I blogged last week about an article in the Philadelphia Inquirer that discussed a study that said it was good for your blood pressure to be in a healthy marriage.

Today CNN reported on a study that shows that one way to reduce your risk of death is to argue with your spouse.  Obviously, I’m being a little facetious, but the study looked at 192 couples over a period of more than 15 years, and concluded that spouses "who kept their anger in when unfairly attacked did not live as long as those who expressed their anger". 

The key is communication.  I am often asked what I believe is the main cause for couples divorcing, and the expected answer always is adultery.  But having practiced for 20 years, I really believe that the most common cause for divorce is a lack of communication.  People just don’t talk about the issues, let them fester, and then spiral downward into divorce. 

Now there’s a study that says divorce may not be the worst thing that happens to you if you don’t express your feelings to your spouse.

The full article can be found if you click here.