CUSTODY EVALUATIONS

Whenever there is a deep-seated dispute concerning which parent, if either, should have primary physical custody of a child, a question commonly asked is whether the Court should have the benefit of a formal custody evaluation.  These studies, most often undertaken by psychologists, attempt to evaluate the relative parenting skills of the parents and seek to measure those skills against the perceived needs of the subject child.  The rules of civil procedure authorize courts to order such studies either by agreement or the request of one party. Technically, because these studies involve expert opinions, each party is entitled to his or her own expert.  But Courts actively discourage this not only because the evaluations are expensive (typically $5000-7500) but because experts separately hired by each parent tend to be viewed as “hired guns” for their employers.  The vast majority of such studies are jointly undertaken by neutral evaluators who is tasked to identify what custody arrangement would be in the best interests of the child involved.

The typical evaluation follows a fairly routine protocol.  Most evaluating psychologists send each parent a packet of information intended to secure a history of the individuals, their families of origin (i.e., their parents), the relationship that gave birth to the child and what has transpired since that relationship dissolved.  They will commonly ask for collateral contacts who can verify the accuracy of the information submitted.  If either parent is already involved with a mental health professional, the evaluator will typically ask permission to discuss the matter with the treating professional (e.g., psychologist, psychiatrist, counselor or social worker).  Having secured this information the next step is ordinarily a face to face interview with each parent conduct without the other parent present.  At some point in the process many psychologists want to see the dynamics of both parents together in the same room.  Some like to observe this early in the evaluation; others make it a last step before completing their reports.

Except in instances where the child is too young to effectively communicate, most evaluators want to separately interview each child involved.  They may also want to see the child interact with each of his or her parents either in the evaluators office or in the home where that the parent and child occupy.  The children are often tested using tests directly intended to help the evaluator determine which parent the child is more closely bonded with.

Parents are also commonly tested using devises like the much joked about Rorschach ink blot test and the MMPI (566 yes/no questions that seem pretty bizarre when you read them).  These tests are intended to assess whether either parent has a diagnosable mental condition.

So what comes out of all this. In the vast majority of cases, not much beyond a lengthy written report.  First, most people don’t have a diagnosable mental disorder and in many situations we read that much of the supposed aberrant behavior is attributed to a kind of “divorce syndrome.” The stress of separation and custody litigation does often cloud judgment and create reactive parenting. Second, even people who have mild disorders can still be very effective parents.  Beyond the testing, many judicial officers don’t find the reports very helpful, especially as children grow to be old enough to articulate their own views.  But despite these limitations clients and many attorneys continue to believe that these reports can “win” the case and Courts are inclined to permit evaluations to go forward often because there is hope that a custody evaluation will provide a springboard to case settlement.

"Not Another Brittany Spears Article"

No, this is not about Brittany Spears, but it is about how courts determine custody arrangements between two parents who cannot agree.

The legal determination that a court must make is what is in the best interest of the child. This gives the court a lot of power and each custody case is different because each child and each set of parents are different. If you want to know how to lose custody—read all about Brittany.

If you’d like to improve your chances of having a lot of time to spend with your child or children, try everything you can to co-operate with the other parent and NEVER speak badly about that person when your child is around.

When these things do not work, the court will want to know about your rules for the child. No rules—no primary custody. Your job is to parent your child, not be her/his best friend. Along these same lines, the court will want to know how often you meet with the teacher, take your kid to the doctor and dentist, and how many activities and sports events you attend.

The court will also want to know if your schedule will help your child maintain his/her activities and friends, or whether it disrupt the child's schedule. The court will want to talk with your child, but not to find out where the kid wants to live, but rather what kind of kid this is and how happy/unhappy this child is as a result of having to go to court because the parents can’t reach an agreement.

Helpful witnesses for you would be people who have seen you interact together and have no bias. Your mother will always lie for you. Teachers, coaches, neighbors and therapists will not. 

The best way to win a custody battle is to stay out of court.  One day your child will be old enough to decide what she/he wants to do every weekend. That’s when fairness, love and compromise pay off!