People get irrational and they can’t see straight when they are going through a contentious custody battle. Oftentimes emotions get in the way of what is the best interests of the children – not on purpose of course – but because the situation is so "heated." Sometimes it helps to take a step back. The link below is to an article that gives you the steps to take a step back. They are helpful tips when thinking long term strategy with custody situations. Most likely, you are going to have to deal with your child’s other parent for a long time – so it would be advantageous to figure out how to do it early. Here’s the link:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/julie-a-ross-ma/for-divorce-and-joint-cus_b_911612.html