I think it should extend to those who are newly separated as well.  The holidays are a difficult time when you are newly separated.  The emotions are fresh, and you might not have worked out the nuisances of the holiday custody schedule.  And it’s an adjustment from "sharing" a holiday together to "sharing" a holiday apart.  I think that the article does a great job of suggesting things that will help you through the holiday season – particularly being flexible, thinking about the other party, having a good attitude and providing service to those in need.  Although it is a difficult time, it is good to put it in perspective.  It will help you get through the holidays more easily, and it will be better on your children as well.