannot prevail.

I am reminded of the time when, as a young lawyer, I met with an "experienced" (read "older") lawyer in his storefront office to discuss a support matter.  It obviously was a case which would be decided under the Guidelines.  But to my surprise, his position was that "he didn't use 'those' guidelines".  Needless to say, we went to court, and the guidelines were applied.

This story is illustrative of what I am finding more and more in my practice.

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